Sex

I think this is something we have all worried about. Brachytherapy can sometimes do a number "down there" but usually regular sex or using dilators regularly keep things in good working condition. There are also creams/ointments that help with lubrication. But this is also a difficult subject for our husbands. They are afraid of hurting us and can be reluctant to make the first move.

My first symptom of uterine cancer was when I had heavy bleeding after sex. It really traumatized my husband and  it took us quite a while to get back to a regular sex life. Things are good now, but it took us quite a while to relax and enjoy sex again. Definitely talk with your doctor, just to make sure everything is "up and running"!

love and hugs, Sandy

We waited for 6-weeks after surgery the first time. The gyn-onc had already given us the go-ahead. We were careful but everything worked fine. During chemo, we try to wait at least 3 days after the last day of each round so that most of the drugs are out of my body. I don't know for a fact that there would be any transfer but we've both decided that this works for us. During radiation (external), there were no limits placed at all. In fact, the rad-onc encouraged as much activity as possible. I loved that doc!  

Astroglide, best thing ever and weekly session. Best of blessings to keep hubby happy!!!!

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EZLiving66 said:

My oncologist's PA said I'm

My oncologist's PA said I'm good to go but so far, we haven't tried anything.  I had no pain during the examination and since I didn't have any radiation, I think that would continue.  Like your husband, my husband hasn't said a word except "I don't want to hurt you."  We're going to be at our lake house this weekend by ourselves and I thought maybe I'd bring up the subject.  Prior to the cancer we had a pretty good sex life, at least for a couple of old farts, and I miss it.  

Love,

Eldri

'Hon. although we are old farts I am missing sex with you, how about you my love ? 

He will surely know that cancer has not replaced him in your head and that's a good thing.

Ps. Don't say this to him at the mall or any place like that, don't be wearing a wig, nothing about wigs are ever sexy.

Get yourself in the right 'tude ,right place, right time ,and love each other, with  inhibitions banished to another location. All will be well, you'll see. 

Moli -with more unsolicited advice, LOL

but for my adorable husband and me sex just got too arduous! This cream. That estrogen ring. And so on. We mourned the loss of sex - also that we can no longer jump around the sailboat, also gliding down a ski slope without worry, also staying off tall ladders! But reality is best handled when faced.   There are lots of ways to express love, affection, intimacy. Do your own thing whatever that is!

I've always been one who gets urinary infections two or three times a year.  During chemo, I had them almost constantly.  I had antibiotics and as soon as I finished them, I got another infection.  I refused the Neulasta shot, and I think I kept getting the UTI's because my immune system was so bad from the chemo's having knocked it down. I sometimes have some feelings of irritation a couple of days before I get the major burning and frequency symptoms that go with my UTI's.  In fact, that happened to me this week.  I happened to be going to my PCP for some 6 month labwork for my thyroid and cholesterol checks and I just felt slightly uncomfortable "down there," so I asked to be checked.  Sure enough, another UTI.  I advise you to get it checked out before it gets worse, as others have advised.