hurtfull words

MrsBob said:

have been at the end of thoughtless words also

My father in law (at the time) once told me how horrible his brother's cancer was and how horrible his chemo was and then he went on to say "it wasnt the easy kind like your breast cancer and chemo, this was the harder kind." I was absolutely floored!!!! I just had to remember how ignorant he is about cancer and chemo. He knew nothing of it but talked like he did. I never let people see me when I was sick and i always had a smile. He had been with his brother and saw him sickly so thats probably why he thought mine was the "easy" kind. I forgave and went on...

I hope you can forgive her Kit Kat in time.  She is just plain ignorant and for that, she is to be pitied.  I am hoping that you will read all of these wonderful comments and start to feel better.

Hugs, Lex

I agree with you those words were very rude. I think the technician had good intentions and wanted to make you feel better. I think if it happens again you should not hold back and stay quiet. You can say I know probably you are trying to comfort me but you have no idea what is stage 1 breats cancer means, in order to survive I had to accept , mutiliation , poisioning bu horrible medications. I lost a part of myself and my health. I may look very healthy to you but I am not the same person, physically and menatlly.

Or you can choose your own words but please do not stay quiet.

disneyfan2008 said:

I never say I am a

I never say I am a SURVIOR.....I just say I had cancer in 2008! This weekend is relay for life walk-survisor ceremony-never think OH I should go then...ODD I know...I think since I had it easy compared to many. (NOT that anything with cancer is easy -not sure if I am saying it correctly)

 

Denise

What a horrible person to say that!  I'd like to kick her in the pants! 

SIROD said:

For Sue

I remember kit kat from last year when she had a problem.  She didn't come back until this year.  If you know her email 

address, you might want to inform her that many people want to know how things turn out.  Someone must have her email

address, one of her closer friends.

Best,

Doris

Stupid people are all over!  You certainly ran into one of them.  Even though her comment hurt you bad, I hope you've moved past it and are enjoying your life.

We're open all of the time here!

Hugs, Megan

survivorbc09 said:

I think we should still go

I think we should still go with Ritzy's idea and get on the pink bus and pay her a visit. 

Jan

I agree Jan!  Good thoughts and big hugs for you kit kat!

kit kat said:

words

Thank you everyone for your KIND words. that was the worst comment yet, because it came from a medical personal. Everyone else I could say ,it just should happen to them. They'll find out. But my father died from tongen c mom from stomach I would never ever say anything to them but possitive words , and I did years ago and my mother was 53 when she died and I was 21 at the time. I knew better. Life was precious to me even at that age. Some people never learn. I still suffer from chemo effects. Marrriage is strugging etc you all know. Thank you again.talk to you soon Kitty

You are back!

You're back Kit Kat!  Great to see you posting, as we have all been concerned about you, and, hoped you'd read all of the posts from the pinkies that are supporting you. 

I am sorry about the chemo effects you're still having and about your marriage.  I'll be praying for you.

Please continue to keep in touch! 

Sue

Ritzy said:

She just posted Doris! 

She just posted Doris!  

Hi,

I noticed!  I was delighted to read her post too!  

Best to you,

Doris

There are so many ignorant things people say about cancer it is best to simply walk away (or educate them, if you have the energy to spare).

I am sorry you had to hear another stupid comment from someone who has no clue. I only hope she is checking herself to make sure she catches it early.  Who knows! She might be one of the people to think: no family history, no cancer - both comments are pretty much parallel to each other.

Please remember that you are in a better position than she is because (1) you are educated and (2) you've been there done that - I know this part might not be exciting, but it gives you an edge when educating others.

If you are angry at her, you can do one of two things: (1) you can report her or (2) you can teach her a lesson by telling her she is ignorant, and explaining why. Both would take energy out of you. Remember to also forgive her.

Feel better soon and know that you're cared for.

kit kat said:

words

Thank you everyone for your KIND words. that was the worst comment yet, because it came from a medical personal. Everyone else I could say ,it just should happen to them. They'll find out. But my father died from tongen c mom from stomach I would never ever say anything to them but possitive words , and I did years ago and my mother was 53 when she died and I was 21 at the time. I knew better. Life was precious to me even at that age. Some people never learn. I still suffer from chemo effects. Marrriage is strugging etc you all know. Thank you again.talk to you soon Kitty

I am sorry about the side effects your having and your marriage troubles.  Post often if you need to if it helps you to get it out in a safe place.  Thanks for the update too.

Hugs, Rose

p.s. Glad you came back sooner rather than a year later like someone said it would be   .  We were all praying for you and wanted to know you were ok.  Thanks again!

Pink Rose said:

I am sorry about the side

I am sorry about the side effects your having and your marriage troubles.  Post often if you need to if it helps you to get it out in a safe place.  Thanks for the update too.

Hugs, Rose

p.s. Glad you came back sooner rather than a year later like someone said it would be   .  We were all praying for you and wanted to know you were ok.  Thanks again!

Keep updating us Kitty as we do worry about you.  Praying for you!

Leeza