Can not take much more

Sorry to hear of all the problems.  You sound pretty much overwhelmed.  How much is social services involved with your dad right now?  In my case, the medical oncologist had an excellent social services staff.  They were real experts at helping bridge the gaps that came up.  If you haven't gone down that road, it is worth  looking for this type of advocate.

wishing you the best

Pat

Katt,

I am really sorry about the truck, what a shame.

As for the ramp for your Dad, there are often local organizations which do just what you are asking, from permits, design, building material and construction. Unfortunately, you are on your own trying to track down your options.  If I was local I would be happy to lend a helping hand and I am sure you will have some luck finding help.

I am sorry your Dad is having such difficulties and I hope his condition smoothes out to work with you.

Matt

After I got my Mother on Medicaid ( she was totally bedridden) they paid a caregiver 8 hours a day and I was able to keep working. I later hired someone to take care of her at night ( it was to hard for me to work and get up with her , she had to be turned every two hours) and used her SS to pay them. I think the number of hours you get is based on how much you can do for your self. I hope this will relieve some of your stress and worry and that you will be able to keep your job. I couldn't afford to quit my job and lose my retirement. Good luck with medicaid.

Peggy

Pumakitty said:

Thanks guys

I have been trying to work with the social worker, but I am not having much luck.  She tells me one thing and then something else the next time.  I am scheduled to meet with someone on Friday morning. 

I did have a talk with the insurance and they have increased what I am getting for my truck.  It will pay off my loan.  I contacted the local Access Independance office about assistance with a ramp.  I am waiting to here back from them.

Do any of you have any expereince with the temporay ramps and how they work.

 

Kathy

I work in the insurance industry and can tell you that the owner (not necessarily the driver) ultimately has legal liability for the vehicle. So if the owner is other than the unlicensed uninsured driver you may have some options. Even if they are one and the same, if they have any assets, you could recover your losses.

I'm glad to hear the insurance company will at least pay off the loan, tho.  But I felt sick when I read this. 

Besides the social worker, what about getting in contact with the American Cancer Society (they may have an office in the hospital, they do here)....I'll bet there are cancer survivors out there....maybe retired....who can build a ramp.  There's a bunch of retired carpenters/contractors here who pick up work in our local Nickel Nik....but I'd bet they'd also do the job at a cut rate.  Don't know if there is a way around a permit (a permit for a ramp???  Wow, picky county )....

Things are already looking up, so that's good.

p

tommyodavey said:

Don't get overwhelmed

Katt,

I cannot offer any suggestions that haven't already been posted.  What I will say is, only focus on what you handle for one day, no more.  Just for today.  I'm sure you've heard that phrase but I wanted to remind you of it.  I know for me that whenever I feel like there is just too much to do, I have to pull back and figure out exactly what can be done in this day and then not worry about the tomorrows.  They will come and I will deal with them one day at a time.

Hope the venting helped.

Tom

Try this link (I don't know what State you live in) and see if there is someting there for your area..

http://www.ramps.org/free-ramps.htm 

I'm sorry you are having a time, easy to say do not let yourself get overwhelmed, so I won't say it ...but I did whisper a prayer you find a remedy on the ramp issue and some funding to help with your dad.

Best,

Tim