Cervical ca HELP my spinning head. Does my ureter mean it's really back?

i have NOT posted my entire story, which began with breast in 2011, because every time I have come here it is in such a state of distress that I can barely formulate a thought. 

Most recently I was not easily diagnosed with cc the week I finished my radiation for my second BC!!  I had no gyn and I had befriended a Cancer Navigator locally. She encouraged me to find someone when I told her of my vague, but certain, pelvic discomfort. I went promptly to my first choice and a good one as I happened. My pap was normal. She wasn't really sure I knew what I was talking about but she agreed to scope me. Everything looked nor,al.... except a little squishy region on the way out. Well that was the SCC. She was upset about the outcome but glad, I'm sure, to send me down the road. 

Next stop top was a gyn onc who was terse, at best.  I knew he and I were going to hit a snag at some point. Second opinion was the only other gyn onc in town. She was better but delivered the news of my PET indelicately. OK. She sent me to the best thing that has happened to me. My radiation oncologist and his resident were immediately critical thinkers with patient care as a foremost concern. The piece of colon that lit up with one lymph node were of little concern. I was actually scheduled to begin the radiation for the cervix in a week. These kind men took my PET further. They sought radiologists' input until one said get that girl a colonoscopy. when they told me that would be five weeks I played all the proactive cards I had. A week later, despite his assurance that these rarely amount to anything, a nice gastroenterologist told me of the 4cm tumor in my sigmoid colon. Here goes. 

The rad oncs were the ones who kept it together for me. This all began in October and it was February before I could get the players together to get this done. February 4 2015 I had a hyster salipinngoophorectomy robotically. Remarkably easy recovery. From there until December 2015 I endured horrific radiation, brachytherapy and chemo. I survived and was glad to be done. Details only shared upon request. 

Approximately three weeks later I developed horrible sudden pain in my hip and buttock. I always think cancer. My medical onc dismissed it, as he does far too much. A month later my one year CT occurred with only my rad once to discuss it with me. No signs of malignancy. YEA!! But there's hydronephrosis. Could be cancer. We don't know. Go see urologist.  Within a week it was done with a function test the same day and a neph tube the following day. She also said it could be cancer but not as likely. She just wanted to remove the kidney. We agreed to wait four weeks and recheck function. Now it's April. Funny how time gets away when you are doing everything in logical sequence but at one a week months fly. 

Enter gyn onc. Dr C immediately said "this is cancer! and where have you been?" She advised waiting two months because CT was not revealing and repeat CT PET. I couldn't do that. Beloved rad onc saw my plight and scheduled an MRI. That was last Friday. Meanwhile, gyn onc called with pap findings.....___ grade squamous intraepithelial lesion. Let's do colposcopy and biopsies. Well, urologist picked up the MRI with the function test and called to tell me. I had to hear it from rad oncs. THERE IS A 2x2x4cm MASS AT THE VAGINAL CUFF that is behind the bladder and obstructing the ureter and probably causing the butt pain. 

We did biopsies yesterday and there is NOTHING ANYONE can do to soothe me. I think we did a horrible job of treating this the first time. No investigation into HPV or tumor profile or genotypes. I'm appalled. I'm scared to death. Is this my sentence? I have seen much info here. Most second sounds less than encouraging. I cannot process this. I am alone. No kids. No sibs. No man because the rotten b ran as soon as he heard cancer in 2011. I moved the same year so I am 90 miles from work, flat broke, workin as much as possible through these years of treatment. I have told only two people about this because the disregard is staggering and emphasizes how alone I truly am. 

Since thE MR and cytology I have developed edema at my ankle and prepubic. In the past it has resolved. Not as much this time. WHAT DO ALL OF MY SISTERS KNOW??? Thanks for reading and please help.