Hello

I was diagnosed with endometrial cancer and had a hysterectomy in late February.  I'm still recovering from the surgery, which I guess can take some time.  My cancer was stage 1, and after the surgery my doctor said there was no need for further treatment. He plans to follow me for only one year.  I know I am very lucky.  Some days I am just so glad to be alive.  Other days, though...I go back over all the decisions I made that maybe I should have made differently (or maybe not--I have no way to know).  I blame myself for my obesity, which I figure must have been a factor because of the estrogen.  I fear the future.  What if they didn't get it all?  What if it comes back?  What's going to happen to me?  What's going to happen to my family? I know there are no answers to any of that, but it doesn't stop me from worrying.

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  • TeddyandBears_Mom
    TeddyandBears_Mom Member Posts: 1,814 Member
    edited May 2017 #2
    Hi Debi,

    Hi Debi,

    Welcome. It is not uncommon to have questions like yours when you hear that darn C word. I can tell you, it does get better over time. I'm going to assume you had the "garden variety" type of cancer and that is why no further treatment is needed. That is great news for you!  Three of my family members had the same type over the last 5 years and all are doing well.  A couple of suggestions - please use this as a wake up call and use it as a catalyst to get yourself healthy. And, live every day to its' fullest! 

    I had stage 1A Grade 3 cancer in 2015.  While I wouldn't wish this on anyone, I do have some great lessons learned from it. I wake up grateful every morning and don't take life for granted. Or health for that matter! Exercise is a daily habit now. While I still eat some bad stuff (love sweets!), I also eat mostly healthy food.

    Finally, you did not cause your cancer! Don't play the blame game with yourself. And, if you find it too difficult to get beyond the fear, please seek some counciling. You don't need to tough this out alone.

    Please come back and let us know how you are doing.

    Love and Hugs,

    Cindi

  • Debi42
    Debi42 Member Posts: 2

    Hi Debi,

    Hi Debi,

    Welcome. It is not uncommon to have questions like yours when you hear that darn C word. I can tell you, it does get better over time. I'm going to assume you had the "garden variety" type of cancer and that is why no further treatment is needed. That is great news for you!  Three of my family members had the same type over the last 5 years and all are doing well.  A couple of suggestions - please use this as a wake up call and use it as a catalyst to get yourself healthy. And, live every day to its' fullest! 

    I had stage 1A Grade 3 cancer in 2015.  While I wouldn't wish this on anyone, I do have some great lessons learned from it. I wake up grateful every morning and don't take life for granted. Or health for that matter! Exercise is a daily habit now. While I still eat some bad stuff (love sweets!), I also eat mostly healthy food.

    Finally, you did not cause your cancer! Don't play the blame game with yourself. And, if you find it too difficult to get beyond the fear, please seek some counciling. You don't need to tough this out alone.

    Please come back and let us know how you are doing.

    Love and Hugs,

    Cindi

    Hi Cindi,

    Hi Cindi,

     

    Thanks for your reply!  Yes, I had adenocarcinoma which I think is the garden variety type you meant.  You're right--and I am trying to make some healtheir choices in my life and trying to get past the worry and blame game.  Reading here has been really helpful.  Just seeing how many people feel the same way I do and that my feelings are common makes me feel better.

    Thanks again!

    Debi

     

  • Kvdyson
    Kvdyson Member Posts: 790 Member
    Hi Debi, it's perfectly

    Hi Debi, it's perfectly normal to reflect on life and the choices that were made after getting a diagnosis like this. The challenge now is to move forward and to try not to let fear or regret take over your thoughts.

    The reality is that none of us is guaranteed a tomorrow. It's probably more likely that any one of us will get into a bad car accident but we don't obsess on how risky cars are - we just get into our cars and try to drive carefully. That's all any of us can do. Get back to living but maybe make some better decisions.

    I agree with Cindi, you did not cause this disease. Whether your cells stop dividing when they are supposed to or not is way beyond anything you can control.

    Stay hopeful. You'll get through this!