crying in the evening

Hello everyone I have stage IV breast cancer and I am currently on arimadex.  I just wanted to know if anyone else has this problem.  I am ok in the morning up until about 2pm, but then I start to feel tired and flu like symptoms and I cry at the drop of a hat and cannot stop crying.  It only happens in the afternoon and evening.

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  • New Flower
    New Flower Member Posts: 4,294
    Hi and welcome

    Being diagnosed with cancer is a pretty traumatic event. It take weeks to cope. Stage IV is not a picnic, you might need to check your blood making sure all of your parameters are in normal range. Arimidex is antiestrogen which also can make you sad, tired and depressed . Please talk to your doctor about your symptoms 

    we all cry a lot , cancer is horrible event and grief is normal 

    hugs

  • sherri4life
    sherri4life Member Posts: 4

    Hi and welcome

    Being diagnosed with cancer is a pretty traumatic event. It take weeks to cope. Stage IV is not a picnic, you might need to check your blood making sure all of your parameters are in normal range. Arimidex is antiestrogen which also can make you sad, tired and depressed . Please talk to your doctor about your symptoms 

    we all cry a lot , cancer is horrible event and grief is normal 

    hugs

    thank you.  good to have

    thank you.  good to have someone to talk too. I also have type II diabeties and I have been having trouble keeping my blood sugars down.  Do you think it could be the cancer or the medication?

  • Puffin2014
    Puffin2014 Member Posts: 531 Member

    thank you.  good to have

    thank you.  good to have someone to talk too. I also have type II diabeties and I have been having trouble keeping my blood sugars down.  Do you think it could be the cancer or the medication?

    blood sugars

    Stress in general will make blood sugars go up, so hard to say at this point what the cause is.

  • GlowMore
    GlowMore Member Posts: 789 Member
    Talk to your Onc

    You have every reason to cry....but sometimes the crying comes from a chemical mess up with all the meds etc...and that blood sugar thing can do it.   I just HATED that crying I couldn't stop....but when I stopped some of my meds for sleeping and anxiety I found that the crying went away...so yes...sometimes it is a chemical thing.    Also, depression can make us cry ...out of the blue.  It's ok..........you are human and you are afraid and you are overcome with the stress of all of it.   ***One thing about BC it puts everything into perspective and once we realize that the Fear is no help at all...Fear just paralyses us... but when we start thinking about the FACT that all we really have is NOW...we sort of begin to stop a lot of stuff we used to do.   I do hope that you will find some Peace soon.  We are here for you and you have made a start by coming here....keep posting...We KNOW how it feels....we send you Love and Prayers .. Gloria       

  • disneyfan2008
    disneyfan2008 Member Posts: 6,583 Member
    no advice
     
    just thinking of

    no advice

     

    just thinking of you

     

    Denise

  • sweetvickid
    sweetvickid Member Posts: 459 Member
    a couple of reasons

    Sometimes we cry because our bodies need to get rid of the stress.  Also as the day progresses you are getting more tired and that will trigger crying.  It's believed to release stress hormones or toxins from the body,

  • RozHopkins
    RozHopkins Member Posts: 578 Member
    Yes difficult.  If getting a

    Yes difficult.  If getting a good nights sleep doesn't sound like depression, usually sleep too much or hardly at all and sadness rarely lifts.  Could be a mix of the Arimadex and your body make up.  Hormonal changes can be just a darn nightmare.  Tell your oncol exactly what is going on a seek his advice.  Perhaps an anti depressant for a little while to see if it does help.  Good food and  exercise as boring as it sounds may help.  Chat to some one close you can trust to off load your feelings.  Take out possible causes one at a time.  Good luck.

  • nanacin
    nanacin Member Posts: 9

    thank you.  good to have

    thank you.  good to have someone to talk too. I also have type II diabeties and I have been having trouble keeping my blood sugars down.  Do you think it could be the cancer or the medication?

    blood sugar

    Sherri,

    I have type 1 diabetes and had my first chemo 2 weeks ago. My blood suger went to 420. I have had diabetes 46 years and never had a bs this high. It is from the steroids in the chemo. I have my 2nd chemo today so we will see. I was diagnosed the end of Sept with stage 3 IDC with lymph node involvement. It is nice to find someone on here with diabetes. Talk to your doctor about the steroids.

    Good luck,

    Cindy

  • VickiSam
    VickiSam Member Posts: 9,079 Member

    Yes difficult.  If getting a

    Yes difficult.  If getting a good nights sleep doesn't sound like depression, usually sleep too much or hardly at all and sadness rarely lifts.  Could be a mix of the Arimadex and your body make up.  Hormonal changes can be just a darn nightmare.  Tell your oncol exactly what is going on a seek his advice.  Perhaps an anti depressant for a little while to see if it does help.  Good food and  exercise as boring as it sounds may help.  Chat to some one close you can trust to off load your feelings.  Take out possible causes one at a time.  Good luck.

