Emotional support

Caseej23
Caseej23 Member Posts: 1
edited November 2015 in Breast Cancer #1

I am an emotional wreck, I moved to a new city to be with my daughter and she has acted like I am a huge intrusion ever since. I was sick with Heart problems and fybermioliga when I came here and also needed surgery on my neck. Heart problem solved. Before surgery was scheduled for my neck I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I had a double mastectomy on the 29th of Sept and had breast implants put in durring surgery. My daughter droopped me off at the hospital for my surgery and also visited once. No one has ever talked to me about how I feel, in fact no one really speaks to me at all. All of my kids think I am making a big deal out of nothing since I didn't need chemo or radiation. The two that live 3 hours away talk to me if I initiate the call and neither has been to see me. I spend 5 out of 7 days alone in my room, and I only leave the house for appointments. I have NO human contact other than doctors. Having just moved here when all my problems came to a peak, I do not know a single soul in the entire State other than my kids. I feel like a depression is setting in so deep that it scares me more than the cancer ever did. Has anyone else gone through this with no emotional support? I am wondering how I am going to get through this with the overwhelming depression and lonelyness, all I want to do is quit and leave. I have no where to go but I'm a camper at heart.

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  • VickiSam
    VickiSam Member Posts: 9,079 Member
    #2
    Please check with a social worker associated with

    your Oncologist or Hospital.. Check to see if any Support groups available in your Area.  It will help to have outside support - other than family.

    yes, folks think breast cancer is no big deal as they see all the money being raise for research - or see stories of celebrities that have faced breast cancer - all made up and pretty doe the cameras and television interviews.  No one shows the journey and suffering to get to the "finish line" of breast cancer.

    Strength, Courage and Hope for a Cure.

    Vicki Sam

  • disneyfan2008
    disneyfan2008 Member Posts: 6,583 Member
    #3
    We are here for you! not the

    We are here for you! not the same as in person...but  WE get it!

     

    So sorry your fmaily acts like this in nothing in YOUR LIFE to be concerned or back you. Check our cancer center therapist, social workers or support groups!!


    I kept a journal, though I thought it was goofy-in hind sight it helped me. (social worker at cancer ctr gave one to me)

     

    Denise.

  • Teach76
    Teach76 Member Posts: 354 Member
    #4
    Sending Hugs

    I have come through 6 rounds of Neoadjuvant chemo, and I know the lonely hours.  Since I never seemed too sick in front of family, I don't think they ever got how bad it was.  This last round has knocked me out - not really eating in 4 days, sleeping most of the time.

    I have a wonderful friend who calls me everyday or stops by.  While at times I think I may even fall asleep on the phone, she perseveres.  Maybe there is someone you can connect with?  if not, ask your nurse navigator about a support group.  Even if you can't get there, they may have some who would be willing to call.

    Of course, please come and visit us often!  You can be as much "company" for us as we can be for you.

    Blessings!

  • LouisaP
    LouisaP Member Posts: 62
    #5
    Teach76 said:

    Sending Hugs

    I have come through 6 rounds of Neoadjuvant chemo, and I know the lonely hours.  Since I never seemed too sick in front of family, I don't think they ever got how bad it was.  This last round has knocked me out - not really eating in 4 days, sleeping most of the time.

    I have a wonderful friend who calls me everyday or stops by.  While at times I think I may even fall asleep on the phone, she perseveres.  Maybe there is someone you can connect with?  if not, ask your nurse navigator about a support group.  Even if you can't get there, they may have some who would be willing to call.

    Of course, please come and visit us often!  You can be as much "company" for us as we can be for you.

    Blessings!

    I was in a similar situation

    I was in a similar situation & I had to reconnect with people. Are you on Facebook? I wasn't but a high school friend was getting old friends together  few years ago & found me. She told me to get on Facebook & it's actually been a good thing. Took me a while to get used to that kind of social interaction but it's better now. Since my diagnosis i've been on more. I had only told a few people but after 8 months I mentioned it on Facebook & it's nice to get well wishing messages. People found me & I also looked up and found people.  A couple high school friends I hadn't seen in almost 40 years have become a good support to me. I'm only an hour away so we have gotten together. I have to push myself to initiate messages or texts to people but I'm getting better at it. Laughing I don't know your age but most towns have a senior center. The one by me you have to be 60 to participate. There is also an internet thing called Meetup. It has lots & lots of groups of hobbies etc that groups of people go out & do activities. I belong to a couple groups I go out to dinner & lunch with, a movie group & a couple book clubs & others. I've done some fun stuff. You just join groups & sign up to go to events that sound good to you. Remember everyone there is a stranger so that takes some of the awkwardness away. You just go on the site Meetup.com put in your zipcode & theyll show you what groups there are. You can search by topics too, Good luck.

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