%$#&^# Cancer - My Mother In Law just Passed Away

NewHere
NewHere Member Posts: 1,428 Member
in Colorectal Cancer #1

In addition to my issue, my wife's Mom has had a different form of cancer.  She just passed away.  Trying to figure out arrangements and how I can be there with my schedule.  Will have to kick the next chemo session down the road and try to rest as much as possible.  

This just sucks.

 

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  • LivinginNH
    LivinginNH Member Posts: 1,456 Member
    #2
    I'm so sorry that you've lost

    I'm so sorry that you've lost you mom-in-law, my sincere condolences to you and your family.

    With sympathy,

    Cynthia

  • lizard44
    lizard44 Member Posts: 409 Member
    #3
    So sorry

    to hear about your mother-in-law.  This must be so hard on you and your wife - - having to deal with this hateful disease on two fronts at once. I hope you can work it out to be there for the funeral.

  • Trubrit
    Trubrit Member Posts: 5,804 Member
    #4
    So very sorry to hear this

    Please accept my most sincere condolonces and please share them with your wife. 

    How cruel this disease is. 

    Sue - Trubrit

  • NewHere
    NewHere Member Posts: 1,428 Member
    #5
    Thanks All

    I was always so fortunate since my in-laws were amazing.  I was really close to them, and walking away now when ctearing up so my wife is not seeing it.  She knows how much I loved her parents and how much they loved me, so not sure if I am hiding it too well.

    And you all know how this affects those around you.  My wife has been a rock through all this, but once in awhile between her Mom and myself, once in awhile I see her fear and crying a bit.  More so if she thinks a bit too much about me and what is ahead, what came up on scans (too small) and seeing me more than I see myself as the chemo does what chemo does.  That is the toughest for me, more so than having the cancer and chemo.

    Need to speak to my doctor tomorrow to figure this out.  I am in the second 17 day cycle due to Memorial Day, he does not want to stack them too close.  Not sure how long it is okay to extend between them.  Will be on phone with the TSA, seems some pre phone calls needed before flying with Port.  Also have my surgery implant card.

    As much as this cancer sucks, I will say it once again.  The people here are the best and make help this journey easier.  I dare say even positive in many respects in seeing the best of people time and again.

  • herdizziness
    herdizziness Member Posts: 3,624 Member
    #6
    NewHere said:

    Thanks All

    I was always so fortunate since my in-laws were amazing.  I was really close to them, and walking away now when ctearing up so my wife is not seeing it.  She knows how much I loved her parents and how much they loved me, so not sure if I am hiding it too well.

    And you all know how this affects those around you.  My wife has been a rock through all this, but once in awhile between her Mom and myself, once in awhile I see her fear and crying a bit.  More so if she thinks a bit too much about me and what is ahead, what came up on scans (too small) and seeing me more than I see myself as the chemo does what chemo does.  That is the toughest for me, more so than having the cancer and chemo.

    Need to speak to my doctor tomorrow to figure this out.  I am in the second 17 day cycle due to Memorial Day, he does not want to stack them too close.  Not sure how long it is okay to extend between them.  Will be on phone with the TSA, seems some pre phone calls needed before flying with Port.  Also have my surgery implant card.

    As much as this cancer sucks, I will say it once again.  The people here are the best and make help this journey easier.  I dare say even positive in many respects in seeing the best of people time and again.

    Port

    I've flown many, many times since having the port put in over 5 years ago.  Never had to contact TSA about it, never had a problem going through either type of metal detector or scanner, so you don't have to worry about that, flown through busiest airports, La Guardia, Minneapolis/St. Paul, Atlanta, etc.  never had to pull out surgery card, but you have it just in case you have problems (never brought mine with me due to forgetfulness, but then again never needed it).

    This is at least one less thing you have to worry about dealing with.

    Im so sorry about your mother-in-law, my condolences to you and your wife.  It is never easy losing your mother and my deepest sympathies to your wife on her loss.  

    Winter Marie

  • Easyflip
    Easyflip Member Posts: 588 Member
    #7
    So sorry

    Peace to your mother in law and you and your family. Cancer does suck. I've flown many times with my port and I've not had a problem. There was a woman with cancer who looked sick and that was enough for the attendants to pull her off the plane, you may want to get a doctors note to say it's ok to fly just in case.

