Shout out for the dilators!
Today I had my first post-treatment pelvic exam. I had a brief exam back in October with a radiologist, and it was quite painful. Since then, I've been using Cool Water cones, and the dilator that the radiology department gave me. Today's exam, while never pleasant, was much more comfortable. I had never had a physical exam in this doctor's exam room, since my pre-op appointment was done at my ob/gyn's office. I had to laugh when I laid down on the table and saw this on the ceiling: "Oh, I hate this!!!"
All looked and felt good to the doc, and he has put in the request for my first follow-up PET scan. I should be getting a call in the next day or so to schedule. Finally.
Chris
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Yea!
So glad you had a good exam. And, your PET scan is going to come back perfect too!
Love and Hugs,
Cindi
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That's great Chris! Love the
That's great Chris! Love the sign!
I've found another dilator option, a dilator that also has vibration. It's used as part of a whole program to improve vaginal function (dryness, size, etc.) after cancer. If anyone is interested I'd be glad to provide a link. The developers, a physician and sex counselor, are going to carry out clinical trials on the effectiveness of their approach
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Trying to see the positiveSandyD said:That's great Chris! Love the
That's great Chris! Love the sign!
I've found another dilator option, a dilator that also has vibration. It's used as part of a whole program to improve vaginal function (dryness, size, etc.) after cancer. If anyone is interested I'd be glad to provide a link. The developers, a physician and sex counselor, are going to carry out clinical trials on the effectiveness of their approach
in this situation (cancer diagnosis and treatment) and combatting the sense that I've lost any normality and control over my life. So I'm thinking that maybe I can use this medically based issue to also gain a more positive sense of my body.
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I'm interested. Anything toSandyD said:That's great Chris! Love the
That's great Chris! Love the sign!
I've found another dilator option, a dilator that also has vibration. It's used as part of a whole program to improve vaginal function (dryness, size, etc.) after cancer. If anyone is interested I'd be glad to provide a link. The developers, a physician and sex counselor, are going to carry out clinical trials on the effectiveness of their approach
I'm interested. Anything to get and keep things functioning nicely down there.
Chris
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Two different experiences
The first time it took a while. There was a problem with the pickup, and my shipment was lost. They promptly re-shipped, then the post office played around bouncing the package from office to office. The second time I think it took 4 days from order to delivery. Check the tracking to make sure something hasn't happened. That's how I discovered things were going screwy with the first order.
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LinksEditgrl said:I'm interested. Anything to
I'm interested. Anything to get and keep things functioning nicely down there.
Chris
Hi Chris,
Here's the info:
Here's the home page for A Woman's Touch: https://sexualityresources.com
Vibrator I ordered: https://sexualityresources.com/product/femani®-vibrating-massage-wand
Explains their program: https://sexualityresources.com/vaginal-renewal-program
Article with some background on how they started: http://isthmus.com/news/news/bringing-sexy-back-a-vibrator-developed-in-madison-restores-pleasure-for-women-following-cancer-and-menopause/
Sandy
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Thanks for the links.SandyD said:Links
Hi Chris,
Here's the info:
Here's the home page for A Woman's Touch: https://sexualityresources.com
Vibrator I ordered: https://sexualityresources.com/product/femani®-vibrating-massage-wand
Explains their program: https://sexualityresources.com/vaginal-renewal-program
Article with some background on how they started: http://isthmus.com/news/news/bringing-sexy-back-a-vibrator-developed-in-madison-restores-pleasure-for-women-following-cancer-and-menopause/
Sandy
I'll definitely check them out.
Chris
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Okay, this is all new to meEditgrl said:Two different experiences
The first time it took a while. There was a problem with the pickup, and my shipment was lost. They promptly re-shipped, then the post office played around bouncing the package from office to office. The second time I think it took 4 days from order to delivery. Check the tracking to make sure something hasn't happened. That's how I discovered things were going screwy with the first order.
Okay, this is all new to me and pretty foreign. Can I ask what these cool cone dialators are and how they help us? Hope this isn't a stupid question. I guess I could Google it. But, if I have you guys, then I'd rather hear it from you. Do I need to order one? If so, can you provide me with the link? Thank you, ladies. Still awaiting my pathology report. I'm assuming, "No news is good news!" I meet with my oncologist on the 9th. I will have all the findings back then.
In the meantime, I have been spending every minute researching the cold caps. Hoping they work for me. It's worth a try.
Love and hugs!
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WAIT
Charissa, to see if cones are something you need. Everyone is different. You will have time to get them if you need them. I understand how hard is this wait, the best thing you can "order up" is an afternoon at a spa to rest your mind and your emotions so if your body is ready for a soft massage (neck, face, shoulders) and a facial and soft music, scented candles and creamy lotions ORDER TODAY!
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Dilators
Dilators are used after radiation to keep the vaginal walls from closing up, to help restore capacity and elasticity. Think of them as a dildo without the fun component! In my case, I was losing some elasticity after surgery, so I began using a dilator and the cool cones even before my brachytherapy.
Recommended use is about 3 times a week, but since you're married, you'll be happy to know that sex can take the place of dilator use : )
If you don't have radiation, it will probably be a non-issue.
