"Blue" Day Today

wolfen
wolfen Member Posts: 1,324 Member
in Head and Neck Cancer #1

Hello All,

I am still here in the shadows watching over each of you.

Today was a rather "blue" day for me as I recalled what I was doing on this day last year. Tomorrow at 9:17 AM, it will be one year since my wonderful Ron left on his final journey. I have to believe he reached his destination. This last year has probably been the hardest one of my entire life. Grief has no time limit. You don't "get over it". Perhaps the pain lessens and the tears don't come as frequently, but they are always hiding near the surface. The lonliness never ends.

My daughter called tonight just to see if I was okay. She too has had a bad week. She is a month out of her last surgery, her 7th, which left her with a colostomy. Of course not what she wanted, but doable just the same. She has opted for no more chemo, something she has been considering for a while. She simply wants to heal from this surgery and enjoy whatever time she is allowed to have remaining.

PLease know that I am nearby if anyone just needs a shoulder.

Luv,

Wolfen

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  • wmc
    wmc Member Posts: 1,804
    #2
    You're right....

    Time does not heal all wonds. It makes the pain seem less in time but it is still there. I lost my Father to cancer back in 1984 and every year around his birthday it get's to me a little. Also, now that I had cancer as well, some things I do trigger the memories. Now it is not sad as it once was, but I still do miss him, and think of him. The great memories are I got six years more than we were suposed to haveand I thank the Lord for them.

    Sorry you daughter is going through this as well. Some times it helps me just to write it down and share or vent. This is a very good place to do that.  Please know thoughts and prayers are with you. Be well.

    Oh, and thanks for watching over us all, that is so kind of you.

    wmc

  • Guzzle
    Guzzle Member Posts: 710
    #3
    wmc said:

    You're right....

    Time does not heal all wonds. It makes the pain seem less in time but it is still there. I lost my Father to cancer back in 1984 and every year around his birthday it get's to me a little. Also, now that I had cancer as well, some things I do trigger the memories. Now it is not sad as it once was, but I still do miss him, and think of him. The great memories are I got six years more than we were suposed to haveand I thank the Lord for them.

    Sorry you daughter is going through this as well. Some times it helps me just to write it down and share or vent. This is a very good place to do that.  Please know thoughts and prayers are with you. Be well.

    Oh, and thanks for watching over us all, that is so kind of you.

    wmc

    Thinking of you

    Wolfen, thinking of you and yours. G.

  • Hondo
    Hondo Member Posts: 6,636 Member
    #4
    Hi Wolfen
    The wounds may heal

    Hi Wolfen

    The wounds may heal in time but the memories of our love ones don’t. My Sister-in-law still has a hard time even thou my brother passed away 14 years ago; she talks as if it was yesterday. I still remember my mother and the things she would say and how much I miss her; she had been gone now for 20 years. The pain is a little easier to deal with now but the lost is always there, I know by faith that I will see her again and to me that is a comforting to know that one days we will all be together again.

    God bless and give you the strength you need one day at a time and thank you for continuing to be here for all of us.

    PS: Still praying for your daughter everyday

     

    Tim Hondo    

  • phrannie51
    phrannie51 Member Posts: 4,716
    #5
    Hi sweetie!!

    Anniversary dates and holidays are tough times.  It's true, time doesn't heal all wounds....most but not every single one.....losing a spouse or a child are wounds that hang in forever.  I know my mom never got over losing my dad....she got past it, but not over it if that makes sense....

    JBG's decision for no more chemo was a big one, and tough on you as well....will be keeping her....and you.....in my prayers.

    p

  • Goyca
    Goyca Member Posts: 220
    #6
    Wolfen, my thoughts are with

    Wolfen, my thoughts are with you <3 stay strong

  • debbiejeanne
    debbiejeanne Member Posts: 3,102 Member
    #7
    dear wolfen, i cannot believe

    dear wolfen, i cannot believe it has already been a year!  although that seems like a long time, it isn't when you're talking about healing.  the pain will get easier but it will take more time.  allow yourself the bad days/anniversaries and let your friends/family help you thru.  you still have a lot on your plate with jbg being so sick.  i'm sorry about the chemo but jbg knows what is best for her.  you and your family are ALWAYS in my thoughts and prayers!  please call me if you ever want to talk/cry/yell, whatever!  sending you a real big cyber hug ((((((((  0  ))))))))))))).  i hope you can feel the love behind it.

    God bless you and your family, Wolfen.

    love, hugs and prayers,

    dj

  • debbiejeanne
    debbiejeanne Member Posts: 3,102 Member
    #8
    for you wolfen.

    for you wolfen.

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  • VivianLee5689
    VivianLee5689 Member Posts: 546
    #9
    debbiejeanne said:

    for you wolfen.

    for you wolfen.

    image

    Thinking of you

    I read this and it broke my heart.  I remember when this happened and I had a hard time reaching out as I had just lost my husband.  I have thought about you often and glad to know that you hang around the site.  I have missed you.

    Vivian

  • hwt
    hwt Member Posts: 2,328 Member
    #10
    VivianLee5689 said:

    Thinking of you

    I read this and it broke my heart.  I remember when this happened and I had a hard time reaching out as I had just lost my husband.  I have thought about you often and glad to know that you hang around the site.  I have missed you.

    Vivian

    Blue Day

    Thoughts and prayers for brighter tomorrows.

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