Worse news possible

That is really hard news to hear. I remember when our doctor told us that the chemo was just making my husband sicker and not working. Losing our spouse is one of our greatest fears. My husband lost his battle a little over four years ago. We had known that he was fighting a losing battle, buying as much time as he could, but it still hit us hard. Hospice is wonderful. They do help the family as well as the cancer victim. Yet, there is no stopping the despair, the fear, or the deep sadness. You have already started the grieving process. it isn't fair. It isn't what we planned. Yet, sadly it is the reality. I can't offer any real advice. There are no words of wisdom. I can tell you that you are not alone. Many here have faced this. I could tell you to cherish what time you have, to hold tight to each other and say I love you often, but I'm guessing you already know that. My thoughts are with you. feel free to PM me anytime. I don't come here as often as I once did, but I get an email if I have a private message. Take care and cyber hugs. Fay

grandmafay said:

Hard News

That is really hard news to hear. I remember when our doctor told us that the chemo was just making my husband sicker and not working. Losing our spouse is one of our greatest fears. My husband lost his battle a little over four years ago. We had known that he was fighting a losing battle, buying as much time as he could, but it still hit us hard. Hospice is wonderful. They do help the family as well as the cancer victim. Yet, there is no stopping the despair, the fear, or the deep sadness. You have already started the grieving process. it isn't fair. It isn't what we planned. Yet, sadly it is the reality. I can't offer any real advice. There are no words of wisdom. I can tell you that you are not alone. Many here have faced this. I could tell you to cherish what time you have, to hold tight to each other and say I love you often, but I'm guessing you already know that. My thoughts are with you. feel free to PM me anytime. I don't come here as often as I once did, but I get an email if I have a private message. Take care and cyber hugs. Fay

Thank you for your response. I can't begin to know what I should do next. I won't be able to afford the home we lease. I can't afford both car payments. The AARP insurance policy isn't in full effect yet so it will be a prorated pay out. I have no savings since he had to stop working suddenly months ago. I can't burden him with my worries of MY future since he will not have one. To make matters worse his family from down south is converging on my house. When all I want to tell them is to give ME alittle more time before they invade the house and my life. But I know that sounds selfish because I know they love him to and want to spend time with him also. I guess its just that we just found out last thursday and I need alittle more time. Trying to work a full time job doesn't help either. But thanks again for you kind words.

Lisa

Now before it's too late. Don't worry about afterwards at this point, just spend every waking moment with him. That's what I cherish about my final moments with my wife. The time they give is an estimate. They told us 2 weeks to 2 months and it was only 6 days.

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