Tim6003 Update and a few prayers could be used if you all don't mind

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  • jim and i
    jim and i Member Posts: 1,788 Member
    #22
    prayers coming your way

    Jim's mother lived with us for several years. We brought her to Daytona Beach to live with us. It was very hard on Jim and I because of the added stress. Jim was an only child so he had the entire burden of managing finances, health care and living arrangements. When we had to place her in an assisted living facility it was very hard on Jim. You didn't mention other family but if you have someone to share the burden then use them. Stress is not good for anyone's health, especially those battling the Beast.

  • cureitall66
    cureitall66 Member Posts: 913
    #23
    Missed you on here....

    Tim,

    Sorry to hear about this with your mother. Sounds like you're getting a handle on it the best you can.

    Let go of the scanxiety....it will be ok...Laughing

    Prayers for your mom and your worries to subside...

    ~C

  • alligatorpointer
    alligatorpointer Member Posts: 131
    #24
    Another test of strength and character

    Tim, you have already passed the test by enduring and surviving brutal cancer treatments and side effects with amazing strength and grace.  It is a blessing that you have now recovered enough to be able to help your mom.  Dementia is cruel and it saddens me to know that you are facing the heartbreak of caring for your mom as she falls prey to this devastating condition.  It happened to my mom, too, and also to my grandmother and my husband's mother and grandmother.  I fear that I will not escape the family pattern and will very likely need expensive and exhausting care if/when it occurs.  I wish there were some way to spare my own children the inevitability of seeing this happen to me.  Your mom would not want this for you either, Tim, but she could not have had a better son to take on the role of caring for her.  In some ways, dementia is a worse diagnosis than cancer since there is no cure and the pain associated with it is born by the loved ones of the patient and cannot be numbed with narcotic pain meds.  You are among those who are fortunate enough to have deep spiritual wells from which to draw strength, compassion, and a positive mindset.  As difficult as it will be to make decisions in the best interest of your mom, it is good that those decisions are being made by you because you love her.  I feel so sorry for elderly people who have no children or surviving relatives to help them when they become too frail to take care of themselves.  Your mom is very fortunate that you are there for her.  My wish for you, and her, is that there will be many moments of lucidity and joy as you hold her hand and gently guide her along this difficult path. 

  • katenorwood
    katenorwood Member Posts: 1,912
    #25
    Hello Tim !

    I understand your trepidation with decisions with your Mother.  First and foremost you are an excellant son.  My Father was dx'd with parkinson's 9 months after we lost Mom to ovarian.  It was very hard to accept this strong independant man now needing every day care.  We are a large family and everyone pitches in.  But with my health concerns I feel like I'm dropping the ball more than not.  I believe with the help of your wonderful wife, things will work out the best in concerns of your Mom.  Don't take to heart if she gets angry, or says things she normally wouldn't.  It's the disease not her.  I will keep you all in my prayers and in my thoughts Tim.  We are always here anytime you need us.  Hugs sent !   Katie

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