Newly diagnosed stage 4

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  • Mulan1960
    Mulan1960 Member Posts: 28
    Thanks

    Thanks Ed

    It certainly is a bumpy road.  It's exactly five months since we were on holiday in Orlando and all of this started and my husband thought his indigestion (which he'd been constantly treated for by his general practioner) had got worse.  Little did we know then what was to happen but we're getting through it day by day and will keep going.

  • Mulan1960
    Mulan1960 Member Posts: 28
    As my husband is now getting

    As my husband is now getting stronger, do you think it would have been preferable if the chemo had been continued or at least the herceptin?  I'm just concerned that an eight week gap could set him back again.

  • Deathorglory
    Deathorglory Member Posts: 364 Member
    Mulan1960 said:

    As my husband is now getting

    As my husband is now getting stronger, do you think it would have been preferable if the chemo had been continued or at least the herceptin?  I'm just concerned that an eight week gap could set him back again.

    Hello

    Hello Mulan,

    The doctors may have continued the chemo if they though your husband could have withstood it (his breathing).  Sometimes folks need a break from chemo to regain their strength.  Sometimes doctors dial down the dose if a patient is struggling.  Herceptin is fairly mild.  He might have been able to continue with that.  Perhaps there were cardiac issues the docs were concerned about.  Perhaps they thought the herceptin wouldn't be of benefit without the chemo.  Right now I guess you guys have to focus on rest and regenerating strength.

    Glad that you guys are doing well,

    Ed

  • Mulan1960
    Mulan1960 Member Posts: 28
    Thanks

    Thanks Ed,

    I'm hoping that my husband will do exactly that and regain his strength over the next few weeks.  Some days he seems to lose a little of his appetite but he still manages to eat and the breathlessness does seem to be getting better.  We've got lovely summer weather at the moment in the UK so are hoping to get out and about over the next few days. 

  • Mulan1960
    Mulan1960 Member Posts: 28
    Update

    Things had been going pretty well up to this week.  My husband was due for his scan yesterday and his oncologist meeting on Thursday.  This week however he's been feeling really under the weather and his breathlessness had started to get quite bad but only when he went from sitting to standing.  Our GP diagnosed it as more stress related initially however over the last few days he took a turn for the worse.  He had a couple of episodes of vomiting dark coloured bile and actually fell to his knees with the breathlessness.  It did disappear almost immediately therefore the oncall doctor again diagnosed it as being stress related.  Yesterday was so bad that I took him to the hospital where he was admitted and his blood count has hit the floor.  He had an endoscopy this morning and they said that the tumour had been 'oozing' (their words) and the bile would have been old blood but there is no more bleeding.  They've kept him in hospital and he's currently having two bags of blood.  They said if his blood comes back up then he'll be able to come home tomorrow.

    I'm obviously worried that the tumour has grown or could there be any other reason as to why it would bleed? 

    Over the last couple of days he also became very agitated and when asleep I noticed that he was reaching for objects that weren't there and also speaking to non existent people.  I've told the staff at the hospital but they don't appear concerned.  He seems back to his normal self today - they seem to think he was dehydrated as he won't drink water no matter what I do and will only drink lucozade or cola.

    I'm keeping my fingers crossed for a positive scan but I'll deal with whatever it throws at us.

  • Deathorglory
    Deathorglory Member Posts: 364 Member
    Mulan1960 said:

    Update

    Things had been going pretty well up to this week.  My husband was due for his scan yesterday and his oncologist meeting on Thursday.  This week however he's been feeling really under the weather and his breathlessness had started to get quite bad but only when he went from sitting to standing.  Our GP diagnosed it as more stress related initially however over the last few days he took a turn for the worse.  He had a couple of episodes of vomiting dark coloured bile and actually fell to his knees with the breathlessness.  It did disappear almost immediately therefore the oncall doctor again diagnosed it as being stress related.  Yesterday was so bad that I took him to the hospital where he was admitted and his blood count has hit the floor.  He had an endoscopy this morning and they said that the tumour had been 'oozing' (their words) and the bile would have been old blood but there is no more bleeding.  They've kept him in hospital and he's currently having two bags of blood.  They said if his blood comes back up then he'll be able to come home tomorrow.

