The fun never ends...

So sorry to read this Jan.  I've been following your updates throughout the year.  You've had a really tough go at it.  Not much to say but you do deserve a break.  I'd lend a hand but I'm over in the Mid-Atlantic which I think is really far from you.

Sorry Jan, That's the hard part of life piling it on, alright. I'm still looking for something to blame it on, sometimes. You need help to get through the short-term at least, I wish I had a way to help. By way of trying to encourage things, my mom had a quadruple bypass when she was 60, she's now 84 and a bundle of energy, still, with no major down time since. As far as anti anxiety/depression meds. you know where I stand, if you have it and it helps, why not? I never became dependent on Xanax, I didn't use it enough to have that issue. I don't know much about anything else, but I know there's not that much nobilty in suffering, when you can cut down on the pain and anguish by taking a pill from time to time. I remember my hardest moments were being away from Cindy and helpless, trying to heal from the last surgery. The feeling was awful, but it passed in time. This moment for you, will pass too, you just gotta get through it. Ask for any help you can get, I let my pride make things harder than they needed to be, because I hate asking, but then I wound up angry that people didn't step-up. Better to ask then wonder later who could've/would've helped more. Hang tough, some time back I recall saying that anger sometimes got me through things when nothing else did. Whatever works to get you through, is what you need. You both are in my thoughts................................................................Dave

I have been wondering why you were not posting, and guessing that something bad was happening. 

I am so sorry that all of this is coming down on you. Its bad enough to be going through Cancer and treatments, then complications topped off with your husbands serious health problems. I would ask if more could happen, but that would be tempting fate. 

You are in my prayers. Your husband and also your daughter.  You are strong, but even the strong get battered in the storm. Take time for yourself while you can. Heal. And like Dave said, accept help. Ask for help. 

We all wish we could run to your door and be there for you, but all we can do is be HERE for you. Which we are. 

God bless! 

Tru

 Seems your situation is hitting the gutter.  My mom died a few weeks ago and it took everything I had to go out there for her last day and funeral.  I was in the last week of radiation where they really zap you hard when I got the news she wasn't going to make it.  My father passed back in February so this has been a bang up year.  Oh, and for shts and grins I got cancer.  Just freakin lovely.   Add to that a bunch of other things where I'm being targeted due to this illness so I can relate to some degree.  Those are the times when you wonder WTH am I doing or fighting for?  Standing at the 5th floor parking garage at the airport after getting back from the funeral I was tempted.  That's when I started reviewing all the other things that aren't negative. Come to find out, there are more of those than the bad crap so here I am, still here.  We have a habit of getting caught up in what's wrong with our life and forget what's right.  More often than not we have more good things than bad and that's why we have to stick around.

I'm am so sorry that you are going through all of this, especially when you aren't feeling well at all.  Don't blame you for asking some type of antidepressants.  I've used them in the past (Ativan), but wanted to use the sleeping pill to keep me alseep at night because I'd lay awake all night and think.  You can't take both so mine was the Ambien.  I'd still have rough patches during the day though.  Wish they had something to help during the day and night.  I'm allergic to a lot of anti-depressants (Paxil) for some reason so I'm hoping that you get some relief.  Hope your husband is doing better and wishing you both the strength and recovery that will bring you both to a full recovery.  Your in my prayers.

Hugs!  Kim

You're a fighter Jan...keep fighting...

I can't even find the right words to tell you how terrible I feel for all you and your family are going through right now. It's too much at once, my thoughts are with all of you right now for some healing and peace.

Gosh I'm so sorry to hear Jan. When it rains it pours. Haven't seen you post here for a while. Hope you and your hubby are doing better. Thinking and praying for you. Hope to see you here soon. 

Sorry to hear you are struggling.  You seem to be a strong person but sometime life's curve balls have a way of getting to us.  Remember that with all you have been through, you can overcome this also.  Joshua 1:9 "Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go." I am praying for a speedy recovery for both you and your husband.

Ruthmomto4 said:

For a minute there

i thought Jan was here it's been too long 

I found her on Facebook and sent a freinds request and message, but have had no response. I have googled her name, and happily no news (no news is good news, right?!!)  My next move will be to message someone on her FB friends page. I am seriously worried about her.

Tru