MOVING

jim and i
jim and i Member Posts: 1,788 Member
in Head and Neck Cancer #1

Tomorrow will be four months since Jim died. Seems like yesterday. The closing on the condo is Tuesday so I am beginning to pack up. Jim had his own room the last few years. He kept his books, clothes mementoes, etc. in there. My sister offered to pack it for me but my son wants to do it. We were in there Friday and I was trying to untangle some wires, to no avail since I was fighting back tears, and my son took the wires out of my hand and made me leave. I am truly happy about leaving this place that holds nothing but sad memories, but sad to know I won't be able to share new memories with Jim.

My current place still has not sold. I am trusting God to provide. May have to take a loss but I pray not too much. Please continue to pray it sells by the end of September. And as always, thank you for your support and prayers.

Debbie

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  • debbiejeanne
    debbiejeanne Member Posts: 3,102 Member
    #2
    debbie, i'm so glad the move

    debbie, i'm so glad the move is soon and you will start a new chapter in your life.  like Bill said think of Jim's face as he was preparing to go fishing or when he caught the "BIG" one.  i know there are many others and I pray those memories will be you much joy.  I will be praying the old place sells before end of Sept so you have one less thing to worry about.  God will take care of you, Debbie, so please try not to worry.  I hope if you have to take a loss it will be a small one.  I'm glad your son is there for you and I hope the new place will be close to him so you two can visit each other often.  you will have to take pics of the new place and share them with us.  we want to share your new life with you.  keep coming here and letting us know how you are doing, we truly do care about you and want to know that you're ok.  you are an important part of this family, Debbie, please never forget that.

    God bless you,

    dj

  • wmc
    wmc Member Posts: 1,804
    #3
    It will get easier......with time.

    I don't think time heals all wonds. What does happen is the sad memories seem to sink more to the bottom and all the good memories seem to float to the surface. The more you access all the wonderful ones the sad ones seem to just go deeper and slowly fade away to where they are harder to access. I bet you can close your eyes and see the expression on Jim's face as he was getting ready to go fishing. I lost my father to this beast 30 years ago and think of him almost every day. Even towards the end when it was hard on him, I only seen to remember his humor and just good memories, no any sad ones, just the love comes through and has for many, many years. This too will happen to you. It is just part of the healing process. I remember you writing and letting us know the last time he got to go fishing. He was as happy as a child at christmas, even it was only for a few hours. Bet he talked about to you for days. Those are the ones you keep at the surface.  I hope your day goes well and you will always be in our prayers.

    Bill

  • Hondo
    Hondo Member Posts: 6,636 Member
    #4
    Hi Debbie

    As you cry remember we cry with you because it is so hard to lose someone who you love so dear and has been a part of your life so long. Life will go on and time will somehow heal some of the wounds, just keep your faith in God above because His blessing is soon to come. I teach my children and their children so that they all know; it is not this life that counts but the life to come. We all want to have part of the first resurrection and I am hoping to see both you and Jim standing there on Victory lane singing the song of Moses with me and my family.

     

    God bless and be with you

    Tim      

  • CherieLW
    CherieLW Member Posts: 472
    #5
    Debbie, 
     
    I'm so sorry to

    Debbie, 

     

    I'm so sorry to hear of your loss :(  I know I have been mia the past months, but I'm defintely keeping you in my prayers.  Stay strong! I hope that you are able to find peace in knowing he is not suffering and I truly believe that getting out of the condo will help you in healing with time.  

     

    Cherie

  • jim and i
    jim and i Member Posts: 1,788 Member
    #6
    wmc said:

    It will get easier......with time.

    I don't think time heals all wonds. What does happen is the sad memories seem to sink more to the bottom and all the good memories seem to float to the surface. The more you access all the wonderful ones the sad ones seem to just go deeper and slowly fade away to where they are harder to access. I bet you can close your eyes and see the expression on Jim's face as he was getting ready to go fishing. I lost my father to this beast 30 years ago and think of him almost every day. Even towards the end when it was hard on him, I only seen to remember his humor and just good memories, no any sad ones, just the love comes through and has for many, many years. This too will happen to you. It is just part of the healing process. I remember you writing and letting us know the last time he got to go fishing. He was as happy as a child at christmas, even it was only for a few hours. Bet he talked about to you for days. Those are the ones you keep at the surface.  I hope your day goes well and you will always be in our prayers.

    Bill

    Thank you Bill. Yes the

    Thank you Bill. Yes the fishing memories are the best.

  • jim and i
    jim and i Member Posts: 1,788 Member
    #7
    Hondo said:

    Hi Debbie

    As you cry remember we cry with you because it is so hard to lose someone who you love so dear and has been a part of your life so long. Life will go on and time will somehow heal some of the wounds, just keep your faith in God above because His blessing is soon to come. I teach my children and their children so that they all know; it is not this life that counts but the life to come. We all want to have part of the first resurrection and I am hoping to see both you and Jim standing there on Victory lane singing the song of Moses with me and my family.

     

    God bless and be with you

    Tim      

    Thanks Tim, as always you say

    Thanks Tim, as always you say just what I need to hear. Will be lookling for you on Victory lane.

    Bless you and yours,

    Debbie

  • Skiffin16
    Skiffin16 Member Posts: 8,305 Member
    #8
    Family

    You and Jim are still on my mind and in my prayers.....

    One day we will fish together....

    John

  • Guzzle
    Guzzle Member Posts: 710
    #9
    Skiffin16 said:

    Family

    You and Jim are still on my mind and in my prayers.....

    One day we will fish together....

    John

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