Question about retrograde ejaculation after prostatectomy

The_Gift said:

It's definitely a journey!

Hey there Green Lantern, and everyone else!

I just had full robotic radical prostatectomy in Feb 1.  It went very well, with very little pain overall, and minimal scarring. I found the worst part of the whole thing was the stupid catheter for 10 days...That was NOT pleasant.

BUT, I feel very fortunate that it's going as well as it is.  I was able to achieve my first full erection 2 weeks after surgery, which my doctor thought was fantastic (keeping in mind that I just turned 45 while I was recovering...Doc says my age has a lot to do with how well my recovery is going.)

But this leads me to the specifics of your question:  The ejaculations.  Though it's still very early in my recovery, I have been able to have full, hard erections and orgasms.  They don't feel the "same" as before, but they still are pretty intense.  And while there is none of the semen that I'm used to, I am still producing quite a bit of pre-ejaculate (I was a very heavy producer before.) 

But, it's only been 68 days, and I'm still healing.  So I do expect things to continue to change as time progresses.  I will say, however, that I've noticed changes in the physical appearance and sensitivity of my penis.  What I mean is that while it basically feels the same as it did before, certain areas are actually MORE sensitive now, which changes my sexual experience.  For example ( and not to go all TMI on anyone), I seem to have lost about 1\2" of my overall flacid length (I'm not on a pump yet...I may gain that length back if I use the pump...We're not sure).  Because of this my foreskin actually covers more of my head now, which keeps  my head and foreskin more moist than before, almost as if I'm "uncut."  Because of this it feels different: before, my foreskin under the head did nothing for me.  Now, I can practically have an orgasm from stimulating it alone.  It's odd, but certainly not bad.  For me, it's almost like having a new penis that I now have to acquaint myself with.  As others have stated, it's different for everyone.

As far as continence is concerned, that part definitely requires patience!  While I have pretty good control during the day, I'm still leaking quite a bit at night.  So I can use light guards for day, but I use a heavier guard while I sleep.  That'll get better though, as time passes and I continue my Kegels. But I do have to say that my doctor had said to me, and I quote, "When I'm done with you, you'll be able to piss the bark off a tree!". He was NOT kidding!  I didn't pee this hard when I was 16!  It's amazing.  And so FAST!  I know it's an odd thing to get excited over, but it's definitely a new experience for me.

Sorry for being so wordy.  But there's just so much to say about this process.  I'm so happy for everyone who is doing well.  And I'm very happy to be a (new) part of such a giving and sharing community.  Makes this process a whole lot easier!

 Feel free to co tact me if you have any questions you think I may be able to answer for you.  I don't have the experience of a lot of these guys, but I think we all have something to contribute to each other.  I hope I've been helpful.

Hi there. I am 40 years old. I live in Austin, TX and was diagnosed when I was 37. My doctors told me constantly at the time that I was their youngest Prostate Cancer patient and that they were excited to see how I would do. I achieve full erection with no problems. I pre-**** alot and always have, nothing has changed. I don't ejaculate but the orgasm is CERTAINLY more intense. To the point that I feel like I leave this galaxy and return when it is over. AMAZING! I do miss ejaculating. I feel like as men, at least for me, my ejaculations were something to be proud of. Nevertheless I am grateful. Never had to wear a diaper and havent had any leakage. I attribute this to my age, being in good physical shape and I am certain that my Urologisits hands are blessed. I don't visibly see that I've lost any inches of my shaft. Haven't measured, never measured before. I ran across this thread when I was researching dry orgasms and decided I needed to respond. It's interesting to run across a discussion like this, because as someone else in this thread noted, as men we rarely talk about anything dealing with sex, our penis or something that could interfere with either of those. I honestly couldve never imagined that I would be as pleased with my erection, my orgasms without ejaculation or the size of my penis. I know this isn't everyone's reality but this is why I tell men younger than 40 to certainly go get checked because catching it early can also help in terms of the outcome.