UPDATE: (OT) new granddaughter -almost 2mths old
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THINGS are not good with
THINGS are not good with baby's health. She has been sent back to Westchester Medical center-feedding tube, losing weight etc...I am not allowed to go down to see her and My grandsons have been dropped off with other family to watch...she never asked me and I was available and still am.
I am so hurt-didnt' get to sleep until after 3 am and up by 6...everyone in family knew for 2 days but us-no one called..I guess they feel not their place to do so...
IF SHE is trying to hurt us she has suceeded..I know major time of stress for her but she is making it more stressful.
Thanks for comments...and thoughts,
Denise
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Thanks..I may take you up oncarkris said:I take care of children with
I take care of children with open heart surgery pm me if you need to!
Thanks..I may take you up on that...I do not know if doing suregery right away....I am so worried and can't see her...only have seen her 5 mns...better then nothing...but my daughter does not want me/us with her.
Denise
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SADLy no I did not get tojlharris said:I am so happy for you. Did
I am so happy for you. Did you get to hold her? I am praying for this new little one and for you as well.
Take Care,
Jenifer
SADLy no I did not get to HOLD...only have her hole my finger (while she was in car seat in my living room)
I TOOK PIX...and cherish the one with her grabbing my finger...
Denise
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I HOPE my daughters heartcoco2008 said:I am so happy for you. I
I am so happy for you. I pray her heart continues to soften.
God bless you all.
Sandy
I HOPE my daughters heart softens and baby's gets stronger...
Denise
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This might make things worse.....but here is my take....disneyfan2008 said:THINGS are not good with
THINGS are not good with baby's health. She has been sent back to Westchester Medical center-feedding tube, losing weight etc...I am not allowed to go down to see her and My grandsons have been dropped off with other family to watch...she never asked me and I was available and still am.
I am so hurt-didnt' get to sleep until after 3 am and up by 6...everyone in family knew for 2 days but us-no one called..I guess they feel not their place to do so...
IF SHE is trying to hurt us she has suceeded..I know major time of stress for her but she is making it more stressful.
Thanks for comments...and thoughts,
Denise
It could be that your daughter is ashamed. Yes, ashamed! That she did not produce a 'whole, healthy' baby. She may be feeling like a failure.
How can I say this? Well, my second one was 6 weeks early. Not only was she early, but had very much difficulty breathing. She was a 'guest' in the hospital's NICU unit for over a week. I kept questioning myself as to what I did "wrong" to "cause this".
Hugs to you, dearheart....
Hugs, Kathi
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I have taken a differentKathiM said:This might make things worse.....but here is my take....
It could be that your daughter is ashamed. Yes, ashamed! That she did not produce a 'whole, healthy' baby. She may be feeling like a failure.
How can I say this? Well, my second one was 6 weeks early. Not only was she early, but had very much difficulty breathing. She was a 'guest' in the hospital's NICU unit for over a week. I kept questioning myself as to what I did "wrong" to "cause this".
Hugs to you, dearheart....
Hugs, Kathi
I have taken a different approach-texting my daugher saying I am here no matter what. I cna't imagine what you are going through etc.
she has reached out and asked me to take boys school shopping etc.
we did go down HOUR away-we asked nurse to ask her if ok for us to go in...no surprises..she allowed us in...NOT excited or smile but i am sure exhausted..no sleep for days....so we did get to see the baby and her sister held her. first time for my hubby to see gianna.
all and all baby step but we got through it...they may come home fri hopefully with no IV, feeding tubes etc.
thanks for reply..kathi..
Denise
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Glad you got to see herdisneyfan2008 said:I have taken a different
I have taken a different approach-texting my daugher saying I am here no matter what. I cna't imagine what you are going through etc.
she has reached out and asked me to take boys school shopping etc.
we did go down HOUR away-we asked nurse to ask her if ok for us to go in...no surprises..she allowed us in...NOT excited or smile but i am sure exhausted..no sleep for days....so we did get to see the baby and her sister held her. first time for my hubby to see gianna.
all and all baby step but we got through it...they may come home fri hopefully with no IV, feeding tubes etc.
thanks for reply..kathi..
Denise
and help with the boys. Will pray for the baby and all of you. Sounds like she knew her baby may have medical issues b4 she was born. Will pray for all of you. Cant imagine what she is going through. Sounds like your new approach is working and she knows you are all there for her and her family. She will probably need you in the weeks to come.
Sending prayers,
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Carol:camul said:Glad you got to see her
and help with the boys. Will pray for the baby and all of you. Sounds like she knew her baby may have medical issues b4 she was born. Will pray for all of you. Cant imagine what she is going through. Sounds like your new approach is working and she knows you are all there for her and her family. She will probably need you in the weeks to come.
Sending prayers,
Carol
Thanks for yourCarol:
Thanks for your words...of kindness..
The baby (Gianna) is now up to 8lb 10 oz to on her way....as far as I know waiting for more weight gain before they can do surgery. She is almost 2 mths now.
I dont' see her often but do see boys every weekend when they sleep over.
Denise
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She has gained weight...just
She has gained weight...just waiting for surgery date.
I DONT" see her often-I am very close with the boys but this realationshiop will not be like with them. (therapist said NOT to expect it to be the same closeness and just take what I can have and not be sad) I am taking her advice-just happy for brief visits and snuggles..
Denise
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