    I'm obviously worried that the tumour has grown or could there be any other reason as to why it would bleed? 

    Over the last couple of days he also became very agitated and when asleep I noticed that he was reaching for objects that weren't there and also speaking to non existent people.  I've told the staff at the hospital but they don't appear concerned.  He seems back to his normal self today - they seem to think he was dehydrated as he won't drink water no matter what I do and will only drink lucozade or cola.

    I'm keeping my fingers crossed for a positive scan but I'll deal with whatever it throws at us.

    Hello Mulan

    Hello Mulan,

    You guys have certainly had a lot thrown at you.  I'm not familiar with a tumor bleeding, so I have no idea why it might do that.  It sure seems unsettling, though.  I can't believe they didn't give possible reasons in the hospital.  I don't think bleeding is associated with tumor growth.  Everyone's tumor grows, some to quite large sizes and I've never heard of any bleeding.  So to me (definitely not a doctor) it sounds like it's associated with some other reason.  

    I know there must be a lot of anxiety about the scan results.  I hope you guys get the best possible news.

    Best Wishes,

    Ed

  • Mulan1960
    Mulan1960 Member Posts: 28
    Improvement

    He was much better today - they gave him another bag of blood and it appears to be doing its job as the breathlessness is going.  They want to keep him overnight and get reviewed by the doctors tomorrow - our NHS is wonderful but it's normally only doctors for emergencies at the weekend.  They're hoping to do the CT scan before discharge tomorrow and then review with the oncologist on Thursday.  The endoscopy has shown no more bleeding so hopefully everything will be stable.

    Thanks again Ed for your support.

  • Mulan1960
    Mulan1960 Member Posts: 28
    Good news

    After having three bags of blood and an iron infusion my husband was discharged from hospital.  The breathlessness has much improved although it's still there a little.  They've taken more bloods and want to review again early next week.  They feel that if the tumour is still bleeding a little then they're going to give some radiation to stop this.  The scan results have shown no change since May - the oncologist said this is really good news and doesn't want to see him for three months.  I've asked about continuing with herceptin but his view is that as everything is stable and the lymph nodes have shrunk, then to leave any treatment until it's needed.  The main issue for my husband at the moment is excessive mucous again - his specialist nurse is visiting on Wednesday so hopefully she'll review this.  The nursing team want to make sure that his energy levels improve either by more blood or treatment of the bleeding so hopfully the next three months should be more positive.

  • LorettaMarshall
    LorettaMarshall Member Posts: 662 Member
    Mulan1960 said:

    Good news

    After having three bags of blood and an iron infusion my husband was discharged from hospital.  The breathlessness has much improved although it's still there a little.  They've taken more bloods and want to review again early next week.  They feel that if the tumour is still bleeding a little then they're going to give some radiation to stop this.  The scan results have shown no change since May - the oncologist said this is really good news and doesn't want to see him for three months.  I've asked about continuing with herceptin but his view is that as everything is stable and the lymph nodes have shrunk, then to leave any treatment until it's needed.  The main issue for my husband at the moment is excessive mucous again - his specialist nurse is visiting on Wednesday so hopefully she'll review this.  The nursing team want to make sure that his energy levels improve either by more blood or treatment of the bleeding so hopfully the next three months should be more positive.

    Herceptin is great drug for Stage IV EC~hope docs will listen 2U

     Dear Mulan:

    It is good that you are talking to some Stage IV EC patients here in America.  Each of us have our own complications depending on our own cancer.  Recently I had an iron infusion and it helped raise my energy level considerably, although constant fatigue is my companion.  So it is at least good news that he is out of the hospital.

    Our hearts ache for one another because we know the emotional turmoil it causes for both the patient and the caregiver.  While my own husband had relatively few difficulties with his neoadjuvant treatment prior to his totally successful Ivor Lewis Minimally Invasive Esophagectomy, the same has not been true for me.  Without going into detail of my now ongoing 5-yr. battle with Peritoneal Carcinomatosis/Ovarian Cancer Stage IV, I relate both to my days as caregiver to my husband, and also to my own Stage IV patient.  The heartache and uncertainty that follows a diagnosis of cancer can only be understood by others who are also in the same predicament.

