Restaged to stage 4

this is obviously tough news.  However, it seems he is able to get a liver resection which is not always the case, so that is actually positive news.  The liver is always the main concern to the doctor for the obvious reasons.  it won’t be an easy road, but since the doctors determined he is eligible for a liver resection, it will give him the best opportunity for fighting the cancer.  Stay positive. 

Its a gut punch, and you have to reel for a while. Nothing wrong with that at all, just make sure you bounce back twice as strong. 

I remember too clearly the day my Oncologist told me of my Cancer spreading. I was totally unprepared, even though I had played the senario in my head many times. 

There are many here, who are living with Stage IV. There are many who have passed. The thing is, we don't know which end of the stick we have drawn, so run with the view that you guys have drawn the good end. 

I was driving up to my special place today, to read my latest CEA result. They could be good. They could be bad. Being sad, depressed, mad, unhappy would not change the result one bit, so I went up singing and waving at people and being happy. If you get to chose, choose happy. 

I was able to have my liver met ablated. That is a less invasive option than a resection. Something you might want to ask your husband's surgeon about. If he is a candidate. 

Good luck with the chemo cocktail. I hope he has a port. 

Keep us posted. 

Tru

Being positive is tough especially when it's just the two of you.  But, at least he has you and you him.  There is strength in numbers, even two and of course you guys have all of us here rooting for you.

caregiver3 said:

Thanks for the support!

Thanks so much for the support!  It means a lot!  Nice to have people that understand.  Chemo starts next week for my dh and I'm also concerned about cold and flu season now. Our youngest child just came down with a cold and it's hard due to her age and her being a daddy's girl to keep her distance.  Praying that we all stay well because of chemo next week.  What do you do though?  Now I'm starting to panic a little over this. What do they do if you happen to catch a cold and are fixing to have chemo?  And if I get sick, I'm the only one that can take care of him.  I can't make my dh understand either that he is going to have to be more careful about sickness.  He thinks it's no big deal. 

Chemo may be cancelled if hubby is too sick. Chemo is cancelled when red or white counts go down. Chemo is cancelled when platlettes are low. When chemo is cancelled, your end date is pushed out, and that can be terribly disheartening.  When you're looking forward to the end of chemo, say in March, and it gets pushed out and pushed out to May, June, July it is hard. 

I suggest purchesing those anti-bacterial face masks. I wore one for a while. They are not fun, but watching the dates change was way worse.  And at the end of the day, when your immune system is shot because chemo kills everything, then something simple like a cold can be devestating. 

I think if you were to get sick, he would still be able to care for himself and you. Try not to take on too much, because you need to make sure you are well, mind and body, for your own sake, for the children and for hubby - probably in that order -

Tru

caregiver3 said:

Thank you!

I have some masks.  I am wearing one, but my dh refuses to.  He thinks that he's already been exposed to the germs anyways and if he gets it he gets it.  She got sick really fast with no warning so no way to prepare.  He never gets a cold or flu even when everyone else does.  I can't make him understand things are different now.  I hope his stubbornness helps him through the chemo!

At Dana Farber Cancer Institutes, there are stations in the lobbies and around elevators with face masks - if you have something contagious, you take one and wear it to protect the cancer patients in the building.