I am total wreck and my wife said "I do love you but don't love myself"

I just went through two months where my husband wouldn't talk to me. He told me it was my fault he was sick. But I do have an emotional support team friends and mentors who helped me realize it is the disease talking and not him. Eventually after changing the pain meds and a  blood transfusion he is better and talking to me again. Just be there for her, remember who she was before she was sick and try not to take it too hard when she gets emotinal