Time for hospice.

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  • thxmiker
    thxmiker Member Posts: 1,278 Member
    #22
    We are so sorry to hear that

    We are so sorry to hear that news.  We are sending our thoughts and prayers for your families continued strength!

     

     

    Best Always,  mike

  • rls67
    rls67 Member Posts: 127
    #23
    thank you

    My whole family is aware of my wifes prognosis. She has been under hospice care for the last couple of days. She is still in the hospital because the nursing agency I chose to handle her care only has two hospice homes and there is no empty beds. I would love to get her out of the hospital, though they have taken good care of her. I really don't know what to do. I don't think my Donna would want to spend her last days in that busy, noisy envirement. Any one have any good advice? I sure could use some right now.

  • devotion10
    devotion10 Member Posts: 623 Member
    #24
    rls67 said:

    thank you

    My whole family is aware of my wifes prognosis. She has been under hospice care for the last couple of days. She is still in the hospital because the nursing agency I chose to handle her care only has two hospice homes and there is no empty beds. I would love to get her out of the hospital, though they have taken good care of her. I really don't know what to do. I don't think my Donna would want to spend her last days in that busy, noisy envirement. Any one have any good advice? I sure could use some right now.

    Why not care for her in you home? Hospice can provide assistance

    there. You, your family, and friends should step forward to make her final days the way she would like them to be.  I am not sure I understand your hesitation just to bring your wife to the comfort of your home.

    Peace. ~ Cynthia

  • jen2012
    jen2012 Member Posts: 1,607 Member
    #25
    devotion10 said:

    Why not care for her in you home? Hospice can provide assistance

    there. You, your family, and friends should step forward to make her final days the way she would like them to be.  I am not sure I understand your hesitation just to bring your wife to the comfort of your home.

    Peace. ~ Cynthia

    I dont think this option is
    I dont think this option is for everyone. Im not sure howI feel about it and Im not sure my husband would want it. I think some people are more comfortable knowing the medical staff is there at all times. Not everyone has family and friends to help either.

    I am just so sorry your family is going through this. My heart hurts for all of you. I know when my husband has been in the hospital i have noticed some doors are closed and there is a picture of a butterfly on the door. I read that is a symbol that the person is dying and a reminder to all entering to be quiet and respectful. Hopefully they are keeping her room quiet without the usual beeps and noises. If not maybe you can request that. So very sorry.
  • Ladylacy
    Ladylacy Member Posts: 773 Member
    #26
    Hospice

    So sorry to hear about your wife.  Hospice is great.  I have in-home hospice for my husband and he will stay in-home as long as we can control his pain levels.  I had in-home hospice for my mother too.  In-home hospice provides everything you need and they send aides into help.  Our nurse comes once a week, but when my mother was dying they came more often.

    I know each state and each hospice is different, but I would check into in-home hospice where your wife will be around family and friends.

    Wishing you peace and comfort.

  • devotion10
    devotion10 Member Posts: 623 Member
    #27
    jen2012 said:

    I dont think this option is
    I dont think this option is for everyone. Im not sure howI feel about it and Im not sure my husband would want it. I think some people are more comfortable knowing the medical staff is there at all times. Not everyone has family and friends to help either.

    I am just so sorry your family is going through this. My heart hurts for all of you. I know when my husband has been in the hospital i have noticed some doors are closed and there is a picture of a butterfly on the door. I read that is a symbol that the person is dying and a reminder to all entering to be quiet and respectful. Hopefully they are keeping her room quiet without the usual beeps and noises. If not maybe you can request that. So very sorry.

    I responded the way I did because he stated ...

    "I would love to get her out of the hospital, though they have taken good care of her. I really don't know what to do. I don't think my Donna would want to spend her last days in that busy, noisy ."

    I just feel strongly that we must do whatever are the last wishes of our loved one whenever possible. It seems he is saying he knows his wife does not wish to spend her last days in a hospital environment.

    Home hospice can be extremely challenge, but possible. If one knows that is where your loved one would prefer to be then I would move mountains to make it happen. 

    He asked for advice and that is mine.

    Peace. ~ Cynthia

  • Trubrit
    Trubrit Member Posts: 5,804 Member
    #28
    rls67 said:

    thank you

    My whole family is aware of my wifes prognosis. She has been under hospice care for the last couple of days. She is still in the hospital because the nursing agency I chose to handle her care only has two hospice homes and there is no empty beds. I would love to get her out of the hospital, though they have taken good care of her. I really don't know what to do. I don't think my Donna would want to spend her last days in that busy, noisy envirement. Any one have any good advice? I sure could use some right now.

    Hoping you get help

    My best friend's dad was able to go home during his last weeks. The home hospice nurses took great care of him and he was happy. When his time got close, the nurse, understaning the signs, called the family and they were all able to be with him as he passed. 

    Hospice carers are wonderful people, I greatly admire them.

    I pray that you can find a way to do whatever makes your lovely wife comfortable. 

    You are constantly in my thoughts and prayers. 

