Greetings - New to the Group

Hello, fellow travelers. I am a 58-yr old woman w/ a 59-yr old husband with Stage IV Renal Cell cancer - metastasized to the lungs. I am very grateful to have found you all and I hope to achieve some sense of perspective by reading your experiences and sharing ours, as well.

DH was diagnosed as Stage 3 in August 2020, six months after his urologist had ordered a CT scan that was subsequently misplaced and not read. The world went into quarantine just a couple of weeks after that and my husband wasn't contacted, so he believed no news was good news. The pain that had sent him to the urologist had subsided, somewhat and the world was dealing with the pandemic. Then, last summer, the pain flared up again. When DH went back, the urologist was upset and apologetic - DH's CT scan had fallen through the cracks. The dr. had raised a stink with the hospital muckety-mucks and they were all very sorry. Then, the dr. ordered another CT, the results of which showed a good deal of growth in the mass in his kidney, and oncology was now on board. Several rounds of chemo ensued followed by a few emboli and a kidney/lymph gland resection in December. Because he rebounded so quickly from the surgery we all thought everything was fine and he was on the road to recovery. 

Within 3 weeks DH was unwell, again and subsequent scans/x-rays showed that the cancer had metastasized to his lungs. What has occurred since then are the remaining chemo treatments followed by the initiation of immunotherapy and cough medicines. He has lost more than 40 lbs and has become quite frail. Recently, the pulmonologist prescribed using a nebulizer w/ 2 steroidal meds. His cough is constant and debilitating. His head is in pain - around the temple (especially on one side) and he has chest pain, as well. Of course, the constant fatigue requires a good deal of rest, but I have become afraid that his symptoms show an imminent crisis that we are not recognizing (Heart attack? Emboli? Stroke? Aneurysm?) or that I have lost all perspective, completely. 

Thank you very much for reading the saga of our struggle with cancer. Any observations would be read gratefully. Best regards.