hurtfull words

Ritzy said:

I apologize for the ignorance

I apologize for the ignorance of that tech.  I would like to slap her up side the head personally!  Sorry, but that is such a dumb and insensitive remark she made.

Breast cancer is horrible!  It doesn't matter what stage or grade you are, it is all breast cancer and it is a life changing disease that we have to fight with every part of our being.  Even if we no longer are having active treatment, we still have the dreaded tests and the anticipation of the results for the rest of our lives to go through.  It isn't a competition, or, it shouldn't be,  "as to I have it worse than you because..... "  None of it is easy and it should never be talked about so lightly as she did.  She is just dumb and I guess we should pity her.

Please don't cry.  Don't let someone who is stupid damper one second of your life!  You are a survivor, a warrior, a pink sister with an army of people that understand and love you right here! 

I hope that by coming here and telling us that it will make you feel better.  Move past the imbecile's remark and enjoy your day!  Don't let her steal your joy! 

Sue

I hope she never gets bc.  If she ever does, I think she will change her tune.  We are all sensitive to remarks about bc because we've ALL had a hard time, so, you aren't alone.  I am sure every one of us have had something dumb like this said to us, most without the people saying them even realizing what they are actually saying. 

Try to move past this and vent here when you need to, just like today. 

Sending you a big hug,

Diane

kmenurse said:

You took the words right out

You took the words right out of my mouth Sue.... That tech needs a lesson in "Bed Side Manners" Or maybe even find another profession…

I don't know if you'd feel comfortable doing this, but if this had been me, I would tell her supervisor or the doctor she works for.  They really should know that she is making stupid and hurtful remarks to bc survivors and it is so wrong.  Or, if you don't want to tell them in person, write them a letter.  Seriously, they should know and hopefully stop her, I should say it lol, from voicing this to another woman.

Big hugs,

Leeza

I certainly wish that were the truth!  Then I would be in a different position.  I certainly wouldn't let that twit ruin my day, and it certainly wouldn't warrant tears from me.  That is just another ignorant remark.  I think if every person who made these remarks had to endure, one chemo treatment they would certainly change thier tune!  lol wouldn't that be something!!

Go on with your day and don't look back, not worth the effort.  The effect of cancer regardless if it is stage I or stage IV is reflected not only in our bodies, but also in our whole outlook.  I really do hope you can look pass this and just celebrate that you are here 3 years later.  One thing we all learn when going through this God-awful disease, is that every day is precious, as are our family and friends. 

camul said:

Another stupid remark.

I certainly wish that were the truth!  Then I would be in a different position.  I certainly wouldn't let that twit ruin my day, and it certainly wouldn't warrant tears from me.  That is just another ignorant remark.  I think if every person who made these remarks had to endure, one chemo treatment they would certainly change thier tune!  lol wouldn't that be something!!

Go on with your day and don't look back, not worth the effort.  The effect of cancer regardless if it is stage I or stage IV is reflected not only in our bodies, but also in our whole outlook.  I really do hope you can look pass this and just celebrate that you are here 3 years later.  One thing we all learn when going through this God-awful disease, is that every day is precious, as are our family and friends. 

 

 

This would be upsetting.I was Stage 0 non invasive.My doctor said this cancer won't spread but I can get other cancers. Since my dx almost 4 year ago  my lumpectomy 1 benign tumor was found as I was getting prepped,3 weeks later with my check margin surgery I found another tumor 2 days before that surgery and my 2 year mammo a benign tumor was found. I'm Stage 0 but I'm still am bothered by the benign tumors. That last one is watched.It was a fibroid tumor.

I know how you feel and wish you the best.

Lynn Smith

Lynn Smith said:

This would be upsetting

This would be upsetting.I was Stage 0 non invasive.My doctor said this cancer won't spread but I can get other cancers. Since my dx almost 4 year ago  my lumpectomy 1 benign tumor was found as I was getting prepped,3 weeks later with my check margin surgery I found another tumor 2 days before that surgery and my 2 year mammo a benign tumor was found. I'm Stage 0 but I'm still am bothered by the benign tumors. That last one is watched.It was a fibroid tumor.

I know how you feel and wish you the best.

Lynn Smith

Cancer is cancer!  I hope her boss talks to her and talks to her very firmly.  I'm sending a big hug to you!

Hi,

Don't let someones ignorance get you down.  She obviously has no clue.  Maybe you could have said, well all the treatments I had sure made it feel like cancer.  I hope you never have to go through it.  That would have put an end to that conversation.  It may have caught you off guard but don't be afraid to speak up for yourself and correct her.  It doesn't matter what stage, cancer is cancer is cancer. 

((hugs) Terry

mom62 said:

Ignorance

Hi,

Don't let someones ignorance get you down.  She obviously has no clue.  Maybe you could have said, well all the treatments I had sure made it feel like cancer.  I hope you never have to go through it.  That would have put an end to that conversation.  It may have caught you off guard but don't be afraid to speak up for yourself and correct her.  It doesn't matter what stage, cancer is cancer is cancer. 

((hugs) Terry

Stupid is as stupid does and she is certainly stupid!  I agree with everyone here that cancer is cancer.  It doesn't matter what stage it is.  I hope you read these posts and realize that she is the one that is so wrong here. 

Hugs, Diane

wow...sorry to hear such an uncaring person (AND IN THE medical field)

ONE nurse did say to me some years back..OH YOU ONLY had surgery and radiation..then quickly said sorry I didnt' mean it like that...

I never thought of myself as a survior until i joined this site...since I had surgery and 8 wks radiation-but I FOUND OUT "I AM"

Thinking of you..

Denise

KitKat, I had an oncologist tell me that my first go around with cancer. I was stage 0, with widespread DCIS. I had to have a mastectomy with reconstruction because a lumpectomy would have left me disfigured. I was shocked when he said it and I never went back to him. He's lucky I didn't take his little bow-tie and tie it a little tighter.

As others have said, once you are told you have cancer, no matter what stage or grade, you are in that club. You know what you have gone through and you are a true warrior and survivor. We all are! Just remember how far you have come, how much you have overcome and learned in these last few years. My guess is, you have also helped plenty of other people who have received a similar diagnosis.

Just because some people don't "get it" doesn't diminish what you have conquered.

Barb A

If you ever have to deal with her again ask her, " Have you ever had to deal with cancer personally yourself?" I am betting she hasn't. If the answer is no, then you tell her that she isn't qualified to make any statement about the severity of any cancer. If the answer is yes then I would ask her," why, having been through it herself, she would make such an insensitive and cruel comment?". At any rate, as was stated before, I would report her to her supervisor. At the very least she needs some sensitivity training.

God Bless You and yours.