Chris
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Charissa, if you haveCharissa said:Okay, this is all new to me
Okay, this is all new to me and pretty foreign. Can I ask what these cool cone dialators are and how they help us? Hope this isn't a stupid question. I guess I could Google it. But, if I have you guys, then I'd rather hear it from you. Do I need to order one? If so, can you provide me with the link? Thank you, ladies. Still awaiting my pathology report. I'm assuming, "No news is good news!" I meet with my oncologist on the 9th. I will have all the findings back then.
In the meantime, I have been spending every minute researching the cold caps. Hoping they work for me. It's worth a try.
Love and hugs!
Charissa, if you have internal radiation, brachytherapy, where they place a wand in your vagina to deliver radiation to the vaginal cuff, it can cause stenosis - scarring, rigidity, dryness, and shortening to the vagina. Often women are given a hard, plastic dialator by their doctors to use after brachytherapy. As women are always so resourceful! and have found better ways to deal with this a treating ourselves. I know this all sounds very scary, but I would recommend not to get too far ahead of yourself and take this one step at a time. The wonderful warriors here at available to support you along the way.
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You guys are too good to me.NoTimeForCancer said:Charissa, if you have
Charissa, if you have internal radiation, brachytherapy, where they place a wand in your vagina to deliver radiation to the vaginal cuff, it can cause stenosis - scarring, rigidity, dryness, and shortening to the vagina. Often women are given a hard, plastic dialator by their doctors to use after brachytherapy. As women are always so resourceful! and have found better ways to deal with this a treating ourselves. I know this all sounds very scary, but I would recommend not to get too far ahead of yourself and take this one step at a time. The wonderful warriors here at available to support you along the way.
You guys are too good to me. Thank you, for your reassurance and enlightenment. I am still finding it hard to imagine my insides without a cervix. I still have five weeks to go before I can resume sexual activites with the hubby. I am going to be nervous and scared. I can't even imagine. But, from things I have read on here it sounds like it will all be fine. Like you said, I need to just take it one day at a time and not look ahead. Thank you, for the wonderful words of wisdom.
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Hello ladies, I met with my
Hello ladies, I met with my radiologist on Monday. He wants to do five brachytherapy treatments in lower doses vs. three treatments at a higher dose. I have my first treatment next Friday (July 1st). When he was explaining the dilator, I misunderstood. I thought he said I'd use it after each treatment for 5 minutes. However, his nurse clarified yesterday that it is used after I complete all five treatments and will need to be used for the next three years. She said the first year is daily, with the exception on the days you have intercourse. And, years two and three are every other day.
In addition to No Time for Cancer's great explanation, he also explained that with my particular Type of cancer he would be lowering the recurrence rate, with radiation, to my vagina from 20% to 1%. However, if I DO NOT use the dilator faithfully, it can cause stenosis (as broken down above in No Time for Cancer's reply), which means if I fall into the 1% category, he would not be able to administer radiation to that area a second time.
The dilator he showed me did not look impressive; more like a long, hard, plastic missile. I went ahead and ordered two Cool Water Cones (small and medium). They sounded very soothing and easy to work with. And, I like that they do not have any harsh chemicals, but rather are made with 100% all natural ingredients.
I ended up at Urgent Care this weekend. My bladder never stopped spasming at the end of the flow, but instead got worse. Ends up, I had a bladder infection. I'm thinking I had it from the time I left the hospital. But, with all the pain meds and thinking it was normal after the extensive surgery I ignored it. Plus, it wasn't like any bladder infection I have had in the past - where I had urgency to go frequently and burning upon eliminating. Instead, it was just spasming at the end of the flow and eventually started slightly burning. They put me on Cepro, which then caused a yeast infection.
My-oh-my, this poor body. Yesterday was my mammogram and today was my consultation for my colonoscopy. Luckily, she's allowing me to put that off until after I'm healed and done with radiation. You'd think we'd get cancer from all these exams and toxic stuff we have to drink. Yuck! I shouldn't complain. I now see the importance of these exams and the need to reamain pro-active vs. reactive.
Thank you all, again, for the wonderful information. I'll let you know how it goes. Love, hugs, and healing to all.
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Good info
Thanks for the info. I'll be heading downthat road after my chemo is done in 9 weeks. Please keep posting your experience.
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Charissa, It is interesting
Charissa, It is interesting how different our doctors are... I also had the 5 lower doses of brachytherapy. And, I was told I had to use the dialator two times per week or have sex two times per week or a combination of both per week. I am about 5 months out from by radiation and so far so good on keeping the stenosis away.
You will do fine with the brachy. If you haven't had a colonoscopy before.... the worst part is the prep the day before. The procedure didn't cause me any issues afterwards and I was asleep while they did it.
Love and Hugs,
Cindi
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CheeseQueen57, I will be sureCheeseQueen57 said:Good info
Thanks for the info. I'll be heading downthat road after my chemo is done in 9 weeks. Please keep posting your experience.
CheeseQueen57, I will be sure to provide an update as I move forward. I will have my first treatment in five days. P.S. I love your picture & darling hat. Such a pretty lady!
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