did the dr. call with malignant biopsy results or bring you to office?

matikin
matikin Member Posts: 6
in Breast Cancer #1

did you recieve bad news over the phone or in the office?

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  • faith_trust_and_a_little_bit_of_chemotherapy
    faith_trust_and_a_little_bit_of_chemotherapy Member Posts: 319 Member
    #2
    over the phone...

    My ob/gyn called my cellphone at work.  She further informed me that she had contacted an oncological breast surgeon and he was waiting for my call.  

    Two weeks later I was the proud owner of a dozen or so useless brassieres and five years later I get to tell the story of "How I spent my 54th year."

     

  • Rague
    Rague Member Posts: 3,653 Member
    #3
    My biopsies were done  by 3

    My biopsies were done  by 3 on Thurs afternoon.  Dr said he'd call me the next morning with the path.  He did at 8 with what was expected - IBC.  That was Fri and I saw my Surgeon on Mon, Rads Dr on Wed, and Chemo Dr on Thurs.

  • matikin
    matikin Member Posts: 6
    #4
    thanks ladies

    i am worried they will call when im alone so i think im gonna play it safe and hang with my mother in law all day so im not alone. i think a visit would be better for bad news, but i guess it depends on the clinic

  • mjjones453
    mjjones453 Member Posts: 155
    #5
    Mine called me...

    into the office! I am very appreciative of that. He was able to explain things to me, answer questions as well as he could, and then gave me a list of surgeons to call! He really was there for me!

  • Double Whammy
    Double Whammy Member Posts: 2,832 Member
    #6
    mjjones453 said:

    Mine called me...

    into the office! I am very appreciative of that. He was able to explain things to me, answer questions as well as he could, and then gave me a list of surgeons to call! He really was there for me!

    Mine called

    At the time I thought it seemed I would have preferred being told in person, but in hindsight I'm glad she called me at home so I could digest it all.  I had 2 phone calls - one to let me know I had endometrial cancer and the second about a week later to tell me I also had breast cancer.  When I had my consults for each, the oncology folks explained everything to me.  I had an opportunity to look things up, join CSN, and let things settle a bit so I could ask (relatively) smart questions.  My pcp was not the one to make any of the treatment decisions, so all she could do was guess what they might do with me anyway.  She was there for me all along the way tho, and everyone managed to stay informed because of the electronic medical record.  I really liked that - I knew that at least 2 minutes prior to seeing someone, s/he might have seen what else was going on.   My gyn oncologist always commented on what the breast folks were doing and visa versa.    They may not have thought about me at all between visits, but at those visits, they were well informed.  Ditto with my pcp. 

  • GlowMore
    GlowMore Member Posts: 789 Member
    #7
    Biopsy*

    The Radiologist who did my Biopsy came out afterward and knelt down beside me and looked me in the eyes and told me that she was pretty sure it was going to be bad news and she wanted to know if I had a support group of any kind.  I was a Widow living alone and my sons lived on the West Coast.  I told her I had friends at church.  The next morning I received a call from the Hospital from a person with a foreign accent who informed me I had Invasive Ductile Breast Cancer.  I honestly can't remember the exact sequence of events after that...but anyway within days I had the Surgery lined up for a Lumpectomy.  

  • desertgirl947
    desertgirl947 Member Posts: 653 Member
    #8
    Office, although I had

    Office, although I had suspicions before I as told.

    Some things are ok to hear by phone, but not this.

  • cinnamonsmile
    cinnamonsmile Member Posts: 1,187 Member
    #9
    My breast surgeon called me

    My breast surgeon called me to give me the news I had cancer on a Friday. She let me know I had cancer, but it wasn't terrbile, and I didn't have to worry about dying from it (I had DCIS, Stage 0).

    She was leaving for a few weeks to study for her boards, but she came in special for me on Monday because she said it would be mean to give me the news on a Friday, then have to wait a few weeks to see her!!

     

     

  • matikin
    matikin Member Posts: 6
    #10
    thank you ladies, i have my

    thank you ladies, i have my mother in law spening the night in case they call first thing monday. we pretty much think its gonna be bad news. one more day of waiting...ughhh!!!!

  • Chrissy225
    Chrissy225 Member Posts: 1
    #11
    The radiologist called at

    The radiologist called at 8:28am two days after the biopsy: Wednesday, October 22, 2014. I knew he knew when he did the biopsy; his voice changed a bit. I asked if he could fax the pathology report which he did.

    Here's the funny thing: he said I could call him any time if I had any questions. I called him a few hours later. Didn't pick up. Then again, didn't pick up. And again, and again, 12 times, like a stalker.

    The office finally told me he wasn't at work that day. He had called me from home.

    Got the breast MRI that Friday, met the surgeon on Monday, found out I was Stage 2A DCIS, triple positive. Was told about the neoadjuvent Herceptin, Perjeta, TDM1 trial, met the oncologist on Tuesday and began the process of being accepted to the study.

    In the study and LOVING LIFE!!!!! Feel great, have my hair, minimal side effects,  can't feel the tumor. 2 more infusions, then a lumpectomy and the rest of the trial. 

    Lots of luck--think positive, listen to your favorite music and get on with life!!

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