Living Single with One Breast

I am over 65 and quit having sexual encounters LOL after my last divorce. When my right breast was removed I had to adjust in my own mind how to look at it. It had to go or I could die and I never was more than a Bcup and didn't have much use for it anymore. Luckily I am a jeans kind of gal and I don't wear a bra unless I am dressing for a Major event not just going out to eat. When I do wear a bra I use a Knitted Knocker with a silver dollar in it to give it good movement inside my sport type bra. If I lost an arm or a leg I would have to have something to help me get by, but a breast is just a cosmetic inconvenience that I don't think about much anymore.  When someone comments on it. sometimes I say "Where is it? Darn, I lost it again." and we both laugh. I think getting it rebuilt or having the other removed would be like a funeral, it isn't for the person who lost it, but mostly for other people uncomfortable with it. Everybody needs to do what makes them feel ok about it. That's just not me.  And I can deal with only getting 1/2 as many beads at Mardi Gras.

Hi, I've had breast cancer twice. The first time in 2000, I had the right breast removed with a Tram Flap reconstruction. I was fairly thin back then. My recurrance was in the reconstructed breast, so had a lumpectomy, chemo and radiation. I've since gained some weight and now have to wear a prostetic breast to even them out.

My first diagnosis, I was just engaged to my now husband. I gave him an out, but he stayed. The second diagnosis, the same thing. He told me it wasn't my breasts he wanted to be with. This all started for me when I was 37. I will be 56 in April. If I had to do it all over again, I'd rather just have had both breasts removed and no reconstruction. Everything went well for me, but at this age, boobs and bras are just a pain. As soon as I'm home from work, I can't wait for the bra to come off and my husband doesn't care. I have thought about removing the left breast, just don't feel like going through surgery again.

If I had to deal with someone else and he didn't want to see me the way I am, I wouldn't want to be with him anyway. If for your own benefit, if/when the time comes for sex, you could always wear a sexy tank top until you're comfortable in front of the guy. By the way PragmaticP, I love your answer with the Knitted Knocker/silver dollar.

Best wishes,

Barb

I had dbuble mastectomy.  I chose not to have reconstruction.  That was in March of 2016.  I am still fine with hit.  I dont wear anything and if my shirt dips low it is no big deal to my family.  Tell your family it is warrior scars and they should be in awe of them that you are a great fighter, a great warrior.   Tell them to get over themselves.   

Hugs,

Annie