Big Talk On New Years Day Coming

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  • feckcancer
    feckcancer Member Posts: 189 Member
    #22
    abita said:

    Interesting. I was super

    Interesting. I was super stressed in the year and a half leading up to about the time we guess my cancer started. I was pretty far along when diagnosed, so my oncologist was only guestimating. 

    same. super stressed in a

    same. super stressed in a toxic marriage where i could do no right, + depression + rotten teeth + 1-2 packets cigs a day for years . when it all ended 3 months later i found out i had anal cancer (stage 3 + gone to my lymph nodes + can be caused by HPV virus) which is included in gut type cancers and i wonder if the depression i had for all that time was actually cancer. ?????

    i cried when i found out about that.

    anyway cancer gone, teeth fixed, depression gone ~ goes without saying toxic husband, cigs, and unhealthy lifestyle gone... made sense to me to remove the things i have been told contributes to cancer in the hope it doesn't come back and replace with things i have been told keeps cancer, stress etc away. giving up the cigs was the hardest but my fear of cancer coming back was stronger than my cravings. fix what you can & knowledge is power. 

    ps: i go to an osteopath too and totally believe in doing chemo, radiation & what your doctor tells you but also believe in helping myself too. 

  • Bellesouth
    Bellesouth Member Posts: 27
    #23
    mojogirl67 said:

    You Are An Inspiration

    I am a Southern girl myself and you make me proud to be so. I intend to live and enjoy everything that calls my name (within reason, lol). I have just made a decision not to do the chemo. I have always liked the healthy stuff anyway. My kids say I have always liked rabbit food and "weird" stuff, lol. I just finished the thickest ooiest gooiest grilled cheese ever and my secret to the crisp and the taste was good ole' Dukes mayonaise. I went by a new bakery in town today and had two of their specialty cookies as well. Earlier today I did juice which was something I did before I found out I had the cancer. I have always been a believer in the natural supplements and still do those as well as some acupuncture and Chinese herbs. So, I am finding MY balance in all of it. For me to put a port back in my chest and do chemo again would kill the spirit in me. While it MIGHT nock down the lung nodules, it would without a doubt crush my spirit and soul. It soooo much goes against the grain of what I believe in. I have respect for each of you here and what you have to do to "live" your life. This just happens to be the way I have to live mine that will give me the peace I need of mind, spirit and body. I can't begin to express how grateful I am for all of the encouragement and suggestions coming my way. You guys on this board ROCK!! I haven't "given up". I am just choosing to fight this on my own terms which I know is not the accepted "norm" for most. I continue to live a blessed and beautiful life every day I take a breath even with these damn nodules in my lungs..lol  It was beautiful in my neck of the woods today and I actually got to take a walk in them today. Truly hoping each of you found something beautiful in your own neck of the woods....Huge hug to all of you rock stars!!

    You go, mojogirl!!!

    Ooooh my sweet southern sister you are speaking my language with that grilled cheese and Duke's mayo!! I would've made myself one then & there had I not been on my way to gorge myself with shrimp, lobster, crab legs (all literally dripping butter of course) when I saw this. I def see a grilled cheese in my future for today.

    I totally understand and respect your chemo ban. I believe in my heart that you will do fabulously because we southern girls are strong, sturdy and stubborn. And when we set our minds on something, I pity the fool that tries to derail us! I'm telling you.... I'm nothing special, just hard-headed and determined. And if I can make it 5 years with 23 mets in one lung and 14 in the other, and still no symptoms, you can do even better! I fully believe it's the clean mountain air we're breathing. 

    When you meet with that doctor, if he says you don't qualify for surgery, ablation, or other procedures....nod, smile, shake his hand and thank him for all he has done. Then walk away and get busy living! You will be totally free not having appointments & tests & scans & blah blah blah. You don't have to focus on cancer, and it won't be dictating your life. Is it weird or awful for me to be happy for you? And more than a little jelly @ your trip to Ireland lol. 

    Like you, one of my mottos has always been hope for the best but prepare for the worst. At least then you won't be disappointed. One of my newer fave mottos..... it could always be worse. At least I'm not PREGNANT! 

  • abita
    abita Member Posts: 1,152 Member
    #24
    Bellesouth said:

    You go, mojogirl!!!

    Ooooh my sweet southern sister you are speaking my language with that grilled cheese and Duke's mayo!! I would've made myself one then & there had I not been on my way to gorge myself with shrimp, lobster, crab legs (all literally dripping butter of course) when I saw this. I def see a grilled cheese in my future for today.

    I totally understand and respect your chemo ban. I believe in my heart that you will do fabulously because we southern girls are strong, sturdy and stubborn. And when we set our minds on something, I pity the fool that tries to derail us! I'm telling you.... I'm nothing special, just hard-headed and determined. And if I can make it 5 years with 23 mets in one lung and 14 in the other, and still no symptoms, you can do even better! I fully believe it's the clean mountain air we're breathing. 

    When you meet with that doctor, if he says you don't qualify for surgery, ablation, or other procedures....nod, smile, shake his hand and thank him for all he has done. Then walk away and get busy living! You will be totally free not having appointments & tests & scans & blah blah blah. You don't have to focus on cancer, and it won't be dictating your life. Is it weird or awful for me to be happy for you? And more than a little jelly @ your trip to Ireland lol. 

    Like you, one of my mottos has always been hope for the best but prepare for the worst. At least then you won't be disappointed. One of my newer fave mottos..... it could always be worse. At least I'm not PREGNANT! 

    People have always told me I

    People have always told me I am strong when it comes to crisis and especially how I am handling my diagnosis. I never really understand it, but I think your post reminded me, I am a southern girl. I may have lived MOST of my adult life in Manhattan, but my formative years were in a town that at times had less than 1,000 people. As a child, you just learn to get things done.

  • phuckcancer
    phuckcancer Member Posts: 63 Member
    #25
    sending lots of love and

    sending lots of love and strength!

  • Capox Dude
    Capox Dude Member Posts: 127 Member
    #26
    Duke's mayonaise Southern Girl????

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hUFL2GT1-2g

  • mojogirl67
    mojogirl67 Member Posts: 306 Member
    #27
    Capox Dude said:

    Duke's mayonaise Southern Girl????

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hUFL2GT1-2g

    Yep..lol

    You sure gave me a chuckle...It seems it gets worse the closer you get to Charleston and Savannah..lol. I don't identify with all of their phrases but some of them I can't deny, lol. Have a wonderful day my friend and "bless your heart"!!Wink

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