    Specifically, I just want to address the fact that the doctors are NOT going to continue with Herceptin at this time.   The very benefit of Herceptin is to keep the cancer growth in check, so I’m disappointed and wondering exactly what their reasoning should be.  I am certain “ED” (DeathorGlory) won’t like it when he reads this because he attributes his survival so far with the “continued” application of HERCEPTIN. 

    Now as one who keeps a good many medical reports in my WORD file for research purposes, I find the one that I’ve listed below as a possible reason for the British doctor’s choice to not use Herceptin right now.  It is no longer in print but very revealing.  I don’t want to add “insult to injury” but “National Health Care” seems to play into British doctors decisions as to when certain meds should be used.  Perhaps their hands are “tied”, but I’m glad that at least for the present, we do not have our health care determined partly by cost effectiveness and the ultimate prognosis of the patient being treated.  Am I to be discarded because I am 79 and be denied treatment in order to save money for a younger crowd?  Do I have nothing left to contribute to society that is worth the medical expenditures?  Am I ready to be discarded as “out of date and no longer useful?”  Seems as long as I am paying the insurance premiums and feel that the medical treatment I am receiving is resulting in “quality of life”, medical options should be available to me, and I should make the final decision about when “enough is enough.”  And there are days when I get plain “tired of being tired”, but at this point quality of life has been such that I am willing to withstand the harsh side effects in the hope that I will be able to enjoy my family and friends here.  

    My family and I have had the all-important discussions about my end-of-life care. I have discussed it with my oncologist as well, and we are all on the same page.  I do not wish to be kept alive by artificial means when it is determined that treatments are no longer beneficial.  That relieves everyone of having to make the decision that no one wants to make.  No one in my family should feel pressured to continue treatments when there is no hope of recovery.  But here in America, there certainly is a contentious debate over “when enough is enough.”  I say all that to say this.  It seems that the British “experts” have expressed their opinion on who will receive Herceptin and for how long!  That is borne out by the article I have referenced below.  It is no longer in print, but I had saved it from the time I first read it.  And here is part of a similar discussion here in the states. 

    *https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g_0o_O1Bbwo

    Bottom line for me would be to insist that Herceptin be continued since it has been shown to be so effective with Stage IV HER2positive patients both in Breast & Esophageal Cancer diagnoses.

    Thank you for keeping us informed.  It’s always good to talk with other cancer patients who have similar diagnoses.  We also know it “hurts” to even sit down and write us.  Sometimes the teardrops can keep us from seeing the keyboard.  Cry May God continue to bless you with the strength and stamina it takes to carry on.  And may those British physicians not spare any expense to give your husband the very best treatment

    Love & prayers,

    Loretta

    (Peritoneal Carcinomatosis/Ovarian Cancer Stage IV) currently undergoing treatments.  And also the wife of William Marshall, EC Stage III (T3N1M0) Survivor since May 17, 2003.

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    [Mulan - My note:  Perhaps this article written back in 2010 and no longer available after November 11, 2010 might shed some light on why the British doctors do not see the value of Herceptin at this time.  Because of what I have highlighted in bold and underlined, is one reason I am NOT in favor of nationalized health care here in America.]

    “Drug Appears to Prolong Survival in Stomach Cancer Patients

    But experts question whether high cost of treatment can be justified

     URL of this page:

     1.      http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/news/fullstory_102390.html

    (*this news item will not be available after 11/18/2010)

    By Robert Preidt - Friday, August 20, 2010

     THURSDAY, Aug. 19 (HealthDay News) -- Use of the drug trastuzumab in addition to chemotherapy can extend stomach cancer patients' survival by nearly three months, a new study has found.

    However, an editorial accompanying the study questions whether the treatment is cost-effective. The study and comment were both published in the Aug. 19 online edition of The Lancet.

    The ToGA study, which included 584 patients at 122 centers in 24 countries with HER2-positive advanced gastric cancer, found that the addition of trastuzumab to standard cisplatin/fluoropyrimidine chemotherapy resulted in a median survival of 13.8 months, compared with 11.1 months for patients who received chemotherapy alone -- a 26 percent difference.

