Delirum

Agree with Newhere. I'm up late WORKING so there may be a little delirium setting in on myself, lol. However, think some problems can be caused by drugs. In our case the doctors might throw caution to the wind when it comes to prescribing things that can ease symptoms and say yes to whatever might take away some pain. My own father is aging and he does get confused sometimes but also he takes too many drugs IMO and it clouds his thinking.

When I am under the influence of the cancer drugs, I cannot focus at all. I fall asleep as soon as I sit. I move like a zombie. Without them, I'm a regular dad who has to take out the trash. So it is maddening. Imagine that your dad might be feeling the same way.

As far as proton therapy goes, my family is pushing me to consider this. The doctors who perform as well as my own oncologist and second opinion guy are skeptical. Will proton help? What is it going to do that RFA can't? Is it a matter of your regular doctor not wanting to do surgical interventions? Margins not right? There are a lot of questions for me. I did speak with them and they want to do an MRI before going further even though I have two CT Scans they can observe. Do they just want to charge my insurance?

I do have end of days experience with a loved one. I was relatively young and not around him as much as my mother was, but there were mental lapses and other issues outside of treatment to deal with. One question you might want to consider is how much energy, will and ability to handle these things do you have? Even if you are seeking treatment, is a hospice nurse the right person to be with your father or are you? My mother had the will but neither the energy nor the ability.

I am sorry you are going through this all. Dealing with cancer under the "best" circumstances is difficult. It seems you have a lot of doctors just throwing things at a wall to see what sticks.

It is is good to talk to the doctor when you see him. I would also search out cancer support groups in your area. The American Cancer Society can help find the resources and support you need. Lastly, find the patient advocacy department/human resources in the places your doctors are. Perhaps they can help you.

Organize everything beforehand and go in as calm as possible (I would be spitting nails at this point myself). The major health care facilities address this much more than they used to, or at least they say they do. If a department or doctor gets poor reviews, there can be blowback. Often the upper levels (HR, Administration and so on) want to know.

Though we all try our best here to help, and will continue to do so, sometimes a friendly/helpful face and voice can be of a big benefit. So if ACS, PCA and others that can help and support you locally, in should be a positive addition to the support you get here.

It seems I don't know the details of your father's condition clearly, and so then perhaps I can't offer a helpful comment. But one tumor and they are discounting surgical intervention? Has chemotherapy shrunk others? I was under the impression that the organ was overwhelmed and that was what was behind the reticence.