Help hubby wants to end treatment early

Even HPV related disease isn't something to mess with.  If he's well enough to get your cabin opened then he's well and strong enough to tough out the treatment.  Hunting season sucks when you're dead.

Brandon

4 weeks of treatment is only 20 sessions of radiation. At 2 greys per session that is only 40 greys total. That is most likely not going to kill the cancer cells. New studies are being conducted for lowering total greys to 54 versus the max of 70 only if his cancer is HPV Positive, which you do not mention. If HPV Positive this might be an option since he is only effected in one tonsil and no lymph nodes.

Beautious3358 said:

thank you for that reply, I

thank you for that reply, I may just put it to him that way! He‘ll Get mad at me, but he will have to get over it. 

It sounds like he has HPV disease, likely had the tonsil removed and they are only prescribing radiation?  This is basically what I had done.  I didn't have chemo either because mine was caught early and they got the tumor out.  This treatment plan is the standard of care for low risk disease and is already a "lesser" course...the combination of chemo with radiation is MUCH more brutal.

I did 6 weeks of radiation and the worst of it was 2 weeks after the last treatment.  Sore throat, hard to eat crunch stuff, sunburned neck...  Everyone is different but it's really a pretty good hand to have in the gamut of things they have to do to kill the cancer.  I worked all the way through, ate by mouth all the way through.

HPV disease is very easily cured...you just have to do what they tell you.  And drink tons of water...when you can't drink any more water...drink more water.  

Good luck.

Brandon

As stated, C is nothing to mess around with and if he came back positive- then back to tx he should go. 

Over the years the one thing always advised against is to Google H&N images. Well, that only applies to people opting to go thru tx. If your Hubby wants to cut in half the tx advised by his Dr.s= have him do the Google thing. 

I also only remember the word " cure" and the statement that it was the hardest treatment to go thru, but with the best results. I was worried/ sceptical/ scared, but had to put all my faith in  my team. It worked for me..

But I understand what you are going thru with your husband. My husband is just starting treatment for the same cancer.  He is questioning, doubting, demanding second opinions, wanting more information.  Drives me nuts... he saw what I went thru. He doesnt want to do that.. but in reality, it is what it is.   Very difficult for you. Keep the positive attitude, as difficult as it is, and find yourself a support group. With us, or thru your local health care system.  I can honestly say, being on this side of the fence is more difficult on the brain!   Keep in touch, we are here for you!

My husband just finished his radiation treatments 4/24/2019 so he is 5 weeks out and he is doing great now. The 4 week mark is exactly the same time that he started trying to bargain for less treatments as well. I think it must be the worst time. That is the week that he had to get a feeding tube placed because he couldn't eat by mouth and had lost 14 pounds from starting at 159. He begged all of us to stop and absolutely did not want a feeding tube. He was having radiation and chemo which was very intense. He had a 2cm tumor in one tonsil and one lymph node. The lymph node is why he also had to have the chemo.

Please tell your husband that this is the worst time. It's like being in the middle of a tunnel. You look behind you and you see darkness, and you only see darkness in front of you, but if you keep walking soon you see the light at the end of the tunnel and it gets much easier to keep moving forward. That was a dark time for my husband, but he did get the feeding tube and inched forward (with a lot of despair and grumbling). He made it to the end 33 treatments (6.5 weeks) and felt so much better within two weeks. No more mouth sores and was able to start eating. Taste is just now coming back and he says he feels better every day since that two week post mark.

Your husband can do this, but it is the toughest time so it's understandable that he wants to get off this crazy ride. He wants the cancer gone and this is the way to do it. They can get a CURE from this treatment and that's what he should focus on. The light at the end of the tunnel is coming up and he needs to keep moving forward.

Take care of yourself as well because this was also the worst time for me. It was so stressful to have to encourage him to continue to do something that was so obviously awful, but absolutely necessary. Like childbirth, the middle can be the worst, but once you're done the pain stops.

Sending you love and a big hug.