Advice to self of yesteryears!

Trubrit said:

Craig/Sundanceh

What a man!

You know he continued posting right up until a few days before he died, though his last few post were garbled, his heart was still with us, trying to help.  God bless him!

When I first joined the fourm, there were so many posting so often, and one by one they passed away. Good people, Buzzard, Lisa, Nana, Joemetz, DocHawk, steveandnat, Pete, John, Jeff, Barbebarb, Johnnybegood, **** (Kathleen), Pepe, LindaK (for her husband), thxmiker, Renw, Winter Marie, tachilders, Vicklig, Steved. The list, sadly, is endless, but these are a few that helped me along the way. 

What would they have to say to us now, do you think? Now that they have passed. 

My friend died yesterday of CRC. Diagnosed after me. I'm gutted! 

What would I say to my newly diagnosed self? Enjoy the things you learn from the experience. Live every day to its best. Don't judge others. And BE THERE FOR OTHERS, especially for those here on the forum.  This list is endless as well. 

I am so very happy that you are not on my 'passed' list, Phil. You've been through the ringer, as have you Ron. But you're both here for a reason. Honour our friends passed, by being the best we can be now, and by helping others going through the same trial. 

 

Sue, your post sums it all up nicely. And it brings tears to my eyes to think about all the people in the list you have. I too remember conversing with them over tougher days. I am also so very saddened by your most recent loss. There certainly are many trials and much tribulation to endure for us on this Earth. And I agree that it boils down to being here for others in our lives. And remembering to not judge and to simply Love others whenever we are faced with an opportunity to do so.

And you, my friend, have supported me and many others. I pray that you receive much Love in return for all your goodness!

Love and Light to you during this time of mourning. ((Hugs))

lp1964 said:

Dear Friends,

Life is so busy and don’t post much, but here every day. 

Thank you for the words of wisdom and reminding me how I felt at the time of the diagnosis and since. I lost a lot: a marriage, a few body parts and honestly the faith in fairness. Except the body parts I️m happy to report that I have rebuilt most of it. Enjoy working full time (even though the pain in my butt and the numbness in my fingers revisit once in a while). I am very active, Dating, cooking enjoying my days.

one thing that helped me the most when I was diagnosed is to keep reminding myself that I am the same person I was before I was diagnosed with the same wisdom, knowledge, skills and emotions, except now I happen to have cancer. And homestly it’s not the cancer that kicks our butt, but sadly the treatments. 

All of you here and all of the ones that are not here anymore are on my mind a lot with the greatest appreciation.

Laz

Laz, great to read a post from you. You are right that we have to survive both the cancer and all the collateral damages that happen in the battle. The treatment weakens is and can rob us of many things that we love. I had to stop playing golf. I missed events. I missed work.

But we now know that we can recoup some of what we did after the battle is done. And we know that we are changed in many ways for the good as a result of the battle as well.

God Bless my friend Laz

NewHere said:

Craig/Sundanceh

All good advice Phil and Tru.

Craig was awesome, though he passed away fairly soon after I got here.  His posts did become garbled, a pattern I have seen repeat more than once since then.  The changes in posting...starts brining tears to my ears thinking about it.  When he passed away, I burst out in tears, something else that has occured more than once since I am here.  For people I have never met, but became so important in short periods of time.

 

I know what you mean. Both my wife and I have cried together when reading posts about others on this forum suffering and succumbing to this ugly disease. I think that is because we know the trials and tribulations we face. And the impact it has on our loved ones. And the impact it has on ourselves as well. 

In the end we will all pass away. I believe in life after death and want so much to share my beliefs with others on this board.

But I respect the board rules. And have come to accept the importance of listening to others and their thoughts, and being a whiteness of their struggles and trials. And being a coach sometimes. Offering encouragement. 

God Bless. ((Hugs))