    The findings of the phase 3 clinical trial suggest that using trastuzumab with chemotherapy should be considered a new standard option for patients with this type of stomach cancer, said Yung-Jue Bang, of Seoul National University College of Medicine in South Korea, and colleagues.

    But an accompanying editorial by two U.K. experts questions the cost-effectiveness of the treatment.

    "Patients in the ToGA study were treated with trastuzumab every three weeks until disease progression. The median time to progression was 6.7 months," wrote Alastair J. Munro and Dr. Paddy G. Niblock, of the department of surgery and molecular oncology at Ninewells Hospital and Medical School, University of Dundee.

    "When we use the cost estimates of trastuzumab therapy calculated by the U.K.'s National Institute for Health and Clinical Excellence (NICE), this equals an average cost of [13,857 British pounds, or US $21,640] per patient.

    Cost per life-year gained will therefore be around [55,000 British pounds, or US $85,893]," Munro and Niblock continued.

    "In the 24 countries that contributed to the study, yearly health expenditure per citizen varies from $40 to $5,500 (2007 U.S. dollars), which reiterates the important moral question -- what is the justification for introducing a treatment that might enable one individual to live a few months longer but, which will consume for each person treated, the total yearly health expenditure for scores of their fellow citizens?" the editorialists wrote.

    SOURCE: The Lancet, news release, Aug. 19, 2010 HealthDay…”

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    2.     https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/herceptin/

     3.     https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/oesophageal-cancer/

     4.     https://www.cancerresearchuk.org/about-cancer/cancer-in-general/treatment/cancer-drugs/drugs/trastuzumab

    “Trastuzumab (Herceptin)

    Trastuzumab is a targeted cancer drug and is also known by its brand name, Herceptin.

    It is a treatment for cancers that have large amounts of a protein called human epidermal growth factor receptor 2 (HER2), such as:

    • early breast cancer
    • advanced breast cancer
    • advanced stomach cancer

    How it works

    Some breast and stomach cancers have large amounts of human epidermal growth factor receptor 2 (HER2). They are called HER2 positive cancers. HER2 makes the cancer cells grow and divide.

    Trastuzumab is a type of targeted cancer drug called a monoclonal antibody. It works by attaching to HER2 so it stops the cancer cells from growing and dividing…”

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    [My note: Herceptin was approved for Esophageal Cancer patients back in 2010 both here and in the U.K.  As we know at first it was thought that only Breast Cancer patients were presenting with the over-expressive oncogene that caused the cancer to multiply more rapidly.  Then it was also discovered that Esophageal Cancer patients were presenting with the same over-active gene and thankfully, the FDA approved it for EC patients in the states. It was also approved in the UK back in 2010.]

    5.     https://www.roche.com/investors/updates/inv-update-2010-01-28.htm 

    6.     https://www.roche.com/investors/updates/inv-update-2010-10-21.htm

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    Roche

    7.     https://breast-cancer-research.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s13058-018-0989-8

    Generation of HER2-specific antibody immunity during trastuzumab adjuvant therapy associates with reduced relapse in resected HER2 breast cancer

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    [My note: A marked improvement with Herceptin]

    8.      https://doi.org/10.1186/s13058-018-0989-8 - ©  The Author(s). 2018


    Received: 7 December 2017 - Accepted: 15 May 2018 - Published: 14 June 2018


    Abstract - Background

    Resected HER2 breast cancer patients treated with adjuvant trastuzumab and chemotherapy have superior survival compared to patients treated with chemotherapy alone. We previously showed that trastuzumab and chemotherapy induce HER2-specific antibodies which correlate with improved survival in HER2 metastatic breast cancer patients. It remains unclear whether the generation of immunity required trastuzumab and whether endogenous antibody immunity is associated with improved disease-free survival in the adjuvant setting. In this study, we addressed this question by analyzing serum anti-HER2 antibodies from a subset of patients enrolled in the NCCTG trial N9831, which includes an arm (Arm A) in which trastuzumab was not used. Arms B and C received trastuzumab sequentially or concurrently to chemotherapy, respectively…

    Results

    Prior to therapy, across all three arms, N9831 patients had similar mean anti-HER2 IgG levels.

