Nervous

Poirier66
Poirier66 Member Posts: 12

Was reading so much positive stuff that I should of stopped while I was ahead. I was hoping and reading about great recoveries but now I'm reading not to believe what Dr say about it being clear and infections. Now I don't want the surgery 

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  • icemantoo
    icemantoo Member Posts: 3,361 Member
    Nobody wants the surgery

    Poirier66,

    Nobody wants the surgery. When I was in your position 12 and 1/2 years ago I was scared as well. The problem with not having the surgery with your 3.8 cm tumor is that without it your tumor will grow and you will die. The surgery is a minor inconvenience for the fact that your margins may not be clear, but the odds are in your favor that they will be.. There is only a small chance that you may get an infection (mostly minor) as a result of the surgery. The odds are stacked in your favor for a full and complete recovery. Without the surgery your tumor will grow over a period of a few years and get progressively worse and you will eventually  be given a check out date.

    This is a no brainer. Get the surgery behind you. We all went thru the fear of surgery and the not so fun pain afterwords. A small price to pay for what should be a Cancer free life afterwords by a very large percentage.

     

    Icemantoo

  • jason.2835
    jason.2835 Member Posts: 337 Member
    Get it out

    Get it out, Poirier. There are horror stories for any medical procedure, no matter how routine or common they are. There will be a minority of people who go through tough things. The main thing is: arm yourself with knowledge, ask your doc questions and do everything that they tell you to ensure a smooth recovery.

    I am 4.5 weeks removed from laparoscopic nephrectomy and I went back to work this week and feel fine aside from some tweaks and slight fatigue here and there. Those are the stories you don't hear because they are BORING haha. Keep your head up, and know that if anything DOES happen to go wrong, you're in no safer place than a hospital. 

  • Darron
    Darron Member Posts: 310 Member
    Get it out!

    sometimes our biggest obstacle is fear of the unknown. I am still here 2 yeara after a hand assisted complete nephrectomy of a 17 cm tumor. Stage IV adrenal tumor and multiple lung mets.

    I am here to tell you and show you that surgery and good treatment will save your life!

    will you be sore, yes!

    is there a chance there are complications, yes.

    dot get caught up in fear if what may happen, stive for what needs to happen.

     

     

  • APny
    APny Member Posts: 1,995 Member
    Darron said:

    Get it out!

    sometimes our biggest obstacle is fear of the unknown. I am still here 2 yeara after a hand assisted complete nephrectomy of a 17 cm tumor. Stage IV adrenal tumor and multiple lung mets.

    I am here to tell you and show you that surgery and good treatment will save your life!

    will you be sore, yes!

    is there a chance there are complications, yes.

    dot get caught up in fear if what may happen, stive for what needs to happen.

     

     

    The alternative to not

    The alternative to not getting the surgery is way worse than a possible infection. I was absolutely terrified of the surgery and the recovery and I can honestly tell you that the dread and anticipation was much worse than the actuality.   

  • Djinnie
    Djinnie Member Posts: 945 Member
    Nervous!

    We all understand how you are feeling at this point, no one wants surgery. Is there a risk, of course but there are risks with most things in life, the difference with this, the odds of staying alive by having surgery  are substantially in our favour than by not. I read that you suffer from anxiety issues, is your Doctor giving you something for that? If that's so maybe he could increase the dosage until the date of surgery. You don't have long to wait now, in the meantime try not to dwell on it. I would stop googling and reading too much about treatments etc., it's not benefitting you!

    It won't be long before all of this is behind you, you may be sore and in some pain afterwards but the relief is enormous. Hang in there, you will do just fine:)

    Djinnie x

  • foxhd
    foxhd Member Posts: 3,181 Member
    Keep telling yourself

    that this is the most important thing that you could ever do for yourself and your family. Then get excited about it. Then go get it done! Be proud of yourself for being tough. Recovery is a blast. You wouldn't want to miss it. Well, just a little. You can do this.

  • myoung790
    myoung790 Member Posts: 75
    I felt the same way.  I even

    I felt the same way.  I even considered waiting a year to just see what happened.  My husband said no way.  Get it out and let's move on. 

