impotence

meadc said:

Suzanneb: It will be two years for me and I got answer from my Urolist and it took care of that pproblem for us. If you want more information, email me I will tell what we have done. my email is in my profile. Good Luck Mead

kenmc said:

Suzanne,
If you are not opposed to an internet prostate cancer support group, I would be more than happy to give you the link address to it. "The Circle" is very informative and they have offered a lot of advice to many other conerning prostate cncer, and all the dreaded side effects. I am sorry to hear about your story, ut know you have someone who can understand. If you'd like more contact me anytime and I'll find that link if you wish.

Kenneth

AnnM said:

I recently found this web site in an attempt to connect with wives of men who have had prostate cancer. Your message echos what I and my man are going through as well. It is going on 4 years for us. While we are grateful above all else that his tests continue to show no signs of re-occuring cancer, the lack of intmacy as you talk about has caused a great deal of stress. We have been married almost 25 years so we are not a weak couple. I have not found many resources that really address the issue of couples going through this and in particular wives. Possibly just connecting through this means will be helpful. Besides my husbands experience, I also had surgery for malignant tumor on my bladder. I am doing fine so far. We are both lucky however we have been "hit twice" by cancer. The bottom line is we are both longing to regain our sex life as we feel expression of our love for each other in that way will be even more special now than ever before. We have tried the pump, shots, and we are now working with Viagra. The latter is our preference however we have had only partial success with that. It is difficult for me after all this time to keep trying as so far it has always been disappointing. My husband keeps saying we have to keep trying and I just don't know how much more I can take. Also, two things seem to have happened throughout this whole experience-without the sexual intimacy it is hard for me at least to feel any other type of intimate feelings like kissing and holding hands outside the bedroom and yet if we do try "dating" type behavior, it doesn't have any real affect on the attempts in the bedroom. I have read that the difference for males and females in general even without these challenges is that females need the romance before they can attempt the sexual and that males need the sex before they can feel romantic. It seems that has reversed itself for us at this point. We keep communicating with the doctor who is telling us, like my husband, that we have to just keep trying but I wonder how he and his wife would feel after almost 4 years! We are open to sharing any thoughts/ideas.

DeeC said:

impotence and viagra
Charley,
My husband is 9 wks post davinci prostatectomy. He is doing really well. He is pleased. He has tried using viagra but cant take it. He has even tried cutting it in half but the side effects really bother him. He is reluctant to try anything else and I support him with any decision he makes.
He is able to achieve the big O, at least.
Any suggestions
D

DeeC said:

impotence
Lashun,
You said exactly how I feel also. I suffer in silence, alone. I have made a new friend at work, her husband is 8 weeks post op. I am fortunate to have someone close to me that understands what I am going through.

Are there any wives support groups on this site???

I feel your pain and know that I understand.

PC is a couples disease, wives feel the hurt, pain, and emotional rollercoaster along with their mate!! ONLY PLACE I WOULD WANT TO BE!!
D

tspoon said:

Oh to be able to talk openly
Oh to be able to talk openly with others who understand our plight. Someone who can relate.