My angel passed away today....

There really isn't much else to say. I hope her passing was easy. It broke my heart to read of her decline. I lost my husband to cancer in 2000 and received a lot of support at another web site, www widownet dot org. Everyone there has been right where you are and gets it. Several people here understand too, but many here are the patients themselves. They all care, too, and will give you much support. You just take it one minute at a time, one hour at a time, one day at a time and be easy on yourself. Allow yourself to grieve - there is no other way through it than to feel the pain and keep going forward. Being "stoic" or "stuffing it down" doesn't work. Grieve with your children, tell them it's normal to hurt and to cry and that you will all get through it together and you will be there for them. Reassure them you are not going anywhere, even when it seems like you are falling apart.

I don't post much any more. I am the mom - my daughter is still battling this evil disease. But I wanted to tell you I saw this and you have my sympathy, my empathy and my heartfelt condolences. The passing of time will help. There will be a day when you will smile remembering happy memories. It may not seem like it now, but it will come. For now, just feel the pain, let it come, write it down, talk through it, get it out and begin the process of letting the pain go.

It sounds like yours was a sweet love story.

Remember to breathe.

Sandy

devotion10 said:

Sandy has given such heartfelt advice ... I am not sure I can

add much more. My husband died this last May five years after his diagnosis ... one moment at a time.  Sincerely wishing you and your children comfort. It is an awful thing all of you have gone through. We are here and we understand.

Peace. ~ Cynthia

 

Please accept my sympathies for you and your family. I know nothing I can say will ease your pain. I also lost my husband last May. Time does not heal all wounds, but makes them more bearable.

Wolfen

wolfen said:

So Very Sorry

Please accept my sympathies for you and your family. I know nothing I can say will ease your pain. I also lost my husband last May. Time does not heal all wounds, but makes them more bearable.

Wolfen

expressed all of our feelings just wanted to say im so sorry but death will come to all of us someday.i have been doing much on trying to plan some things for my own self thinking it would be easier on my family but as my pastor told me no matter what i do it just wont be easy....Godbless...johnnybegood

I am so sorry.  Your relationship sounds wonderful and full of love. My prayers for peace and strength for you and your children. Children help us continue. I bet in the days and months to come you will feel your wife's presence in surprising ways. Be gentle with yourself.....grief hurts. Know many here hold you close.

CM

I am terribly sorry to read this news.  So many good people lost to this terrible disease.  You have a long, rough road ahead of you.  Just try and get through each day and hopefully over time it will become easier.  Please feel free to send me a PM if you ever need to "talk".  I'm still dealing with my own grief and I can certainly relate to what you're going through.  Take comfort in the fact that she is at peace and no longer suffering.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

My sincerest condolences,

Chelsea

so so sorry

Petra

I have no words of wisdom for you on how to get through this.  The unbearable passage of time is the only help, and it is only a partial remedy, as Wolfen says.  My BIL and his son are doing very well despite everything, 9 years after my sister's death.  But it took a long time.  Slowly the sharp edges of your grief will soften, and you will be able to look back on the good years that you had with your wife.  Your kids will help with that as well, I think.  They are her memorial.

Much love to you, dear man.  You did everything you could, and were clearly a very caring and dedicated caregiver to your wife.

Ann

Goldie1 said:

So sorry to hear of the passing of your angel

 My heart felt condolences to you and your family.

Ellen

No words can describe what you and your family are going through. The pain, the anger and the feeling of utter loss. Just scream and cry and let it out, healing will come, the loss will be there forever.

I wish you peace and send you love and the knowledge that you are not alone, we all are here for you.

Hugs, Marjan

Sigh....I am so sorry that you and your family has had to endure such pain and heartache.  It's not fair, I know.

My sincere condolences on the loss of your dear wife. Try to forget these last few months and focus on the better times you spent together and your love for each other and family.

With sympathy,

Cynthia

We are so sorry to hear about your loss. We are snding our thoughts and prayers for you to find strength.  

Best Always,  mike