A new year and reflecting on the past here

Lovekitties
Lovekitties Member Posts: 3,364 Member
in Colorectal Cancer #1

6 years ago today, I became a member of this board.  I have been looking back at the old posts and remembering not only the caring and support I received, but also noticed that then we often put out posts which were just interesting (funny stories about our pets for one) or something which might be inspiring.

Here is a post I did in August that first year...I hope that it may remind us all...there is always more than one way to look at life.

Love to all,

Marie who loves kitties

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Whenever I'm disappointed with my spot in life, I stop and think about little Jamie Scott.

Jamie was trying out for a part in the school play.

His mother told me that he'd set his heart on being
in it, though she feared he would not be chosen.

On the day the parts were awarded, I went
with her to collect him after school.

Jamie rushed up to her,
eyes shining with pride and excitement..

'Guess what, Mom,' he shouted, and then said those words that will remain a lesson to me....

'I've been chosen to clap and cheer.'

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So folks, remember that here our lot in life has brought us to a place where we can clap and cheer (and sometimes shed a tear) for all who are here with us.

Marie who loves kitties

 

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  • John23
    John23 Member Posts: 2,122 Member
    #2
    Memories…

     

    That reminded me of when the Coach told me I should stay home and help my mom bake cookies.

     

     

     

    Happy 2016 !!

  • Trubrit
    Trubrit Member Posts: 5,804 Member
    #3
    Love it!

    I like to drop a semi or non-related post in now and again. I think it helps folks know that we are not just Cancer patients after all. We have a life. Sometimes it revolves around treatment, and then it seems it revolves around scans, but there is allot more to us, in-between and I like seeing that. 

    I am loving JanJan's post about her horses visit to the hospital. Even a lovely picture. We get to see her during her trial and also a part of her life with her beloved horses. 

    I loved Pepe's weekend posts as well. 

    So, thank you for this wonderful post. 

    And John, I hope you were more sucsessful making cookies with your mum that day. 

    Sue - Trubrit

  • JanJan63
    JanJan63 Member Posts: 2,478 Member
    #4
    It is easy to get bogged down

    It is easy to get bogged down with the cancer stuff. One of my goals is to never become like a former friend of mine who uses it to get what she wants and who seems to think it's a hero badge. She tells everyone she meets that she's beaten cancer within the first few minutes as if that's what defines her. She uses it by telling people so that they tell her what a hero she is and how brave and strong and sometimes to get perks. And she posts tons of cancer stuff on facebook. Yes, I'm an advocate for people getting tested and for early detection but I am so much more than just a cancer fighter. I am what I was before. I'm a huge animal advocate and a fighter against animal abuse and cruelty to anyone or anything vulnerable. I have a horse and three dogs and am an advocate for pitbulls, of which we have one and a pit crossed with a rottie as well as another little guy we took in when I still owned a dog daycare and he was being given up. I love talking about dog training and behaviour. I love fast cars and classics. I read voraciously and love to learn about history. I do crafts. I'd much rather talk about those things than cancer and what I went through. And I hardly feel like I'm in some exclusive club considering almost half of us will be diagnosed with it in our lifetime. So what makes me so special? That I lived? That I may have beaten it? At least for now.  That credit goes to my medical professionals and the fact that I just got lucky and they caught it at the right time. Or maybe because I had two bad infections after my surgery and there are studies that show that if you have an infection after surgery the likelihood of recurrence is much lower.  I sure didn't feel lucky about that at the time, though. And for people who say that I'm so strong and they could never go through what I did, what was I supposed to do? Refuse treatment and die? Sure, we've all been through some really crappy, horrific stuff but we do what we have to do and push though it. The professionals tell us what the treatment is and we get it done. What other option is there? 

  • John23
    John23 Member Posts: 2,122 Member
    #5
    Trubrit said:

    Love it!

    I like to drop a semi or non-related post in now and again. I think it helps folks know that we are not just Cancer patients after all. We have a life. Sometimes it revolves around treatment, and then it seems it revolves around scans, but there is allot more to us, in-between and I like seeing that. 

    I am loving JanJan's post about her horses visit to the hospital. Even a lovely picture. We get to see her during her trial and also a part of her life with her beloved horses. 

    I loved Pepe's weekend posts as well. 

    So, thank you for this wonderful post. 

    And John, I hope you were more sucsessful making cookies with your mum that day. 

    Sue - Trubrit

    The days of whine and no’s

    The Coach meant every day, Sue.

     

    I was never an athlete, although I did wrestle with others after too much Bourbon.

     

     

     

    I still make some pretty damned good cookies to this very day, however!
    (thank you Coach, wherever you are).

     

     

    Be well ya’ll  !!

