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You and your dad have a long road ahead of you but if you both believe he can beat his cancer, then he can. Attitude is everything. But your dad is the one that has to fight; the best thing you can do for him is to be by his side and support him all the way.

I'm in the same exact situation as you but my father died 2 weeks ago. Im also 28 years old and my father was 60. He was diagnosed last November with Spindel Cell Cancer of the thymus gland. It's the most rare form of cancer you can get and of course my father got it. Of all the people out in the world today why us?? Why are families?? Those are the questions I ask myself everyday and I'm sure you do too. Noone has those answers which really sucks and I come to find out that doctors don't always have answers either. The last year of mine and my families life was a living hell. My dad was in and out of hospitals, operations, radiation. You name it he had it. Was in ICU on a ventalator for 9 weeks and that's when the cancer spread to his liver. We found that out on July 24, they told us radiation wouldnt work, he was too weak to be operated on, and he had 6 months to live and July 31 we had to make the hardest decision of our lives. We choose instead of letting my dad come home and have to tell him that the cancer spread and watch him die, we would take the vent off and watch him die peacefully in the hospital. Nothing can prepare you for that and the things that people tell you go in one ear and right out the other. I feel like im in a total nightmare everyday and I cant wake up. With the good help of great friends and family I made it through the past 2 weeks. Who's telling what the future has for me but I know my dad would not want me to give up and throw in the towel. Sometimes I want to so bad but I know he's watching down on me. I have to move on and live my life to the fullest everyday because tomorrow is not ours to live. I pray for you and for the strength that you will need in the upcommin months. Noone said it was easy and crying comes second nature to me now. Their is not enough tears in the world right now for me, obviously im a girl. But if you want to talk wright me back and I'll listen and answer any questions you have.

Hi there. I was in your situation just over a year ago. My dad was diagnosed with lung cancer in May 2002. It was inoperable and they only gave him three months to live. He was given radiation to help ease the pain because the cancer had spread. The radiation part wasn't so bad. My mom had cancer a couple of years ago and she did chemo which is much worse. What I want to tell you is to keep strong but remember it will be hard but you can make it through this and you can help your dad make it through. My dad passed away in November 2002... it was very rough and you need to be prepared for that outcome

i can tell you what i have seen with my father and hopefully this will give you some hope. my dad was diagnosed 9 years ago, when he was 48 years old, (i was 16) with stage 4 non hodgkins lymphoma. he was given a 2% chance to live. the cancer was in his brain, stomach, liver, intestine, spleen, and his lymph nodes. the brain tumors were too deep to operate. that was 8 years ago. today my father is very much alive. we had the support of many people - family and friends. generally, im not a religious person at all, but i found myself talking to someone larger than myself a decent amount. the best advice anyone can give you right now i think is to never give up hope. the road is long and hard, but you will see that you will learn so much about yourselves and how strong you and your father are. my thoughts are with you.