PET scan results, Mets to lung

Sunrae said:

Hi Patti

Just wanted to let you know that I'm so sorry for what's happening to you and  to let you know that you'e in my thoughts and prayers. Sometimes you wonder how you'll get thru all this but you seem like a strong woman and I know you'll fight with all your might. There are so many courageous and inspiring people on this board who have battled long and hard, and their stories will encourage you to not give up. I don't post often but I check in to see what's going on. Keep posting and let us know how you're doing.

I have been survivor of stage IV for a year now. It is hard to process when I think about it, however when I do not I am living my life and go through treatment. There is a Hope and Love!

Hugs

New Flower 

Patti1967 said:

Thanks all, yeah today I am

Thanks all, yeah today I am mad as hell and feeling quite sorry for myself:(   I just finished chemo on Dec 10, and now here I am, getting ready to start 36 rads to my face for the head and neck cancer and now looking at chemo ect for the stage 4 bc.  I will fight just like all of you and I so appreciate all of you. 

Patti

Feel sorry for yourself, anyone would.  Be mad, anyone would too.  Voice your thoughts here, as we do understand Patti and will try to help you.  Good luck on the 9th.  Don't forget to post what you find out for us.

So sorry and sending lots of prayers and cyber hugs,

Jan

Red hen said:

Stage IV with liver mets and bone mets

 

Hi Patti an Lisa, I know the feelings you are going thru, I was newly diagnosed Feb. 2013 at first my thoughts were end it all.  My brother was diagnosed lung cancer  and did end his life.  Then when reality hit me I knew I had no option but to deal with this verdict.   We can make it thru this.   i have not talked to any one about my cancer feeling and I see I am not alone.  You are in my prayers. Kitty

Praying for you Red hen too!

Jan

Patti1967 said:

I am finally getting over

I am finally getting over feeling sorry for myself:)  I have been enjoying the weather and doing some yard work, I love being outdoors!  My neighbor stopped by while I was planting my herb box and asked what in the world I was doing, I said planting my herbs why?  She then tells me she is just surprised to see me doing yard work.  My first thought was to say "hell I am not dead"  I know pretty tacky, but geez.  I am in fight mode and I am not going to not enjoy what I love doing until I can no longer do it! 

You know my 46th birthday was last Tuesday, everyone and I mean people that haven't even sent me a card in years, went all out.  It was a great birthday, haven't had one like that since I was a child but at the same time it was a little wierd.  It's like they were all acting as if this would be my last one here to celebrate.  I told my husband that everyone thinks I am going to die, he said well I don't and I said well I don't either! LOL  It's strange how people act and God love them I know it has to be hard for them:)  They either are all in or they are  never around. 

I talk about all of you all of the time, telling all that will listen how very lucky I am to have found this sight and have all of you in my corner:)  I see both surgeons this week one on the 9th and the other on the 10th.  I will let you all know how it goes, thanks again to all of you wonderful, wonderful pinks!!!!!!

Patti

That's good for you to do things that you love Patti!  I love to work ouside too and it always makes me feel good! 

On another note, I know that sometimes what people say can hurt and even shock us, but in their defense, they don't have a clue of what it is like to be diagnosed with bc and to have the surgery's that we do and the treatments, meaning chemo and rads.  Are they ignorant?  Yes, in that respect, ofcourse they are.  Does that excuse them?  In my eyes it does, maybe not right away ( LOL ), but, after I think about it, I realize they really do care, they just don't know what to say and may say the wrong thing.  Maybe your neighbor just thought you weren't feeling well and was surprised to see you outside doing physical work.  I am sure she met well.  I had many that thought I wasn't going to be around when they first heard I had cancer, but, I am still here and loving life!  When they hear cancer, some go to the deepest extreme, just because they don't know any better, not their fault, just the way it is.  Ignore anything hurtful and surround yourself with people that love you and that you feel good being around.  This is a time that you need to be selfish..Think of YOU first! 

I am so glad your birthday was wonderful!  You deserve the best birthday ever, so, happy belated birthday Patti!

Good luck with your appointments this week. 

Sue

Josie21 said:

Hi Patti

Hi Patti,

Happy belated birthday!  i am so glad you are enjoying your gardening.  I used to love gardening until I moved down to Florida.  I saw a couple of snakes and that was it for me.  I'm not that brave!!  They were little non venomous black snakes, but to me they looked like anacondas!!  As far as how people treat you, give them some time.  Cancer is scary.  Some people can handle it and some can't.  Some people say the right thing and others will say things that will make your head spin.  Just enjoy each day.  You have a great attitude and you are going to be OK.  I just know it.  

Hugs to you,

Ginny

Big belated happy birthday wishes!  Don't let cancer steal your joy or anyone either!  Keep your positive attitude, come here and post, work in your garden and fight! 

Hugs, Debby

Patti1967 said:

I am finally getting over

I am finally getting over feeling sorry for myself:)  I have been enjoying the weather and doing some yard work, I love being outdoors!  My neighbor stopped by while I was planting my herb box and asked what in the world I was doing, I said planting my herbs why?  She then tells me she is just surprised to see me doing yard work.  My first thought was to say "hell I am not dead"  I know pretty tacky, but geez.  I am in fight mode and I am not going to not enjoy what I love doing until I can no longer do it! 

You know my 46th birthday was last Tuesday, everyone and I mean people that haven't even sent me a card in years, went all out.  It was a great birthday, haven't had one like that since I was a child but at the same time it was a little wierd.  It's like they were all acting as if this would be my last one here to celebrate.  I told my husband that everyone thinks I am going to die, he said well I don't and I said well I don't either! LOL  It's strange how people act and God love them I know it has to be hard for them:)  They either are all in or they are  never around. 

I talk about all of you all of the time, telling all that will listen how very lucky I am to have found this sight and have all of you in my corner:)  I see both surgeons this week one on the 9th and the other on the 10th.  I will let you all know how it goes, thanks again to all of you wonderful, wonderful pinks!!!!!!

Patti

Prove them wrong and just keep fighting!

When I was diagnosed in 1987 (Stage 3-large tumor and 4 nodes), Katherine's kindergarten class made me get well cards. 

One was our absolute favorite:  It pictured a young woman lying on the ground holding a lily.  She obviously heard that cancer=death!  Anyway, it still cracks me up (I know I'm twisted).  And, by the way, that was 26 years ago!!!

Don't listen to the doomsayers!  And you will probably shock them by how well you do!

Patti1967 said:

You all are just too

You all are just too wonderful for words:)  I can't thank you all enough for how you lift my spirits on a daily basis!  I use humor a lot and at times some might think it is "twisted" but hey I try to find humor in life as much as possible:)  Laughter truly is a wonderful thing. 

Hugs, Patti

If we lift your spirits, then we are truly pink sisters!  It's what we should do!  You are right about laughter, it does work it's magic on all of our spirits.

Hugs back at you,

Angie

You are entitled to your emotions. Know you are in my prayers and thoughts I too  am stage 4 as of last summer. Mine is to my lungs and spine. I had gotten a no active cancer report a few months ago but the last bone scan done this past Fri, indicated it may be back in my back and perhaps in my manubrium near the sternoclavicular joint. I see the Dr Mon to find out. So I understand the Mad part. I try not to feel sorry for myself but it creeps in some times. All very normal. Please let us help you through this and all the challenges that come with it.

Prayers and hugs to you darlin