    Following treatment, the mean levels of antibodies increased in the trastuzumab arms but not the chemotherapy-only arm.

     The proportion of patients who demonstrated antibodies increased by 4% in Arm A and by 43% in the Arms B and C combined (p = 0.003). Cox modeling demonstrated that larger increases in antibodies were associated with improved disease-free survival in all patients (HR = 0.23; p = 0.04).

    Conclusions

    These results show that the increased endogenous antibody immunity observed in adjuvant patients treated with combination trastuzumab and chemotherapy is clinically significant, in view of its correlation with improved disease-free survival. The findings may have important implications for predicting treatment outcomes in patients treated with trastuzumab in the adjuvant setting…”

    _____________________End of references___________________ 

  • Mulan1960
    Mulan1960 Member Posts: 28
    Thank you Loretta for your

    Thank you Loretta for your reply.  I have read so much about herceptin and realised its benefits.  I did also wonder whether the cost of the drug may be a factor but I have great faith in the oncologist who has been nothing but exceptional since the start of the diagnosis and told us that nothing would be spared in the treatment of my husband.  I am a staunch supporter of our health service as my husband has received every treatment without question.  My gut feeling is that maybe herceptin is being withdrawn for the moment as my husband has slight angina and there could be a worry of damage to the heart?  I'll discuss this further with the oncologist this week.  Thank you again for all the great information you have provided and I'll be sure to mention this in my meeting with the oncologist.

  • Deathorglory
    Deathorglory Member Posts: 364 Member
    Hello Mulan

    Hello Mulan,

    Sounds like you guys are doing as well as possible.  Good for you.  Excellent that the breathing has improved.  I know first hand that that is a big thing.  I don't know about the bleeding, though.  My ignorance means nothing though, just that I don't know.  I hope the radiation is able to remedy that. 

    Herceptin is something that can be given even in the absence of actual cancer.  I've been receiving it weekly since 2011 as a preventative measure.  I was stage IV with a 7-8 month life expectancy.  I'm still here to say that herceptin can be effective against even stage IV.  I do know that heart issues are a thing with herceptin, though.  I get an echocardiogram every three months to make sure my heart can still withstand it.  I just hope your docs aren't bailing for lesser reasons.

    Best Wishes,

    Ed

  • Mulan1960
    Mulan1960 Member Posts: 28
    Hi Ed

    Thanks for replying Ed.  I've got a meeting with one of the team on Wednesday so the question of herceptin is top of my list.  If I don't get a satisfactory answer then I'll get a second opinion.  We're at one of the leading cancer centres in the UK which is just outside Liverpool and there's another one, the Christie about 20 miles away from us so easy to travel.  Thanks to this board I know the questions to ask.

  • Deathorglory
    Deathorglory Member Posts: 364 Member
    Mulan1960 said:

    Hi Ed

    Thanks for replying Ed.  I've got a meeting with one of the team on Wednesday so the question of herceptin is top of my list.  If I don't get a satisfactory answer then I'll get a second opinion.  We're at one of the leading cancer centres in the UK which is just outside Liverpool and there's another one, the Christie about 20 miles away from us so easy to travel.  Thanks to this board I know the questions to ask.

    20 Miles

    Hi Mulan,

    I drive near 20 miles to my cancer center.  There is quite literally a red light every block for 18 miles.  I drive directly past the front doors of Abington, Einstein, Temple, and Hahneman.  I drive within one block of CCTA, and within a few minutes of Fox Chase Cancer Center.  I go to the place that works for me.  I do that every week, plus more.  I do what I think is best for me (and I'm still alive from stage III and stage IV EC).  You just keep on doing what's right for you guys.

