Wife of 33 yr old rectal cancer survivor

kristi1972
kristi1972 Member Posts: 1
edited March 2014 in Emotional Support #1
I am 30 years old and just this last week (March 6 2003) my husband had a cancerous tumor removed. I am having a hard time dealing with the fact the dr told me if it wasnt for the bleeding my husband would have died from non treatment. I never thought in the world my husband at 33 would get colorectal cancer. No history in his family. And the thought if it wasnt for the fact he was bleeding the cancer would have spread and i would be raising our two kids by myself. I could really use someone to talk to about this. Any helpful advice would be greatly appreciated. My email is fka90@yahoo.com

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  • kamehameha6470
    kamehameha6470 Member Posts: 33
    #2
    Hi kristi:

    I am a breast cancer survivor. When I was diagnosed in June 2001, I was 31 and had three very young children to worry about--1, 4, 6. I just finished treatment in July 2002, but all the worry and angst about being here to raise my children still remains.

    I lost my mother to colon cancer when I was 25 and 3 months pregnant. My kid sister was only 16, and my brother had only just got home from the army 2 days before. I also lost my grandma, whom I loved dearly, when I was about 12.

    I don't know if this gives me a good understanding to be a good chat or email buddy, but if you just need a kind ear, I'm here. Just hit the little email icon, and I'm a click away.

    May God bless your husband and help heal him so he can be here to raise his babies too.

    Aloha,
    Sonja
  • sassysally
    sassysally Member Posts: 150
    #3
    hey, I am a 3 time bc survivor in 18 months in 1998 I lost my ddad, my mom to lung and liver cancer and my grandmother all while going thru chemo and radiation my self. Had at that time a 4 yr and was a single mom. If you need to talk I am here. thanks for sharing your story. god bless you all
  • dat99
    dat99 Member Posts: 5
    #4
    I am a four year survivor. I was 27 when I was diagnosed. At the time my kids were 2 and 3. I think one of the best things you can do is be there for your husband. You have to understand that he will have good days and bad days. This disease is such an emotional strugle. But while providing support for your husband you will have to make sure that you have a good source of support. I know this sounds like I am not really concerned with the feelings of the caregiver, but it is just what I went through.

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