Emotional stress getting heavy

rory
rory Member Posts: 30
edited March 2014 in Emotional Support #1
Today was a tough one. My wife and I were talking about the possibility of cancer again. I won't know for sure for another two weeks after the mammogram and PET scans. She began to cry asking why me. I have suffered thru cancer once, then a stroke, heart problems, and now this. I didn't know it but she told me that my 7 year old son asked God at the healing service, not to take me from him and began to cry. The uncertainty is grooling and very very hard. My wife asks how I am dealing with it, and I tell her I am just numb right now. I am hoping for the best and not trying to think about anything else... but how do I help my family. What if the news comes back bad. Emotionally, I am struggling.

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  • lani
    lani Member Posts: 3
    #2
    Stay positive, and be strong. Both for your family and for yourself. If you live each day as it were a normal day - a normal day before you got cancer, your kid(s) will feel like everything is going to be ok. I have breast cancer, and I have two kids, one 9 the other 9 mos. Each day I go to work, and I come home, fix dinner, help with homework, read stories etc. Just as I always have. I find that it helps me to forget my situation and stay positive as well. Hope this helped.
  • loulou
    loulou Member Posts: 65 Member
    #3
    Hi rory, it's loulou. I hate waiting! I am surpised at how long it is taking to get your test results back. I would also be going crazy. Rory I believe that God only gives us what we can handle. I am sure you have read the prayer "Footprints In The Sand", give all your worries to God, and let him carry you now. Each time we go through these "adventure's", as I call them, we somehow come out stronger, those experience's make us who we are Cancer maybe has a hold on us physically, but not mentally. It's all in how you look at it. Take this experience, and turn it into something wonderful. Being positive, and being happy deep in your soul is the greatest power you can have.
    That strenght and power will also spread to your wife, and son. We can't change what is going to happen in the end, but we can change how we look at the situation. Well, now that I have rambled on and on, I wish you lots, and lots of luck, peace and happiess. loulou
  • loulou
    loulou Member Posts: 65 Member
    #4
    Hi rory, it's loulou. I hate waiting! I am surpised at how long it is taking to get your test results back. I would also be going crazy. Rory I believe that God only gives us what we can handle. I am sure you have read the prayer "Footprints In The Sand", give all your worries to God, and let him carry you now. Each time we go through these "adventure's", as I call them, we somehow come out stronger, those experience's make us who we are Cancer maybe has a hold on us physically, but not mentally. It's all in how you look at it. Take this experience, and turn it into something wonderful. Being positive, and being happy deep in your soul is the greatest power you can have.
    That strenght and power will also spread to your wife, and son. We can't change what is going to happen in the end, but we can change how we look at the situation. Well, now that I have rambled on and on, I wish you lots, and lots of luck, peace and happiess. loulou
  • rory
    rory Member Posts: 30
    #5
    lani said:

    Stay positive, and be strong. Both for your family and for yourself. If you live each day as it were a normal day - a normal day before you got cancer, your kid(s) will feel like everything is going to be ok. I have breast cancer, and I have two kids, one 9 the other 9 mos. Each day I go to work, and I come home, fix dinner, help with homework, read stories etc. Just as I always have. I find that it helps me to forget my situation and stay positive as well. Hope this helped.

    Thanks Lani and Loulou for your listening and advice. Sometimes it helps so much to talk with someone else who can relate. I reflected a lot on what you both have said and it makes a lot of sense. I have to have faith that things will be okay in the end no matter how the tests come out, a positive attitude, and try to live life as full as I can. Thanks for being there...
  • iam1mess
    iam1mess Member Posts: 10
    #6
    rory said:

    Thanks Lani and Loulou for your listening and advice. Sometimes it helps so much to talk with someone else who can relate. I reflected a lot on what you both have said and it makes a lot of sense. I have to have faith that things will be okay in the end no matter how the tests come out, a positive attitude, and try to live life as full as I can. Thanks for being there...

    Hello,
    I am new to this site and I was reading the comments in each group and I must say, I am curious as to how the tests did come out, I pray everything is OK.
    Bless you and your family.
  • rory
    rory Member Posts: 30
    #7
    iam1mess said:

    Hello,
    I am new to this site and I was reading the comments in each group and I must say, I am curious as to how the tests did come out, I pray everything is OK.
    Bless you and your family.

    Hi! Well... my PET Scan showed no PET activity in the lungs and some small amount of activity in my colon. I have not yet met with the Doc to discuss results yet as the day following the PET scan they found on an angiogram I had a blocked vein in my chest which they later found out to be stenosis caused from prior radiation to the chest. I was hospitalized in ICU for 6 days and was only released about 10 days ago. They theorize that somehow the vein was in the field of radiation and over time developed radiation fibrosis. Great! Well, they did an angioplasty in an attempt to open it up, but this was only partially successful. The vein could not be stented due to the pacemaker wires running thru it and the risk of tearing the vein with the stent while on blood thinners. In the end the Docs told me my body was in the process of making colateral veins which would at some point relieve some of the swelling in the left arm and chest.

    I meet with my Doc on the PET scan and CT results on Thursday of this week. Hopefully, it will be good news. Do you want me to keep you posted??

    Rory
  • cgw22458
    cgw22458 Member Posts: 6
    #8
    Rory, I know exactly how your feeling but on the other end. My husband recently was diagonosed with advanced adenocarcinoma of the stomach after having a baseball size tumor removed along with half his stomach and gall bladder. We're undergoing chemo now, self-employed, and he is worrying about everything from finances to what to do with our business as well as trying his best to take care of himself. I'm not sure how to help him. Like I said, I'm on the other side, but do you have any suggestions? You say your struggling, What can your wife do that would help you the most? If you feel like chatting, I'm on the board. Thanks and good luck, try to keep your head up and may God strengthen you and bless you.

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