    Keep on keepin' on,

    Ed

  • Mulan1960
    Mulan1960 Member Posts: 28
    Not satisfied

    As the title says - our specialist nurse came out to visit on Thursday and she's sorted out as best she can all of my husband's symptoms.  She's arranged a nebuliser to help with additional mucous, she contacted the upper GI team who have now arranged an appointment with the radiotheraphy team for next week to sort out the bleeding (which has almost stopped), she arranged more blood tests and those have come back fine - she couldn't have been more helpful.  I then contacted the oncologist who has actually gone on annual leave so spoke to the specialist nurse and asked about the stopping of herceptin.  Her reply was that it isn't that effective when used alone with stomach cancers unlike with breast cancers therefore it isn't often prescribed.  I've looked at the guidelines for the UK and it does seem to be prescribed mainly together with chemo drugs however I'm sure that there are people in the UK who have been prescribed herceptin as a stand alone drug.  As we have a meeting with the radiotheraphy consulant this week, this will be my number one question.  Up to now my husband is well, he's eating, putting on weight however is still very tired with a lack of energy.

  • Mulan1960
    Mulan1960 Member Posts: 28
    edited September 2018 #36
    New update

    I haven't posted for a while as things have been really hectic.  My husband was due to have radiotherapy as his tumour was oozing blood and this was felt to be causing his low blood count.  However he became very unwell and was admitted to the emergency care department and given a CT scan.  It was discovered that he had a severe lung infection and an abscess on his lower oesophagus which had also led to a small tear which was causing a leak into the abdomen.  The hospital was extremely worried about him and he was placed on IV antibiotics for a week and nil by mouth with a hope that the tear would heal. 

    Fortunately the infection completely cleared and the consultant was delighted with his progress.  The CT scan also showed that the tumour is again stable so he has been home for two weeks.  They are amazed that he is so resilient.  We have had specialist nurses visited every two days and the palliative consultant even made a visit on Thursday!  At the moment my husband has a problem with excessive mucous however he has been given new medication which does seem to be working and he is due for an iron infusion in the coming week as his blood tests have shown some irregularities.  The medical staff are hopeful that he should be feeling 100% better in the coming week and up and about and able to go about his business again.  The oncologist is delighted with the latest scan so at the moment we're feeling really positive.

  • paul61
    paul61 Member Posts: 1,392 Member
    It is great to hear that things have taken a positive turn again

    Hello Mulan1960,

    It is good to hear that your husband is feeling better and the antibiotics have done their job. Cancer treatment and survival can certainly be filled with lots of ups and downs. Sometimes the down times can be very depressing but if we just focus on taking things one day at a time, and try to maintain a positive outlook, the situation seems to turn around eventually.

    I am hoping you are now over the difficult time and your husband will be back to recovery again.

    Best Regards,

    Paul Adams

    McCormick, South Carolina

    DX 10/2009 T2N1M0  Stage IIB - Ivor Lewis Surgery  12/3/2009
    Post Surgery Chemotherapy 2/2009 – 6/2009 Cisplatin, Epirubicin, 5 FU
    Eight Year Survivor

    Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance!

  • Mulan1960
    Mulan1960 Member Posts: 28
    Sad news

    My husband died last Sunday.  After feeling so positive, he deteriorated rapidly and was admitted to our local hospice for symptom control and spent two weeks under their care. He had started to vomit blood and it was obvious that little could be done as he was really struggling.  We brought him home and he spent four nights with us before he passed away peacefully.  We are devastated but can take comfort that he didn't have any pain.  Thank you so much for those of you who replied to my posts and offered help and support.  I hope that you all continue to progress well and wish you all the best for the future.  I'll pop in now and again to see how you're all doing.

  • LorettaMarshall
    LorettaMarshall Member Posts: 662 Member
    Mulan1960 said:

    Sad news

    My husband died last Sunday.  After feeling so positive, he deteriorated rapidly and was admitted to our local hospice for symptom control and spent two weeks under their care. He had started to vomit blood and it was obvious that little could be done as he was really struggling.  We brought him home and he spent four nights with us before he passed away peacefully.  We are devastated but can take comfort that he didn't have any pain.  Thank you so much for those of you who replied to my posts and offered help and support.  I hope that you all continue to progress well and wish you all the best for the future.  I'll pop in now and again to see how you're all doing.

