new to the caregiver role- Intro

phuckcancer
phuckcancer Member Posts: 63 Member
in Caregivers #1

x-posted -

 

I'm so thankful for the internet. Thankful for the information available (even though sometimes TOO much information) as well as the communities and support groups that can be found.

Almost 3 weeks ago, after excruiating pain for weeks, we found out my husband has cancer (colon w/mets to liver). It was an absolute and complete shock and our lives have been turned upside down (as I know you all know far too well).

I am and will be his caregiver and he starts chemo next week.

I'm an emotional wreck and everyday is like a rollercoaster. What to say, what not to say, what to do , what not do, reading info, reading too much info, thoughts constantly invading and taking over my brain.

I just wanted to introduce myself and thank each of you ahead of time for listening, responding and supporting.

<3

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  • Ladylacy
    Ladylacy Member Posts: 773 Member
    #2
    Cargiver

    Sorry to hear about your husband.  Yes it is a roller coast and each day is different.  Caregiving is hard and you must remember to take care of yourself too.  I was my husband's caregiver for 5 years and we had our ups and downs.  When I would lose my temper I would always tell him that I loved him and that I wasn't mad at him but at the situation. 

    The best thing I can say is just remember everyone reacts differently to any situation.  Don't get too upset with yourself and take time for yourself because you will need it to stay sane and healthy.  And you count too.

    Wishing you both peace and comfort

  • Noellesmom
    Noellesmom Member Posts: 1,859 Member
    #3
    Sorry you are here

    This is a good place to come to vent and ask questions.

    Please remember to take care of yourself during this journey.

  • phuckcancer
    phuckcancer Member Posts: 63 Member
    #4
    Thank you so much for the


    Thank you so much for the welcome (even though I wish none of us had to be here)!

  • jorola
    jorola Member Posts: 243 Member
    #5
    phuckcancer said:

    Thank you so much for the


    Thank you so much for the welcome (even though I wish none of us had to be here)!

    wish you did not have to be here either

    to be a part of the group no one wants to be a part of

    I just joined this group too. excellant people!

    btw your name sent me into a laughing fit -good job

  • cheatinlil
    cheatinlil Member Posts: 197
    #6
    You are not alone.  I'm so

    You are not alone.  I'm so sorry you are here.  hugs

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