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Hello Todd,

nice to see you! Happy to hear about little Arianna. I know from experience that grandparents go crazy over their grandkids, more than about their children :-) And it is fantastic! Try to do anything to improve relationship with younger son too. For me my husband's cancer showed what really matters - family! And now, when I have almost 3 year old daughter myself, I can specify even more - children matter the most... And they always deep down need us, their parents, so I guess your son is glad to have his dad alive somewhere on the same planet :-), even if in not immediate vicinity :-)

Sorry to hear about mom, most probably she was devastated after your dad's death...

And good luck with your scans! I guess it is natural for scanxiety to increase when you feel down in general. NED report will help things, you'll be able to get back to healthy routine with calm mind. You've mentioned in your previous posts that you've lost weight, if I'm mot mistaken? My husband dreams about it, but with no results yet :-) Were you on a special diet?

than done but just continue to count your many blessings!  Hoping your scans are nothing but good news!!!

todd121 said:

Mom and Dad

Had to laugh about your comment about mom and dad. They hadn't talked in over 45 years. LOL!! Of course there's no way you'd know that.

I suppose it was just a coincidence they got sick at the same time. His was lung cancer. He was diagnosed and dead within 2 months. Care is really poor in some of our smaller towns in the US and I think the elderly suffer the most. I've watched grandparents and now parents in my small town get some really bad care in their older years. On the other hand, my dad didn't trust doctors at all and probably didn't go until he was dying, so can't put it all on them.

I did a quick weight loss diet but it was under the care of a nutritionist and a doctor. I attended nutrition classes while I was doing the diet and they taught lots and lots about good nutrition and exercise. I lost 30 pounds. Unfortunately, I've gained about 15 of it back. I'm planning to work on it again. The program I went to was very helpful. Weekly classes and a nutritionist tracked us and we were weighed weekly and had to report what we were eating and how much exercise we were doing, etc.

Best to you!

Todd

 

Try a low carb diet. Seriously. Nutritionists mostly hate it, but they also never try it themselves.

Low carb, moderate protein, healthy fat.

It's good, solid food. Weight generally comes off easily and you never go hungry.

You might get a pleasant surprise.

Steve.

Hi Todd,

So sorry to hear about the loss of your father. You are a good son to take care such good care of your mom. And now you have a beautiful granddaughter!! Lucky you! And lucky her. I know you will be a wonderful, doting grandfather. It is so nice that you and your son are moving in the right direction in the relationship department. You really deserve all those good things. 

Wishing you all the best with your scans! 

Hugs

Jojo

Happy to see your smiling face.  Congratulations on Arianna, those little bundles come with a lot of joy.  I'm so happy for you that your relationship with your son is on a better footing too.  On the other hand, I'm so sorry for the loss of your dad and all you've had to deal with with your mom.  It's tough stuff as they age.  So you are officially a "sandwich" now, caught between the elders and the new life.  The best & the worst rolled up in one and it can be taxing in many ways: happy, sad, busy as caregivers, even if that means spending countless hours you'll never get back just sitting and hand holding, but those will be hours you'll someday cherish just as much as any.

Best wishes and I'll be praying for you,

Donna~