    Mulan1960~Truly this is sad news & we weep with you

    Dear Mulan1960

    Your letter is one we never want to read and is most difficult to answer. 

    Truly this is sad news and although both of us are realists, and although we’ve been told “it’s terminal”, we’re never ready to part with our husbands.  When my husband was first told that he had Esophageal Cancer, we had no idea of what it was.  And of course our first thoughts were of death.  Isn’t that what we all naturally think when we see the medical report and “our” name is at the top?  He was only 65.  Life isn’t supposed to end at 65!  For us, the diagnosis turned out to be Stage III and operable but we didn’t know that in the beginning.  We wrote a will and bought cemetery plots as “our world turned upside down”.  All of a sudden “life” was all that mattered and all else was just “stuff!”

    So we know the anxiety that you felt in the beginning.  I’ve read once more your first letter to us.  DEVASTATED-SHOCKED—I looked up the meaning of shock in the dictionary.  It said among other things a sudden upsetting or surprising event or experience—a blow—upset—disturbance—source of distress-surprise—revelation—a bolt out of the blue—a thunderbolt—a bombshell—a rude awakening.  Like you, we experienced all these emotions in one moment in time.  Add to that “breathlessness” and bewilderment and a sinking feeling that our life had just taken a turn and it seemed like the end of the road.  But just how soon would it end?    Suddenly nothing else mattered but “stayin’ alive!”  That was back in November of 2002.

    Then in November of 2012, we found ourselves back in the same state of shock.  My diagnosis was not Esophageal Cancer but Peritoneal Carcinomatosis.  It was Stage IV.  So I have to tell you I get a “sinking feeling” when someone writes to tell us that the cancer has spread to the Peritoneal cavity.  But you did every possible thing you could do to get the best of help for your husband.  You should have no regrets.  And you also reached out to survivors who had a personal experience with Esophageal Cancer.  You left no stone unturned. 

    That’s the bad thing about Esophageal Cancer.  The stats are not good for this cancer because something as ordinary as hiccups or indigestion or heartburn can actually be cancer and we are none the wiser.  So often it is diagnosed as Stage IV and at that point, only palliative measures can be taken.  From what you wrote in your first March 2018 letter, this time the doctors were right.  But that didn’t stop you and your husband from fighting for his life.  And that you did.  Our hearts ache for you and all your family, although we’ve never met because really we EC & terminal patients are all part of one unique family.  When one hurts—we all hurt. 

    You know the Bible says, “Rejoice with those that rejoice” and “weep with those that weep”.  And so we weep with you tonight.  I make no apologies for believing in God’s word.  There I read that “Weeping may endure for a night—but joy comes in the morning.”  There are no words that can comfort a broken heart in times like these.  Truly it’s night right now—but I’m looking forward to “morning”.  There we will be reunited with all our loved ones who have preceded us in death.  There’s no Esophageal cancer or any other kind of sickness, sorrow or weeping in Heaven.  Lest we forget—your letter reminds us of the brevity of life and how we must show our love and tell those we love how much they mean to us.  All along we’ve been praying for you and your husband.  I  know you sent us this letter as tears flowed down your face, but I thank you for sharing your sorrow with us as well.  Truly we all weep with you.  Cry May God comfort you as only He can.

    With deepest sympathy,

    Loretta & William

  • paul61
    paul61 Member Posts: 1,392 Member
    I am so very sorry to hear of your husband's passing

    Dear Mulan1960,

    I am so very saddened to hear that your husband has left us. It seemed just a short time ago that we were hoping the antibiotics had done their job and he had turned the corner in his struggle with the side effects of his cancer.

    I am glad that he had a chance to return home and passed peacefully surrounded by people who loved him.

    With my deepest condolences, sending prayers for peace and comfort for you and your family.

    Regards,

    Paul

  • Deathorglory
    Deathorglory Member Posts: 364 Member
    So Sad to Hear

    Hello Mulan,

    I'm so sad to hear your news.  I wish there was something more I could do besides say that I'm sorry for you and your family.  As you mentioned, at least you have the comfort of knowing he passed without pain in his own home with the people he loved by his side.  

    I'm sorry for your loss,

    Ed