chin-up

grandma
grandma Member Posts: 162
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
Have been telling all to keep their chin up and fight this beast we're all fighting. It's hard right now, hubby has prostate cancer for 2 yrs . now it has met. in the bone.goes to the Dr. Mon. to see what treatment is next.
I'm getting a body scan Wed.and Thurs will be my first chemo treatment.
Am keeping up a good front for him and the rest of the Family. this is the only vent I have at the moment, please bare with me, I will try not to be so down next time.

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  • jeancmici
    jeancmici Member Posts: 665 Member
    #2
    You've got a lot to deal with right now. Vent all you want to or need to - that's why we're here - to help each other get over the humps.

    Good Luck to both of you.
    Jean
  • grandma
    grandma Member Posts: 162
    #3
    jeancmici said:

    You've got a lot to deal with right now. Vent all you want to or need to - that's why we're here - to help each other get over the humps.

    Good Luck to both of you.
    Jean

    thanks, sorry
  • inkblot
    inkblot Member Posts: 698 Member
    #4
    Hi grandma:

    You just hang in there! Your burdens are many right now and we all care very much about how you're feeling. Sometimes, venting involves a good cry...it doesn't mean
    you're falling apart. On the contrary, it can make us feel better, after which, we can hitch up our pants, stick out our chins and
    cope a little better.

    Putting up a front has got to be tough...you MUST have outlets where you can be yourself, express yourself and find your emotional way. We gain strength thorough love and
    support, so remember to also love yourself and take the time to have your own needs met.

    We're all happy that you've joined us on this site but please don't let us be your only source for venting and support. Gather every resource that seems of help to you right now. Most treatment centers/hospitals have an oncology social worker on staff and they're generally very helpful and good listeners. They can help you with services
    or referrals to other avenues of support too.
    Your minister/priest is another possible resource for letting it all hang out and to help in finding solutions to difficulties.
    You're NOT alone. Check out some support groups near you and give them a try too. Take advantage of whatever you're comfortable with which is helpful.

    Good luck on Thurs. and please keep us posted.

    Love, light and laughter,
    Inkblot
  • cruf
    cruf Member Posts: 908
    #5
    Hi Grandma! So sorry you and your husband have to go through all this especially at the same time.It's a long tough fight but you can do it!Don't worry about putting on a front for your family. Worry about taking care of yourself as you will need alot of strength. Do what you're told!I will keep you and your husband in my thoughts and prayers. Keep in touch . We are all here to help and lead you through your treatments. E-mail me at anytime! HUGS!! Cathy
  • sueholm
    sueholm Member Posts: 205
    #6
    Grandma...you can be as down as you want...please don't apologize. You sound as if you are carrying a heavy load. Perhaps it is not so good for you to try to be the hero in the family and bottle everything up. Perhaps your husband were rather you were more normal with him and leant on him a little. As you go through your treatment you will perhaps realize how rough it is always to be treated like the invalid. Are you underestimating his strength? Aside from that, do not be too fearful about the chemo. It isn't nearly like it used to be in the old days. My advice...drink lots of water, and I mean lots!! Take care, post lots...Love Susan...18 months since diagnosis and fighting fit.
  • maud
    maud Member Posts: 178
    #7
    Hi Grandma,
    You have alot on your plate right now,so vent all you want we will all be here for you . Take one day at a time and take care of you. I will remember you and your husband in my prayers.Let us know how you are doing.
    God Bless
    Debbie
  • kat02
    kat02 Member Posts: 76
    #8
    Grandma,

    Don't be afraid to vent. I haven't figured out a way to fight this disease and not vent. I am surprised that I haven't totally worn out my best friend. However, I also know how exhausting it can be to keep a good front up. I have tried it, and it isn't easy. Try to be yourself with you husband and family. You and your husband have a trememdous amount going on, but maybe it would help both of you to share. Let us know how things go for you this week.
    Love, Prayers and hugs,

    Kat
  • pamtriggs
    pamtriggs Member Posts: 386
    #9
    So tough for you to be needing each other's support at this time. That's what marriage is all about isn't it? The good with the bad the sickness with the health. Don't try to carry all the burden though. I am sure the family are only waiting for you to say please I really need a little help here. Often they will hang back as they are scared themselves & don't know what to do for the best. Give them some direction & they will be so pleased to help. Take every bit of help offered & try not to worry. Just remember 90% of men do not actually die of prosate cancer they die with it. Good luck to you with your chemo treatments. With modern drugs to help the side effects it is not as bad as it once was believe me as I am on my fourth of second type of chemo & managing. My heart is with you both. Love & hugs. Pam

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