How does hearing about other people' misery make you feel better?

only that I know how you feel and understand your grief. You are not alone although you probably feel that you are but you are not. We all deal with this grief in different ways. I felt alone when it first happened to me. People would say to me "I'm sorry for your loss" but that didn't do anything for me. The only way I was able to deal with it was to be amongst those who actually understood how I felt. Unfortunately, those were others who have expereienced loss. You can deal with your grief the way you think thats best for you. But I can only tell you that by being with others who understood and had been through the same thing as me is what worked best for me. I truly hope you find peace in this journey. It's not easy and I understand what you are going through.

How why  have been asking myself.  He was diagnosed with MDS April 27 2017. Went through 3 treatments all seemed well.  Abdominal issue presented itself end of July.  Admitted to hospital. The abdomen was distended due to AML.  Went through induction chemotherapy   dropped from 46% to 3%  amazing.  Found a bone marrow donor  then downhill.  Tuesday repeat biopsy shows almost 100%leukaemia blasts. They say less than 48 hours.   He passes into heaven on the 29th.  I am besides myself.  Very little support. 

You have brought up a very, very important topic and you are correct! Words do not help! Every situation, every person, and every circumstance is different so how could words from some one who did not live your experience help?

The greatest comfort anyone has given me is their willingness to LISTEN. Listening without judgement and listening without trying to fix my grief. I am not broken and I do not need to be fixed. I need to grieve in my own way and in my own time. Not according to what someone else thinks is appropriate or healthy. That is why I have found these discussion boards to be so important. It gives me an opportunity to express what I need to say and the beautiful people in this group are willing to let me be my own person with my own opinions and they are supportive even when I need to go back to the anger stage of grief again.

Reading posts from other people on this board lets me know what I am going through is normal. There is no proper way to grieve and there is no calendar or schedule for the right way to go through this process. This group has also given words to some of the feelings I have had but couldn't quite express what I was going through. It has also helped me sort out the tangle of emotions that were wrapped around my heart.

Thank you for your post Inshallamiami. Now I don't feel so frustrated at the innocent, blissful people who have not lived through our experiences and want to help the only way they know how. With meaningless words.

Give me an ear and a shoulder to cry on any day rather than trying to talk me out of the real pain and emptiness that hits me like a huge boulder when I least expect it.

Please come here often. You have a lot to give this community and gave words to the questions I know we have all asked ourselves.

Blessings and comfort to you.

For me, comes down to being reminded I'm not the only one  going through this and even though most of us feel we are. That reminder is a grounding rod for the bad times. I have been on a few grieving forums where it was a bit much, and I couldn't continue reading them.