Lost My Fiancée on June 2 to ovarian, stage 4.

Christian1313
Christian1313 Member Posts: 1
in Ovarian Cancer #1

Hi, My name is Chris.  Just lost my Love on June 2nd. Hoping to find some people who understand what I'm going through... Thanks...Cry

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  • molimoli
    molimoli Member Posts: 514
    #2
    Death Is cruel to the people left behind to mourn,oh so cruel !

    Christian ,I am very sorry to hear of your fiancee's passing. I understand your pain, it's a pain without description,a pain that only time will dull but never take away, For you there will come no time when her  passing will ever be ok ,but I hope there will come a time when you will be ok enough to  start living again.You won't see it now but it will come , it's not around the bend ,it's way-way yonder,just stay strong  and you will surprise yourself and wonder how you lived through it. I can only wish you peace of mind  soon. Cry when you want to, scream out loud when you must, Ask the question "how can this be " over and over again, fully knowing there will be no answer, take long frequent walks as you throw out  questions to the universe and the supposed powers that be with every breath and every step, none of it will ever make sense, but it allows time to pass.Time will be your only rescue from this arrest, hug her memories minutely.Been there done that,pain was my constant  friend. now we meet briefly.I couldn't maintain pain's disfunctional friendship and stay alive. Hope you find so soon., renewed strength every day , my wish ,prayer,and hope for you.

                       Molimoli 

  • lovesanimals
    lovesanimals Member Posts: 1,366 Member
    #3
    molimoli said:

    Death Is cruel to the people left behind to mourn,oh so cruel !

    Christian ,I am very sorry to hear of your fiancee's passing. I understand your pain, it's a pain without description,a pain that only time will dull but never take away, For you there will come no time when her  passing will ever be ok ,but I hope there will come a time when you will be ok enough to  start living again.You won't see it now but it will come , it's not around the bend ,it's way-way yonder,just stay strong  and you will surprise yourself and wonder how you lived through it. I can only wish you peace of mind  soon. Cry when you want to, scream out loud when you must, Ask the question "how can this be " over and over again, fully knowing there will be no answer, take long frequent walks as you throw out  questions to the universe and the supposed powers that be with every breath and every step, none of it will ever make sense, but it allows time to pass.Time will be your only rescue from this arrest, hug her memories minutely.Been there done that,pain was my constant  friend. now we meet briefly.I couldn't maintain pain's disfunctional friendship and stay alive. Hope you find so soon., renewed strength every day , my wish ,prayer,and hope for you.

                       Molimoli 

    Dear Chris

    I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved fiancee to this horrible beast.  May all of the good memories of her help to sustain you in the difficult days ahead.

    Hugs,

    Kelly

  • mopar
    mopar Member Posts: 1,972 Member
    #4
    MY CONDOLENCES, CHRISTOPHER

    I am so very sorry, Christian.  We all understand what you are going through and you are welcome to continue to come here as often as you wish.  My heartfelt prayers to you and your family, and your fiance's family as well.  Focus on your memories, and in time, it will get a little easier to cope.  

    With Deepest Sympathy,

    Monika

     

  • pandagypsy
    pandagypsy Member Posts: 113 Member
    #5
    Hi Chris

    I'm sorry for your loss...........I don't know what to say, since I an THE ONE with stage IV ovarian cancer. My husband has been a trooper, but I know what the inevitable is.........I would hope that someone in your position would log on and share in your grief, spmething I wish my husband of 42 years could do.  He only gets angry at the disease and the doctors.......and I just try to not talk about the elephant in the room............Best Wishes to you...........

  • CSabol
    CSabol Member Posts: 6
    edited August 2016 #6
    So sorry

    So sorry for your loss.  

  • MAbound
    MAbound Member Posts: 1,168 Member
    #7
    Dear Chris

    I am so sorry for what you are going through! Give yourself the time you need to grieve, however long that may take. I can tell you from experience that the memories that cause you pain now will  someday give you comfort because they will keep your lost love with you always. Those memories are her gift to you and she won't want them to make you sad forever. Live your life and be happy again when your ready because that's what she'd want most for you.  God Bless You!

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