Horrible Twist

I'm sorry, no real advice since you know this path he has to take, just my agreeing that a couple starting out shouldn't have to deal with this crap. He's young and will handle treatment better, and science is moving ever closer to breakthroughs that may change the rules for him, so hold on, hang tough, and give them all the help you can...............................................Dave

My heart goes out to you. This shock and disbelief is what I felt when Ron was diagnosed with H&N cancer after watching Johnnybegood suffer for so long. The reaction of "how can this be happening again in my family". There is just no answer.

Remember though, that you are a shining example of the positive outcome possible. I hope that this will give him some comfort.

Luv,

Wolfen

Thank goodness he has you to assist in any medical jargon or potential treatments or any other questions about it. That's one thing this crap tends to do is make experts out of us when it comes to cancer. Or at least we become more knowledgeable than the average person. And there's nothgin like talking to someone who has been through it rather than the experts with all their stats. Poor guy, how scary for them. I'm glad they caught it relatively early, too often young people go undiagnosed for too long.

I hope he beats it and is well soon!

Jan

Sorry about the news about the son in law.

One thing I recommend to be done now and this is not often discussed because Colon Cancer is an old person's disease, right?  You need to make sure your daughter and son in law take a serious look at sperm banking.  It's a difficult subject to deal with especially in this situation.  But the time window is going to shrink drastically the longer they wait to tackle this.  Of course it's assuming they want to have kids.

I had only a week to deal with this before I started chemo treatment after my surgery.  I can readily identify with what they're going through.  I proposed just over a month prior to being diagnosed.  In the end, we didn't need to leverage the banked sperm.  We were fortunate to conceive naturally and with a healthy baby.  One of the biggest fears was genetic defects due to the 5FU treatment.  My oncologist said wait at least a year but he said others in the profession have recommended 2 years as there simply hasn't been any tracking of patients who are still in the years where they are likely to have children.  My wife didn't want to wait the full year after I ended treatment.  She got pregnant about 8 months after my treatment ended.

As an aside, I've never heard of radiation used for treating standard colon cancer...only for rectal cancer.

zx10guy said:

Sorry about the news about

Sorry about the news about the son in law.

One thing I recommend to be done now and this is not often discussed because Colon Cancer is an old person's disease, right?  You need to make sure your daughter and son in law take a serious look at sperm banking.  It's a difficult subject to deal with especially in this situation.  But the time window is going to shrink drastically the longer they wait to tackle this.  Of course it's assuming they want to have kids.

I had only a week to deal with this before I started chemo treatment after my surgery.  I can readily identify with what they're going through.  I proposed just over a month prior to being diagnosed.  In the end, we didn't need to leverage the banked sperm.  We were fortunate to conceive naturally and with a healthy baby.  One of the biggest fears was genetic defects due to the 5FU treatment.  My oncologist said wait at least a year but he said others in the profession have recommended 2 years as there simply hasn't been any tracking of patients who are still in the years where they are likely to have children.  My wife didn't want to wait the full year after I ended treatment.  She got pregnant about 8 months after my treatment ended.

As an aside, I've never heard of radiation used for treating standard colon cancer...only for rectal cancer.

It is used to shrink the tumor prior to surgery to remove it. Or possibly remove the tumor.

for your family.  That is far too young and so soon after getting married. I hope they have caught it early and that radiation is not needed. My husband and I were only married 18 months when I was diagnosed, but we were 10 years older.  It's hard but as others said will help to solidify their relationship.  For me keeping things as normal as possible really helped.  I kept my job, but took off 6 months for the post-surgery chemo. I insisted my husband continue on with his MBA program.  When I had recurrences I just kept working and took off time for the infusions.  It helped me to believe that I was going to make it despite the odds.

Hug them both tight, help where you can, and keep us posted.  I hope the surgery goes well and that it was caught early. Traci