Prostate Cancer Survivor, Regrets

So. I had it out in 2019. Nothing has been the same. I have had neuropathy quite bad right after the surgery for months (doctor rejected my claims of pain and weakness in the leg for whatever reason and said my cure from cancer outweighed whatever), zero sexual anything and serious problems peeing for five years. I have had on and off again pain in the region throughout.

Am I the only one who has had these experiences? Frankly, it been one of my biggest regrets ever. I am looking for anyone who will listen. I have had no luck with doctors: other than finding bladder cancer-unrelated- while trying to fix the prostate surgery issues with a different urologist. The bladder cancer has been a breeze considering and that's involved chemo.

This may seem whiney, but its been a massive quality of life issue and I have no idea where to turn. I finally got up the courage to ask because it has just been horrible. Any thoughts or input would be great. Are there support groups? Are there any resources? Has anything worked for people that I may not have thought of or found?

Thank you.

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  • Oldernow
    Oldernow Member Posts: 47 Member

    @nermalcantswim

    I can sympathize with the side effects you have experienced. I had ADT (Lupron - 2 six month shots) starting in April of 2023. In June 2023 I had 28 radiation sessions. My PSA dropped from over 20 to <.03 and has stayed there ever since. The Lupron caused my testosterone to drop from a normal of 550 to <12 which has caused a bunch of issues.

    I was told to expect hot flashes and some weakness along with lack of libido. I had all of that plus joint issues related to the muscle weakness. I have had to seek physical therapy twice in the last year for extreme knee pain. I also developed spinal issues affecting my arms and hands. I NEVER had any of these issues before Lupron.

    Over the last six months I have developed neuropathy in both legs that "may" be due to the radiation affecting nerves in the pelvis. My testosterone has started a gradual recovery (56) a year after the last Lupron shot but I still have all the issues caused by lack of testosterone.

    I was perfectly healthy and had no symptoms from the prostate cancer that was local. I am beginning to regret going through all the treatments because of the negative affect it has had on my quality of life. The cancer may have been there for a long time as I had high PSA readings since the late 1990's with 5 biopsies that found nothing. The last biopsy I had was transperineal and located a couple of 3+4 areas with a moderate decipher score.

    Bottom line - I may have traded a "normal" quality of life for my age (77) for a lot of issues to treat a disease that may have stayed local for years. While the PSA staying undetectable is great, all the side effects are truly annoying.

    @Oldernow

  • Old Salt
    Old Salt Member Posts: 1,505 Member
    1. So sorry about the difficulties you both have encountered.
    2. Thank you for posting especially because there are some on this forum who are of the opposite view and express their (personal) view(s) quite forcefully.

  • Josephg
    Josephg Member Posts: 455 Member

    I'm also sorry for your experiences to date with prostate cancer (PCa). The best advice that I can give to you is to find a Medical Oncologist who specializes in PCa, and your best bet is to look in a cancer-related hospital setting, one with the best reputation in the area where you are willing to travel. A Medical Oncologist should be the leader of your PCa medical team, and they will call in other PCa specialists (Surgeons, Radiation Oncologists, etc.) as necessary to provide ongoing support and treatments for you.

    There is no question that a diagnosis of PCa is devastating and a permanent life changer; however, there is still plenty of quality of life to be had as a PCa survivor. I truly believe that once you have established a patient relationship with a Medical Oncologist, you will see an overall improvement in your outlook on life. Also remember, your are not living in a vacuum, and your view of your outlook on life is observed and felt, and it directly impacts those around you.

  • Clevelandguy
    Clevelandguy Member Posts: 1,177 Member

    Hi,

    If it was me I would get a second opinion from a different Urologist/ hospital network looking for fresh ideas. Problem peeing could be from scar tissue maybe from your Prostate surgery or your episode with Bladder cancer. Don’t give up, keep searching for answers, teaching hospital networks usually offer sometimes leading edge procedures or treatments.
    Dave 3+4

  • nermalcantswim
    nermalcantswim Member Posts: 2 *

    Thanks everyone!

    Yeah . . . I am 55 and pretty much have a non-functioning, painful undercarriage. And will have that for life. And its not to say I am ungrateful or anything (but that's what the doctor seriously implied). I feel like they can check the box for success over cancer while life just has been seriously "worse" over all. I just feel like I was very uninformed compared to the drive for that success-rate box. I may have thirty years left of pain, peeing issues, and virtually no sex other than charity. Ha ha ha.

    I think that there are differences in doctors too. My current urologist has been VERY straightforward and up front about everything. And truthfully, almost all of my issues were residual from the prostate surgery and not from the bladder cancer surgeries (so far). So maybe that's the cautionary tale: get the right doc!

    I appreciate everyone's replies. Its been great knowing I am not the only one. Its been very difficult, obviously, as there probably aren't many people that end up posting this stuff on message board while being on a winning streak!

  • phooverjr
    phooverjr Member Posts: 8 Member

    Your experience is much the same as mine. I COMPLETELY regret doing the hormone therapy. I have lost so much strength due to no testosterone. I developed severe sciatic issues with my back, making everyday life a struggle. I have no sex life to speak of, Quality of life just sucks. All of this began at the age of 52!!