    Being anxious and worried about a surgery is normal, but in the end your life is much more important.  

  • vccortes713
    vccortes713 Member Posts: 51
    myoung790 said:

    I felt the same way.  I even

    I felt the same way.  I even considered waiting a year to just see what happened.  My husband said no way.  Get it out and let's move on. 

    Being anxious and worried about a surgery is normal, but in the end your life is much more important.  

    They are all correct.....You

    They are all correct.....You must go for it.........I did it so you can.....and don't worry before you know it it's all done.....One thing that helped me was I've ask my doctor for anti-depressants because before the surgery I was also worried and scared and the anti-depressants did its job.....Goodluck our prayers are with you.....-:)

  • nsb748
    nsb748 Member Posts: 89

    They are all correct.....You

    They are all correct.....You must go for it.........I did it so you can.....and don't worry before you know it it's all done.....One thing that helped me was I've ask my doctor for anti-depressants because before the surgery I was also worried and scared and the anti-depressants did its job.....Goodluck our prayers are with you.....-:)

    As soon as I found out about

    As soon as I found out about my tumor, I wanted it removed a soon as possible. I waited a month for my surgery, and it felt like ten years. It was a relief when the day of my surgery finally arrived.

    Get the surgery, take your time healing, and relax. 

    Who knows, maybe it won't end up being cancer. Even if that's the case though, it needs to be removed anyway.

    You mentioned in a previous thread that you recently quit smoking, and that you have a lot of anxiety.  I went through a period where I had horrible anxiety  (new baby, new job, grad school, at the same time).  This is something you should bring up to your doctor.  Mine got to the point where I couldn't go out to dinner without having panic attacks.  I finally went to the doctor, and got prescribed zoloft which helped immensely.  Anxiety is not good for your body, and you will have a hard time getting over it on your own.  I remember times when I would have a panic attack, because I was worried about having a panic attack. 

    I think either talking to a counselor, or getting a prescription will dramatically change your outlook on the surgery. Maybe it was just hyperbole, but you saying you don't even want the surgery anymore is classic panic/anxiety reaction. 

    The bottom line, is that if you want to live (and likely be good as new), you will have the surgery. 

    You will be sore, you will lay around for a while, you will heal, and you will move on.

     

     

     

     

  • Srashedb
    Srashedb Member Posts: 482 Member
    will add to what others have

    will add to what others have said; get the tumor out ASAP; I have not had this surgery but my husband did. the kidney was removed laprosopically and with no complications; the tumor was 10 cm.

    he went in on Friday and was out on Monday.

    of course there are risks but leaving it in, to grow and spread beyond the kidney is a huge and potentially deadly risk.

    Sarah

  • Poirier66
    Poirier66 Member Posts: 12
    myoung790 said:

    I felt the same way.  I even

    I felt the same way.  I even considered waiting a year to just see what happened.  My husband said no way.  Get it out and let's move on. 

    Being anxious and worried about a surgery is normal, but in the end your life is much more important.  

    So how did everything go for

    So how did everything go for you

  • Poirier66
    Poirier66 Member Posts: 12
    You all right. Now I can't

    You all right. Now I can't wait to get ur done!!!!!! Thanks everyone. I will be sure to post after surgery so watch for it.

  • aamdsi
    aamdsi Member Posts: 284
    Get it out

    it isn't fun.  It SUCKS, but only after it is over and out can you start over.  As said, we've all been there an are now all here for you.  I found the worse part was the waiting for the surgery.

    It isn't easy - but it does get better.

  • Jojo61
    Jojo61 Member Posts: 1,309 Member
    aamdsi said:

    Get it out

    it isn't fun.  It SUCKS, but only after it is over and out can you start over.  As said, we've all been there an are now all here for you.  I found the worse part was the waiting for the surgery.

    It isn't easy - but it does get better.

    Definitely get it out. It is

    Definitely get it out. It is amazing how much better you feel once it is out of you. It will be okay!

    Hugs

    Joj