    .. just checking in with YOU ...

    How are you doing?   Please check in when you are able.

     

    Vicki Sam

  • vickiek811
    vickiek811 Member Posts: 20
    Hello!  I am new here as I

    Hello!  I am new here as I was just diagnosed in October 2014 (IDC, DCIS, Stage 2A, Grade 3+, ER+, PR+, HER2-), had surgery 11/14/14 and will find out my complete treatment plan on 12/11/14 after oncotyping results come back.  Since my diagnosis, I have not gotten much sleep, the anxiety has been through the roof.  At the beginning, I was worried because I really felt no emotions -- no sadness, no anger...nothing.  It worried me because I work in mental health and I see the range of emotions clients show whether they are dealing with state-custody of their child, drug abuse, prison, their own mental illness, etc.  So, I am very observant of my own feelings and emotions, very confused as to why I couldn't "feel" anything, express anything.  I finally spoke to my PCP about my lack of sleeping and she prescribed me a sleep medication.  Since taking it, I have been much more emotional, and for no reason.  Not to mention, the meds have not helped with sleep.  I noticed when I am not keeping myself busy (weekends are the worst for me since I am not working), I am much more emotional.  An illness definitely throws our bodies into chaos, whether we actually feel it or not.  My emotions are worse in the evenings after work, and now that I recognize the trigger (I believe the sleep med), I can try to work on adjusting my emotions during those specific times of the day now.  I am sorry you are going through this emotional roller coaster; unfortunately, it is very normal.  Try getting some fresh air, do something that you enjoy, call a friend/family member, listen to happy music, watch a comedy.  What you are going through is considered "situational" (happens during a certain time of day, not something that is all the time on a continual basis).  I hope things have improved for you.  Keep us posted.

  • GlowMore
    GlowMore Member Posts: 789 Member

    Hello!  I am new here as I

    Hello!  I am new here as I was just diagnosed in October 2014 (IDC, DCIS, Stage 2A, Grade 3+, ER+, PR+, HER2-), had surgery 11/14/14 and will find out my complete treatment plan on 12/11/14 after oncotyping results come back.  Since my diagnosis, I have not gotten much sleep, the anxiety has been through the roof.  At the beginning, I was worried because I really felt no emotions -- no sadness, no anger...nothing.  It worried me because I work in mental health and I see the range of emotions clients show whether they are dealing with state-custody of their child, drug abuse, prison, their own mental illness, etc.  So, I am very observant of my own feelings and emotions, very confused as to why I couldn't "feel" anything, express anything.  I finally spoke to my PCP about my lack of sleeping and she prescribed me a sleep medication.  Since taking it, I have been much more emotional, and for no reason.  Not to mention, the meds have not helped with sleep.  I noticed when I am not keeping myself busy (weekends are the worst for me since I am not working), I am much more emotional.  An illness definitely throws our bodies into chaos, whether we actually feel it or not.  My emotions are worse in the evenings after work, and now that I recognize the trigger (I believe the sleep med), I can try to work on adjusting my emotions during those specific times of the day now.  I am sorry you are going through this emotional roller coaster; unfortunately, it is very normal.  Try getting some fresh air, do something that you enjoy, call a friend/family member, listen to happy music, watch a comedy.  What you are going through is considered "situational" (happens during a certain time of day, not something that is all the time on a continual basis).  I hope things have improved for you.  Keep us posted.

    Hi Vickiek811

    Hi Vickiek811.........  Reading your post here I was struck by that part about not feeling any emotions at all at first.   Don't you think that is just the way we protect ourselves?  I think it is a  Defense Mechanism in order to get thru the stunning, terrible reality of Breast Cancer and Surgery and the fact that our lives will never be the same again.   Hope you will find time to fill out your home page soon....it took me about 8 or 9 years before I did that.  :)   

    Anyway........looks like you have a few more days in the Pink Waiting Room so sending you a Big Hug and some Encouragement for good results on the 11th.  I know you have the Courage to face whatever you have to face or you would not be here trying to help others.  Keep posting and be sure to let us know your results.    Glo 

  • marycurbelo1204
    marycurbelo1204 Member Posts: 73
    Hi Sherri4life

    I'm so sorry and I am really feeling for you.  I was diagnosed about 1 year ago with 2nd stage Triple Negative Metastatic BC with clean lymph nodes and it was the most devastatiing moment of my life.  I couldn't stop crying, didn't know what to do, didn't understand what the Onco was telling me, I was a real mess.  I am  better now, finished first round of chemo and am in remission.  I sometimes feel a little sick but nothing I can't handle.  You will feel better too.  Pray a lot, I did, and it made me feel so much better.  Please let us know how you're doing.

    Mary-Orlando, FL