Tired of being a widow

VivianLee5689 said:

Sorry to hear about your mother

I live in Versailles Kentucky. My brother in law lives 80 miles away in Florence Ky.

It always breaks my heart to hear about a church that is not supportive ...I will never understand that, bu I'm a realist and I know it does happen.  Tesa, good to see you post!  I'm sorry about your mom, I remember you on here for a short time before your mom did pass.

Vivan...I was hesitant to write about the part of all the pictures and happy times as I know you and David did not have long together in my response...I am sorry if that hurt you.  I'm glad to hear David told you what he did.  He sounds like a great guy....I know he is missed.

I was talking to my mom today in Daytona Beach (we talk daily on the phone since I live in Idaho) and today is the date of my fathers passing two years ago...one of the elder ladies in the chruch (who is moms age) comes up to mom today IN CHURCH and says "you know today is the date your husband passed away?" ....I was just bowled over when my mom  told me that!  Mom said she got so upset (she is having memory issues and did not realize that) that she just got up and left crying the whole way home.

I realize the lady meant no harm and she probably was aware of some of my mom's memory issues and just meant to be helpful, but seriously you have to wonder sometimes what people are thinking when they open their mouths.  I cast no stones as I am sure I have done the same, though I pray it was unitentional...I guess I was just hurt for my mom whom I spent 1 hour on the phone with she was so upset she forgot.  I told her what I always say to my wife and kids...don't remember my date of death and don't come visit my grave!  Remember my b-day and how I lived and any and all good times we had...so I told her to think about that.  You both know as well we think about our loved ones daily anyway.

Vivian and Tesa ...whispered a prayer for both of you that your hurt and longing at the loss of your husband and mom gets better....they know you loved them with all your heart and they would want you to live full and be happy I am sure.

Best,

Tim