  • Lovekitties
    Lovekitties Member Posts: 3,364 Member
    #29
    devotion10 said:

    Why not care for her in you home? Hospice can provide assistance

    there. You, your family, and friends should step forward to make her final days the way she would like them to be.  I am not sure I understand your hesitation just to bring your wife to the comfort of your home.

    Peace. ~ Cynthia

    In home Hospice

    In home Hospice is what I did for my sister, but I have to say that it is very challenging.  The folks will come when you need support, but are not there 24/7.  They also can give you directions over the phone about issues or meds.  It is not always easy to find friends or family to help with the patients needs.

    The residential Hospice solution is often the right one for some.  Here they have rooms that are set up more like in home bedrooms with all the conveniences...even exta sleeping if someone wants to stay with the patient.  You can even bring in items such as pictures, covers, etc. which make it more like home.  There are doctors and/or nurses there 24/7 to handle the patients needs without the hospital setting.

    Each situation is different and it is good to have choices.

    Marie who loves kitties

  • annalexandria
    annalexandria Member Posts: 2,571 Member
    #30
    Lovekitties said:

    In home Hospice

    In home Hospice is what I did for my sister, but I have to say that it is very challenging.  The folks will come when you need support, but are not there 24/7.  They also can give you directions over the phone about issues or meds.  It is not always easy to find friends or family to help with the patients needs.

    The residential Hospice solution is often the right one for some.  Here they have rooms that are set up more like in home bedrooms with all the conveniences...even exta sleeping if someone wants to stay with the patient.  You can even bring in items such as pictures, covers, etc. which make it more like home.  There are doctors and/or nurses there 24/7 to handle the patients needs without the hospital setting.

    Each situation is different and it is good to have choices.

    Marie who loves kitties

    We had hospice at home for my sister too,

    but I will say I think you really need to have more than one person to help out.  My BIL couldn't have done it all by myself, as my sister was awake a surprising amount, esp at night, until she finally went into a coma in the last few days.  My brother ended up taking over for a few nights so her husband could get some sleep.

    Rls~are there any other hospice places that might have space, maybe a little further away?  I knowI would rather not be in a hospital at the end, if it can be avoided.

  • BusterBrown
    BusterBrown Member Posts: 221 Member
    #31
    I'm truly sorry hear about

    I'm truly sorry hear about your wife.  I wish you and your family peace in this very difficult time...

    Buster...

  • Helen321
    Helen321 Member Posts: 1,460 Member
    #32
    Wow, I am just unbelievably

    Wow, I am just unbelievably sorry. My heartfelt support for you, your wife and the kids.    

  • meltibbs
    meltibbs Member Posts: 6
    #33
    so sorry

    I am so very sorry you are going through this painful experience.  Please know you and your family are in my thoughts.

  • rls67
    rls67 Member Posts: 127
    #34
    Thank you for your thoughts and prayers.

    I was able to get my wife out of the hospital and into a hospice. What a difference. She only has hours maybe a day left the hospice people believe.

  • Chelsea71
    Chelsea71 Member Posts: 1,169 Member
    #35
    rls67 said:

    Thank you for your thoughts and prayers.

    I was able to get my wife out of the hospital and into a hospice. What a difference. She only has hours maybe a day left the hospice people believe.

    Thank you for the update.

    Thank you for the update.  Will be thinking of you and your family.

  • Trubrit
    Trubrit Member Posts: 5,804 Member
    #36
    rls67 said:

    Thank you for your thoughts and prayers.

    I was able to get my wife out of the hospital and into a hospice. What a difference. She only has hours maybe a day left the hospice people believe.

    Thinking of you

    and hoping your wife's passing goes smoothly. 

    I'm glad that you were able to get her into hospice.

  • LindaK.
    LindaK. Member Posts: 506 Member
    #37
    rls67 said:

    Thank you for your thoughts and prayers.

    I was able to get my wife out of the hospital and into a hospice. What a difference. She only has hours maybe a day left the hospice people believe.

    Sorry

    I'm so sorry for your suffering, may you all find a little peace in the coming days.

    Linda

  • Maxiecat
    Maxiecat Member Posts: 544 Member
    #38
    I am so sorry...my thoughts

    I am so sorry...my thoughts and prayers are with your wife and your family.

    alex

  • devotion10
    devotion10 Member Posts: 623 Member
    #39
    Thinking of your whole family ...

    Peace. ~ Cynthia

  • Phil64
    Phil64 Member Posts: 838 Member
    #40
    rls67 said:

    Thank you for your thoughts and prayers.

    I was able to get my wife out of the hospital and into a hospice. What a difference. She only has hours maybe a day left the hospice people believe.

    Difficult time

    RLS, my thoughts and prayers are with you, your wife, and family. I hope that love we be free flowing as you say your good byes and that love we surround you all through this most difficult time.

    Sincerely,

    Philip

  • Cathleen Mary
    Cathleen Mary Member Posts: 827 Member
    #41
     
    May peace and strength be

     

    May peace and strength be by your side as you stay with your wife.  Prayers for you and your children. 

    Know that a lot of people hold you and those you love close to our heart these difficult days.

    CM

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