my wife

I want to thank you Danker for being a very loving husband and having the insight to know that there are so many things we do to identify ourselfs as the person we were created to be. Most people may never notice the things in life that really matter , like saying a kind word to someone just to make them feel better. You seem like that kind of person Danker. Visiting your wife even when you think perhaps she does not know you , even if she really does not know you on that day , you show you have not forgotten her . That shows the type of person you are ( you know your there even if she does not) Sickness and just plain old age rob us of so many special things , so just remember your beautiful wife in the memories you made together and the life you shared together. There are better days ahead for all of us , I just wanted to write and say THANK-YOU DANKER !!! There needs to be more people in the world like you!!! GOD BLESS

My mother had Alzheimers for about eight years. By the end, she was unable to do anything herself, she had forgotten even how to feed herself.  For me, my mum was already gone long before she died, and when she did pass, I did not mourn. It was a blessed release for her, and I realized that I had mourned her loss many years before. 

You are a wonderful, dedicated, loving husband.  I know it seems she may not know you, outwardly, but I bet her spirit knows you are there. 

The last time I saw mum alive, she couldn't speak, and had that awful vacant look. As I said my goodbye, I knew I would not see her in this life again. I looked into her eyes, and our spirits touched. No words, but I knew without a doubt that she had felt my spriit and I certainly felt hers. 

I pray that your dear wife will slip into eternity and there wait until your go to join her. It will be a short time for her, but I'm hoping that in our timeline (I believe Heaven's time line is allot different than ours) that will be many years. 

Thank you so much for this update. 

P.S. my goal is to live until I"m 88. That sounds like a good age.

danker said:

Trubrit

On a tour of England,Scotlald,and Wales my wife and I met a bunch of Aussies.  I'll never forget what one of them told us.  With a tape measure in milimeters,1-100,Put your left thumb at your current age.  Put your right thumb at the age you expect to die,in your case 88.  All the part hanging down from your left thumb is gone!!!! And your two thumbs keep getting closer together.

LOL is all I can say.

Well I've certainly got more hanging that I do between my thumbs. 

I hope you enjoyed your trip around the UK.  I'm still hoping the Doc will clear me to go in September/October.

Thank you for the update on your dear wife and yourself.

I hope that on your anniversary you were able to remind her of many wonderful events in your shared life. 

I know how difficult it is to see the decline of a loved one.  Alzheimers took a cousin of mine.  In her last years, she only knew her husband as that nice man who came to see her.  The life that they shared and the family they raised were no longer part of her memories.

You are a good man and husband to her, especially when her memory no longer recognizes you.  It cannot be easy.

Our mourning for a loved one with a lingering illness begins long before the last breath.

The Lord may have left you here for her, but He has also left you here for us.

May the Lord watch over you both.

Hugs,

Marie who loves kitties

Thank you for the update. You are a wonderful loving and caring man.

Dan,

I'm so sorry that your dear wife is reaching the end of her life's journey with you; but I'm sure it was filled with much love and happiness during those 57 years together.  I wish you both peace and comfort in the days ahead.

All my best,

Cynthia

Danker you are one of the reasons I really believe we can all achieve NED. It keeps me going forward. Congratulations to 57 years. I can't imagine how hard it is for you seeing your wife go through so much and I'm glad she has you by her side.