    Easyflip/Richard

  • jen2012
    jen2012 Member Posts: 1,607 Member
    #8
    NewHere said:

    Thanks All

    I was always so fortunate since my in-laws were amazing.  I was really close to them, and walking away now when ctearing up so my wife is not seeing it.  She knows how much I loved her parents and how much they loved me, so not sure if I am hiding it too well.

    And you all know how this affects those around you.  My wife has been a rock through all this, but once in awhile between her Mom and myself, once in awhile I see her fear and crying a bit.  More so if she thinks a bit too much about me and what is ahead, what came up on scans (too small) and seeing me more than I see myself as the chemo does what chemo does.  That is the toughest for me, more so than having the cancer and chemo.

    Need to speak to my doctor tomorrow to figure this out.  I am in the second 17 day cycle due to Memorial Day, he does not want to stack them too close.  Not sure how long it is okay to extend between them.  Will be on phone with the TSA, seems some pre phone calls needed before flying with Port.  Also have my surgery implant card.

    As much as this cancer sucks, I will say it once again.  The people here are the best and make help this journey easier.  I dare say even positive in many respects in seeing the best of people time and again.

    I'm so sorry.  I lost my mom

    I'm so sorry.  I lost my mom in the fall..it sucks.  My husband was also very close with my mom.  Closer than he was with his own.  I don't think you need to hide your sadness.  It was helpful to me to know that he shared my sadness.  

  • JanJan63
    JanJan63 Member Posts: 2,478 Member
    #9
    Easyflip said:

    So sorry

    Peace to your mother in law and you and your family. Cancer does suck. I've flown many times with my port and I've not had a problem. There was a woman with cancer who looked sick and that was enough for the attendants to pull her off the plane, you may want to get a doctors note to say it's ok to fly just in case.

    Easyflip/Richard

    I'm so, so sorry. Cancer

    I'm so, so sorry. Cancer sucks. I remember going to a seminar at the beginning of my journey and them saying that 47% of people will be diagnosed with it. I spent months where I'd be with groups of people and look around and wonder who else. I was shocked and overwhelmed by the idea that almost half of us will get the diagnosis. If I was in a group of four I'd be thinking 'one other person besides me, who will it be?'. It drove me nuts and became almost an obsession. Our neighbour has had it and when I was diagnosed I thought 'wow, two of us on the same block' now I think 'who else on our block?'

    I've lost several family members to it including my mom. When I think of it all I can think of is 'f&$k cancer'.

    Jan

  • janderson1964
    janderson1964 Member Posts: 2,215 Member
    #10
    I am sorry for your loss.

    I am sorry for your loss.

  • John212
    John212 Member Posts: 116 Member
    #11
    Well, that sucketh

    I'm so sorry to read this. Rest up do your best to be yourself. I'll be thinking of you and your family.

  • danker
    danker Member Posts: 1,276 Member
    #12
    janderson1964 said:

    I am sorry for your loss.

    I am sorry for your loss.

    My condolences

    My condolences to you on your loss!

  • sflgirl
    sflgirl Member Posts: 220 Member
    #13
    Condolences

    So sorry for your loss.  Keep yourself as well as possible if you can.

  • hippiechicks
    hippiechicks Member Posts: 509 Member
    #14
    So very sorry for your loss. 

    So very sorry for your loss.  This disease does suck .. it is just never ending .. family, friends, spouses, children .. it just does not care! 

    She is at peace .. let her wonderful memories shine through this sadness. I have found talking about good memories, funny times, thoughtful times, and silly times have helped while dealing with both passings of my in-laws. 

    My condolences to you and your wife.

  • Maxiecat
    Maxiecat Member Posts: 544 Member
    #15
    I am so sorry... we lost my

    I am so sorry... we lost my mother-in-law (my husband's step-mom) to ovarian cancer on Sunday.

     

  • lilpep1972
    lilpep1972 Member Posts: 80
    #16
    Sorry brutha

    Very sorry to hear bout mom in law.. stay strong brutha!!  we all here for ya .. 

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