     

     

    John

     

     

     

  • maglets
    maglets Member Posts: 2,576 Member
    #6
    JanJan63 said:

    It is easy to get bogged down

    It is easy to get bogged down with the cancer stuff. One of my goals is to never become like a former friend of mine who uses it to get what she wants and who seems to think it's a hero badge. She tells everyone she meets that she's beaten cancer within the first few minutes as if that's what defines her. She uses it by telling people so that they tell her what a hero she is and how brave and strong and sometimes to get perks. And she posts tons of cancer stuff on facebook. Yes, I'm an advocate for people getting tested and for early detection but I am so much more than just a cancer fighter. I am what I was before. I'm a huge animal advocate and a fighter against animal abuse and cruelty to anyone or anything vulnerable. I have a horse and three dogs and am an advocate for pitbulls, of which we have one and a pit crossed with a rottie as well as another little guy we took in when I still owned a dog daycare and he was being given up. I love talking about dog training and behaviour. I love fast cars and classics. I read voraciously and love to learn about history. I do crafts. I'd much rather talk about those things than cancer and what I went through. And I hardly feel like I'm in some exclusive club considering almost half of us will be diagnosed with it in our lifetime. So what makes me so special? That I lived? That I may have beaten it? At least for now.  That credit goes to my medical professionals and the fact that I just got lucky and they caught it at the right time. Or maybe because I had two bad infections after my surgery and there are studies that show that if you have an infection after surgery the likelihood of recurrence is much lower.  I sure didn't feel lucky about that at the time, though. And for people who say that I'm so strong and they could never go through what I did, what was I supposed to do? Refuse treatment and die? Sure, we've all been through some really crappy, horrific stuff but we do what we have to do and push though it. The professionals tell us what the treatment is and we get it done. What other option is there? 

    bogged

    haha you are right Jan.....it is easy to get bogged.....I find it just depends where you happen to be in the journey.  I started in 2005 and even though I appeared to be NED from 2010 until now I never really "counted " on it.  "I Beat Cancer" are words that will not come out of my mouth......I prefer to keep my head down and not tempt those nasty Cancer Creatures.

    My refuge, my solace my other life has always been our little cabin in the north of Ontario. It is -30 degrees here today with a pile of snow.  So much of my oxalyplatin treatment took place in weather like this.....the bed is heaped with quilts and I wear wonderful white wool socks.  And for a vacation I can travel in my mind to my little cabin in the woods ......smell it, hear the water and forget this lympnedema that is swelling my new surgery site.

    I too loved Pepe and his Friday enthusiasm....all those trips he would take to his sea shore house.....what a leader and a trooper he was.  I think about Steve too and the amputations he endured and I wonder about his children in England and how that family is doing....

    So many wonderful people have shown up for me on my latest round.....Tina and Angel's Baby, Gramma Deb, Kathleen, Tootsie. Ron...so so many people from the past.....I thank each and every one.....as we all start a new year...

    sending warm wishes from the very snowy north......mags,

  • Trubrit
    Trubrit Member Posts: 5,804 Member
    #7
    maglets said:

    bogged

    haha you are right Jan.....it is easy to get bogged.....I find it just depends where you happen to be in the journey.  I started in 2005 and even though I appeared to be NED from 2010 until now I never really "counted " on it.  "I Beat Cancer" are words that will not come out of my mouth......I prefer to keep my head down and not tempt those nasty Cancer Creatures.

    My refuge, my solace my other life has always been our little cabin in the north of Ontario. It is -30 degrees here today with a pile of snow.  So much of my oxalyplatin treatment took place in weather like this.....the bed is heaped with quilts and I wear wonderful white wool socks.  And for a vacation I can travel in my mind to my little cabin in the woods ......smell it, hear the water and forget this lympnedema that is swelling my new surgery site.

    I too loved Pepe and his Friday enthusiasm....all those trips he would take to his sea shore house.....what a leader and a trooper he was.  I think about Steve too and the amputations he endured and I wonder about his children in England and how that family is doing....

    So many wonderful people have shown up for me on my latest round.....Tina and Angel's Baby, Gramma Deb, Kathleen, Tootsie. Ron...so so many people from the past.....I thank each and every one.....as we all start a new year...

    sending warm wishes from the very snowy north......mags,

    Steve

    Oh Mags, I was wondering about Steve but could not remember his handle/name.  I came in around the time of his amputation. My, he tried it all to stay alive and then passed. I too wonder abuot his family. What was his handle/name? 

    Are you talking Ontatio Canada, or maybe California or Oregon (you don't need to post the answer, I will understand)? I lived in Onatrio Canada at one time. Ontatrio, Oregon and California are not far from where I live now. 

    I too can't get any kind of 'Cancer free or beat Cancer' words out of my mouth. I word it very carefully. 

