Can't find the words

rogina2336
rogina2336 Member Posts: 188
in Colorectal Cancer #1

I have been doing alot of pondering lately to post or not to post, but here it goes many of you have been through this and some unfortuneately will have to make the same choice as my DH and I have lately.  Saw the oncologist on Wednesday and the "H" word came out of her mouth!!  As much as one tries to wrap there head around such a thought it just does not sit easy.  There are no more treatments availale and my DH's liver functions are horrible, along with swollen feet and ascites.  ""H"ospice is coming out for a visit this week.  I guess I don't mind them visiting, but the thought of them taking over his care so he can leave this world........denial! YES!.  I know I have to face it, but it is just so very hard.  So many of you have been such an outstanding source of comfort and information through all of this, and I cannot thank you enough.  I pray everyday for each and everyone of you and now I ask that you return the favor in kind.  Thank you.  Kim

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  • jen2012
    jen2012 Member Posts: 1,607 Member
    #2
    So sorry Kim.  No advice or

    So sorry Kim.  No advice or words of wisdom, but you are in my prayers and thoughts.

  • Chelsea71
    Chelsea71 Member Posts: 1,169 Member
    #3
    You're at the crossroad that
    You're at the crossroad that we all dread. My thoughts are with you both. I have no advice, just sad that you're in this situation. Be strong.

    Chelsea
  • thingy45
    thingy45 Member Posts: 632 Member
    #4
    Chelsea71 said:

    You're at the crossroad that
    You're at the crossroad that we all dread. My thoughts are with you both. I have no advice, just sad that you're in this situation. Be strong.

    Chelsea

    choices

    My thoughts are with you. It always comes down to choices and when the time is right I am sure you will make the right choice.

    You also have to think about yourself, caring for someone is very draining and difficult.

    I wish you strength,

    Hugs, Marjan

  • wolfen
    wolfen Member Posts: 1,324 Member
    #5
    thingy45 said:

    choices

    My thoughts are with you. It always comes down to choices and when the time is right I am sure you will make the right choice.

    You also have to think about yourself, caring for someone is very draining and difficult.

    I wish you strength,

    Hugs, Marjan

    Kim

    My thoughts are with you. I truly know how difficult this must be for you. This does not mean that you are giving up. Hoping for a miracle for your hubby. Try hard to stray strong.

    Luv,

    Wolfen

  • karguy
    karguy Member Posts: 1,020 Member
    #6
    I'm sorry

    I'm sorry you have to go through that.You will be in my prayers.

  • karguy
    karguy Member Posts: 1,020 Member
    #7
    I'm sorry

    I'm sorry you have to go through that.You will be in my prayers.

  • herdizziness
    herdizziness Member Posts: 3,624 Member
    #8
    Kim

    I am so sorry to hear your news.  try not to think of Hospice as taking over his care, but as helping you both cope with the best ways to help him feel better.  They are not just there to help one leave this world, but to help you both enjoy it as much as possible as well.  And the nice thing, if things change so much for the better, then they can just go away.  I know it's difficult Kim, no one ever wants to hear those words that there are no treatments left,it isn't easy to face.  Enjoy your time together, make more happy moments to remember.  Do not grieve for him now, he's still there with you save  that for later.  My heart and prayers go out to you both.

    Winter Marie

  • steveandnat
    steveandnat Member Posts: 886
    #9
    Prayers coming your way

    It has to be such a surprise when the hospice word comes up. We can only pray that a new medicine will surface quickly. My thoughts are with you and everyone around you. Jeff

  • Deena11
    Deena11 Member Posts: 199 Member
    #10
    Kim

    I'm so sad to hear this news.  I do agree that they will be there to help you both cope with this.  I'm so sorry.  Prayers are being said for you both.

    Deena

  • Trubrit
    Trubrit Member Posts: 5,804 Member
    #11
    herdizziness said:

    Kim

    I am so sorry to hear your news.  try not to think of Hospice as taking over his care, but as helping you both cope with the best ways to help him feel better.  They are not just there to help one leave this world, but to help you both enjoy it as much as possible as well.  And the nice thing, if things change so much for the better, then they can just go away.  I know it's difficult Kim, no one ever wants to hear those words that there are no treatments left,it isn't easy to face.  Enjoy your time together, make more happy moments to remember.  Do not grieve for him now, he's still there with you save  that for later.  My heart and prayers go out to you both.

    Winter Marie

    Wonderful!

    What a wonderful, sensitive reply. 

  • Trubrit
    Trubrit Member Posts: 5,804 Member
    #12

    I honestly can't wait it better than what Winter Narie had  to say.

    my thoughts and prayers are with you both.

  • LivinginNH
    LivinginNH Member Posts: 1,456 Member
    #13
    herdizziness said:

    Kim

    I am so sorry to hear your news.  try not to think of Hospice as taking over his care, but as helping you both cope with the best ways to help him feel better.  They are not just there to help one leave this world, but to help you both enjoy it as much as possible as well.  And the nice thing, if things change so much for the better, then they can just go away.  I know it's difficult Kim, no one ever wants to hear those words that there are no treatments left,it isn't easy to face.  Enjoy your time together, make more happy moments to remember.  Do not grieve for him now, he's still there with you save  that for later.  My heart and prayers go out to you both.

    Winter Marie

    As Winter Marie so nicely

    As Winter Marie so nicely stated, cherish your present time together, and try not to think past the moment.  Now is the time to reminisce about all the good times and funny stories that you've shared.  Make time for quiet moments; hold his hand while you read to him, listen to your favorite music, or look at photo albums.  I hold you both in my heart during this very difficult time.

    All my best,

    Cynthia 

  • Nana b
    Nana b Member Posts: 3,030 Member
    #14
    So sorry to read this....

    My thoughts are with you and yours.   I know there must be a big ache in your heart that feels like it could burst, death is so hard.  You want to get into that person's sould and never let go.  

     

    May he go in peace and may you have some comfort that he will no longer be in pain.  

     

    May you continue your life's journey with a passion that I'm sure he would like you to have.  For now, just take him in.....

     

    Big Hug!  

  • Coloncancerblows
    Coloncancerblows Member Posts: 296 Member
    #15
    So sorry Kim.  I will be

    So sorry Kim.  I will be praying for you and your husband. 

  • angelsbaby
    angelsbaby Member Posts: 1,165 Member
    #16
    Awww

    sorry kim  you and yoru husband r in my thought s and prayers

     

    michelle

     

  • barbebarb
    barbebarb Member Posts: 464
    #17
    angelsbaby said:

    Awww

    sorry kim  you and yoru husband r in my thought s and prayers

     

    michelle

     

    Am sorry
    Sorry to hear this report.
    Will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
    Barb
  • rogina2336
    rogina2336 Member Posts: 188
    #18
    thank you all so very much

    thank you all so very much for your kind words, thoughts and prayers.  Today is the day the social worker and nurse are coming for there visit.  I am a bag of very mixed emotions, as hard as it seems to be that we are in this position I have heard alot of good things about hospice and how helpful they can be.  Trying to stay positive and cherish every moment.  <3 Kim

     

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