Celebrating one year

HobbsDoggy said:

Local Cancer Group and On Here

No exactly in your shoes and shall we say a little older than you, well in all honestly very much older than you.  You will find support on here I am sure.  Please check out local cancer support groups, they were and are a major help for me.  Even if there is not someone your aga or who has the exact condition in the group they can stil be of great help.  If there is a phychologist where you got treatment use them also, the one here was fantastic.

Congratulations on the one year mark! Even though ages and circumstances differ for each of us, we will support you in anyway we can.

Sorry you need to be here but this is the best support group you will ever find. I can still remember my 20's, but I am so glad you got to keep one vocal cord. Not being able to sing will be rough, but it could have been so much worse. My tumor was laying on my left vocal cord but my lungs were too bad so they had to remove my larynx and I now breath through my neck. I can still talk but I never could sing, at least where anyone would want to hear me. My wonderful children asked me to stop Dad, but we still love you. They got all of mine and 18 months free of it. It is very sad that anyone has this but even more so when they are so young. The thing to alwasy remember is it could have been so much worse. You just take one day at a time and you can get through anything. If you have a bad or sad day just come here and write it down, it helps to beable to talk with ones that have been through this and do know how you feel. My doctor cane in and said, you can't survive surgery or radiation! I thought it was over, then he said If we give you a trach and you breath through your neck forever and we remove your larynx we can do the surgery. It was right then I knew I would beat this and did. Thank you for letting us know it is your one year mark, Congrats..........

Bill

Sorry you find yourself in this position at such a young age. I can't be of much help with losing a vocal cord and with Bill mentioning your a singer I can imagine your feeling life is pretty rough right now. My voice went through a major change after my battle. I went from Barry White to Tiny Tim and although I will never get back to Barry White people tell me even after 5 years my voice is getting back to what it was. In my line of work I had to use my old stern voice to get points across to people I now use a different approach.

There are two points I want to make. 1. Never give up hope that things will get better and 2. You found the best support group on the web. The fine folks on here will not only get you through treatmernt but help you through life.

Enjoy the day...................I do every one of them

      Jeff

kmcrae77 said:

Hey There

Thank you, I know as time goes on it will get easier. I never thought it was even a possibility to have to deal with cancer at a young age. It's crazy how one minute my life is normal and the next it is not. I have a hard time connecting with people my age now. I used to be really social and have a lot of friends and after all of this happened, I dont really have a lot to connect with people my age. Everyone is all about going out and partying and drinking right now around me and honestly I just don't want to do that stuff anymore. I have just grown up a lot and it makes it difficult. Especially when people will pity me and it is almost too much for my friends to handle, so instead they push themselves away. I am glad to have found a support group here on this site. 

Thanks for the good wishes,

Kylee

Kylee, i'm sorry for all you've been through and all the changes this damn disease has brought in your life and that you've had to really grow up overnight.  i also lost friends when dx.  some people just don't know how to deal with such a serious illness.  i also had cancer of the larynx.  I had 35 rad tx in 10/09.  then recurrence in 2012 and total laryngectomy 2/28/12.  today, i am 3 years cancer free.  are you still able to talk?  i talk with a prosthesis.  btw, I am 58 and was 53 when originally dx.  i pray you will find yourself again and start to enjoy life and your friends again.  you're interests may have changed but that doesn't mean you have to give up every part of your life before cancer.  find the "new" you and go from there.  also, adding new friends to the ones you already have could be a great experience too.  they wouldn't have to know what all you've been through.  i truly hope and pray you are able to get back to being socil again.  you are too young to let life pass you by!  Congratulations on one year and here's to 95 more!  Please, get out there and enjoy your life.  There is still a lot out there to see and do besides partying and drinking!  find what makes you happy and then live it up!

God bless you,

dj