    Sue - Trubrit

  • beaumontdave
    beaumontdave Member Posts: 1,289 Member
    #8
    JanJan63 said:

    It is easy to get bogged down

    It is easy to get bogged down with the cancer stuff. One of my goals is to never become like a former friend of mine who uses it to get what she wants and who seems to think it's a hero badge. She tells everyone she meets that she's beaten cancer within the first few minutes as if that's what defines her. She uses it by telling people so that they tell her what a hero she is and how brave and strong and sometimes to get perks. And she posts tons of cancer stuff on facebook. Yes, I'm an advocate for people getting tested and for early detection but I am so much more than just a cancer fighter. I am what I was before. I'm a huge animal advocate and a fighter against animal abuse and cruelty to anyone or anything vulnerable. I have a horse and three dogs and am an advocate for pitbulls, of which we have one and a pit crossed with a rottie as well as another little guy we took in when I still owned a dog daycare and he was being given up. I love talking about dog training and behaviour. I love fast cars and classics. I read voraciously and love to learn about history. I do crafts. I'd much rather talk about those things than cancer and what I went through. And I hardly feel like I'm in some exclusive club considering almost half of us will be diagnosed with it in our lifetime. So what makes me so special? That I lived? That I may have beaten it? At least for now.  That credit goes to my medical professionals and the fact that I just got lucky and they caught it at the right time. Or maybe because I had two bad infections after my surgery and there are studies that show that if you have an infection after surgery the likelihood of recurrence is much lower.  I sure didn't feel lucky about that at the time, though. And for people who say that I'm so strong and they could never go through what I did, what was I supposed to do? Refuse treatment and die? Sure, we've all been through some really crappy, horrific stuff but we do what we have to do and push though it. The professionals tell us what the treatment is and we get it done. What other option is there? 

    Good post, we in our lives

    Good post, we in our lives are all going to face all kinds of adversity. some kinds scarier than others, but that's perception, and we all do that differently too. I don't hide what I've been through, but I wouldn't wear it around like a badge of anything. I've been lucky in so many ways to get this far, and if I endure without crashing and burning, what were my other choices? I "talk" to people here because they've been through similiar hardships, and speaking in specifics that to most outside this little realm, comes off as obsessiveness, tmi, or just me making them uncomfortable. And like you Jan, I'd rather contain this part of my life, deal with it, and get back to the better stuff, even the mundane crap, without carrying any more baggage than I have to..................Dave                     

  • John23
    John23 Member Posts: 2,122 Member
    #9
    beaumontdave said:

    Good post, we in our lives

    Good post, we in our lives are all going to face all kinds of adversity. some kinds scarier than others, but that's perception, and we all do that differently too. I don't hide what I've been through, but I wouldn't wear it around like a badge of anything. I've been lucky in so many ways to get this far, and if I endure without crashing and burning, what were my other choices? I "talk" to people here because they've been through similiar hardships, and speaking in specifics that to most outside this little realm, comes off as obsessiveness, tmi, or just me making them uncomfortable. And like you Jan, I'd rather contain this part of my life, deal with it, and get back to the better stuff, even the mundane crap, without carrying any more baggage than I have to..................Dave                     

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  • maglets
    maglets Member Posts: 2,576 Member
    #10
    good one John......thanks

    Laughing good one John......thanks

  • danker
    danker Member Posts: 1,276 Member
    #11
    John23 said:

    The days of whine and no’s

    The Coach meant every day, Sue.

     

    I was never an athlete, although I did wrestle with others after too much Bourbon.

     

     

     

    I still make some pretty damned good cookies to this very day, however!
    (thank you Coach, wherever you are).

     

     

    Be well ya’ll  !!

     

     

    John

     

     

     

    Baking

    I too make cookies and the best banana bread ever.

  • Trubrit
    Trubrit Member Posts: 5,804 Member
    #12
    John23 said:

    Things I have gained through having Cancer:

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    Speaks words, John

    Thanks!

    Sue - Trubrit

  • beaumontdave
    beaumontdave Member Posts: 1,289 Member
    #13
    Loud and clear John, cancers

    Loud and clear John, cancers taken more then I'll ever get from it....................Dave

  • JanJan63
    JanJan63 Member Posts: 2,478 Member
    #14
    John23 said:

    Things I have gained through having Cancer:

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    John! You just about made me

    John! You just about made me pee myself! Thanks!!!!

  • Lovekitties
    Lovekitties Member Posts: 3,364 Member
    #15
    Trubrit said:

    Steve

    Oh Mags, I was wondering about Steve but could not remember his handle/name.  I came in around the time of his amputation. My, he tried it all to stay alive and then passed. I too wonder abuot his family. What was his handle/name? 

    Are you talking Ontatio Canada, or maybe California or Oregon (you don't need to post the answer, I will understand)? I lived in Onatrio Canada at one time. Ontatrio, Oregon and California are not far from where I live now. 

    I too can't get any kind of 'Cancer free or beat Cancer' words out of my mouth. I word it very carefully. 

    Sue - Trubrit

    Steved

    Steved was the "handle" for the valiant young man you are referring to.

    This is the link from his wife on his passing  http://csn.cancer.org/node/260854

    Marie who loves kitties

  • Trubrit
    Trubrit Member Posts: 5,804 Member
    #16
    Lovekitties said:

    Steved

    Steved was the "handle" for the valiant young man you are referring to.

    This is the link from his wife on his passing  http://csn.cancer.org/node/260854

    Marie who loves kitties

    Thanks Marie

    And what a sad thread, at least 13 friends posted in that thread have now gone. 

    Sue - Trubrit

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