In shock for now...

Daylady, I am so sorry to hear this! And, I can't begin to know how you feel. But, this sucks BIG TIME!

What about Keytruda? Or one of the other immunotherapy drugs? LouAnn seems to be doing well on Keytruda.

Is surgery an option?

I so wish you did not have to deal with this. And I can't help but wonder if you should get another opinion?

Take care of yourself dear lady. Sending you major love and hugs tonight. 

Cindi

I am so sorry that this is happening to you.  Topotecan did nothing for me either.  No one knows how long we actually have on this earth.  Both my father and my grandmother lived several year longer than what a doctor told them.  And very recently a good freinds father was told he ha little time left.  He lived anther four years.  All had cancer.  There is always hope, but I do know how you feel.  A little over four months ago I was in a similar situation.  My doctor told me that the only chemo that were left for me had very harsh side effects and a small percentage of working and I would have to make a decision has to what I wanted to do.  I asked about immunotherapy and he jumped at it.  Merck approved me for KeyTrudy under a compassionate use program.  It seems to be working and I am hopeful.

Cry, scream, yell,, then hug your husband.

Hugs and prayers, Lou Ann

(((Helen))) I am so, so sorry you have to go through this.  Being told by your doctor that you have a year without or without treatment is just plain crazy!!  There are other alternative treatments out there.  You live in a metropolitan area with several cancer centers.  Surely you can get a second or third opinion.  

Love,

Eldri

Ms Daylady, if you are feeling good, not in any pain, and able to do your usual activities then you're certainly not going anywhere fast. Definately get another opinion and try and take it one good day at a time. My sister had stage 4 kidney cancer and a doctor told her she had 2 or 3 years to live. She lived 10 more years with a very good quality of life. When she would start having anxiety about her mortality, I would ask her well how do you feel today. If you're feeling good, then your not dying today, tomorrow, this week, and more than likely not this month. No doctor knows how long someone has until you're really really ill, in pain and feeling horrible which is not you. Sorry you are dealing with mental anguish because some doctor flat out took a guess about your mortality. Prove him wong, stay strong, believe that you will have all the time you want and it will happen. 

Red 

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I think we've seen time and again that doctors just don't know everything. Instead of giving you an expiration date, your doctor would have been more intelligent to just admit he couldn't answer that kind of question. I have more respect for doctors who can admit when they don't know and offer to help find out if there's an answer elsewhere. I think doctors have been trained to exude the impression that they are all-knowing so that we will take their word on everything they say without question. Sorry, but I can't be that kind of patient...none of us should be. Our questions will keep them on their toes and reinforce that they should never stop learning because the science never stops evolving. Please, pick yourself up from this setback, get mad and keep on fighting! This doctor, this cancer, does not have the final say. By all means see if you can't get the opportunity to try Keytruda. If cytotoxins don't work for you, it seems to make sense that this might. Sending hugs and prayers to give you strength. 

daylady, I can't imagine hearing that OR wrapping my head around it.  Please try to keep in mind you are a statistic of one.  There are people, even here on the boards, who have shown the doctors you don't have an expiration date. 

Hugs dear one. 

I am so sorry.  Prayers for you.