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I'm sorry you are dealing
I'm sorry you are dealing with so much. The pain just compounds everything. You have found a great place to come and vent. As far as the child goes...you can ask the court to appoint a guardian ad litem. Typically this would be an attorney...a non partial party who looks out for the child's best interest. Most times grandparents are looking out for the child and want them to be well cared for. The emotion involved makes it hard for parties to think clearly. If you are able to make peace with them it will probably be a benefit to all...especially your child. I know its hard.0 -
thank u all. it makes me feeljen2012 said:I'm sorry you are dealing
I'm sorry you are dealing with so much. The pain just compounds everything. You have found a great place to come and vent. As far as the child goes...you can ask the court to appoint a guardian ad litem. Typically this would be an attorney...a non partial party who looks out for the child's best interest. Most times grandparents are looking out for the child and want them to be well cared for. The emotion involved makes it hard for parties to think clearly. If you are able to make peace with them it will probably be a benefit to all...especially your child. I know its hard.thank u all. it makes me feel so much better to come onn here and read all the discussions and hear everyone. it lets me know that i am not alone. as i feel so alone in reality.
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I have been thinking about you so much .....KayeKay said:thank u all. it makes me feel
thank u all. it makes me feel so much better to come onn here and read all the discussions and hear everyone. it lets me know that i am not alone. as i feel so alone in reality.
So sorry you feel alone in reality.....but I am glad you get support and caring from this forum. You are a beautiful person inside and out and I wish I could take some of your pain away. I love the lioness in you when you talk about fighting for your son,,,,so sorry you got outlaws! How old is your son? When you start feeling better you may have a better idea of what you want to do. You just need to think of yourself, rest, and be patient, and I know that is not easy to do. If you live in the Chicago area I would love to help you. Sending positive thoughts.....(if I sound a little motherly, I have 5 children, and few are close to your age) ~ Ann
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annlouiseAnnLouise said:I have been thinking about you so much .....
So sorry you feel alone in reality.....but I am glad you get support and caring from this forum. You are a beautiful person inside and out and I wish I could take some of your pain away. I love the lioness in you when you talk about fighting for your son,,,,so sorry you got outlaws! How old is your son? When you start feeling better you may have a better idea of what you want to do. You just need to think of yourself, rest, and be patient, and I know that is not easy to do. If you live in the Chicago area I would love to help you. Sending positive thoughts.....(if I sound a little motherly, I have 5 children, and few are close to your age) ~ Ann
such a amazing message. yes they were outlaws and it sux that i have to deal with them until one of us dies. he is 4. im doing my best to get better and trust me it aint easy. i know i need to ignore them they just disgust me sooo. that would be awesome but i live in ohio. and thats ok if u sound motherly. its nice:)
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god this has been the hardestKayeKay said:annlouise
such a amazing message. yes they were outlaws and it sux that i have to deal with them until one of us dies. he is 4. im doing my best to get better and trust me it aint easy. i know i need to ignore them they just disgust me sooo. that would be awesome but i live in ohio. and thats ok if u sound motherly. its nice:)
god this has been the hardest thing ever!! i wake in the mornings in sooo much pain its taking its toll on me. i feel like im wasting away! when will this extreme pain subside? im still having the hardest time getting around.
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Kaye:
First, I am so very sorry you are going thru all of this. Recurrence is tough enough but adding a custody batte to the mix just sucks.
I am going to assume here that in the past you worked with a "custody" attorney. Call him now. See him/her and lay your cards on the table. Custody is between you and the child's father. In many states, grandparents have no standing. Like John said, the best interest of the child is at stake. Just because you have cancer does not make you a parent not able to care for your child. Seek the advise of an attorney so you know your legal rights. In the interim, keep away from the inlaws and don't let them aggrivate you or you aggrivate them. Knowing your legal rights considering your current situation will take a lot of pressure off. If your in laws need to be told to back off, let your attorney handle that.
This may sound off the wall but if you live on your own do you have parents, sister, etc. that you can live with while undergoing treatment to help you thru treatments and caring for your child. If you do, you may want to give that some thought. If this advances to a court situation at least you can show that you indeed have put the best interest of the child first.
Most court systems simply do not take custody away from a mom because she is sick. That is so very heartless. They may adjust custody arrangements.
So dear one, get some legal advise, if only to put your mind at ease so you can concentrate on treatments, well being, both physical and emotional and again, simply do not speak to the other side or give them any information whatsoever because honestly if you don't get along your life struggles are simply none of their busines . Don't respond to texts or call, block them if you have to until you get some answers.
Wishing you the best - Tina
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yes i do not have contactgeotina said:Kaye:
First, I am so very sorry you are going thru all of this. Recurrence is tough enough but adding a custody batte to the mix just sucks.
I am going to assume here that in the past you worked with a "custody" attorney. Call him now. See him/her and lay your cards on the table. Custody is between you and the child's father. In many states, grandparents have no standing. Like John said, the best interest of the child is at stake. Just because you have cancer does not make you a parent not able to care for your child. Seek the advise of an attorney so you know your legal rights. In the interim, keep away from the inlaws and don't let them aggrivate you or you aggrivate them. Knowing your legal rights considering your current situation will take a lot of pressure off. If your in laws need to be told to back off, let your attorney handle that.
This may sound off the wall but if you live on your own do you have parents, sister, etc. that you can live with while undergoing treatment to help you thru treatments and caring for your child. If you do, you may want to give that some thought. If this advances to a court situation at least you can show that you indeed have put the best interest of the child first.
Most court systems simply do not take custody away from a mom because she is sick. That is so very heartless. They may adjust custody arrangements.
So dear one, get some legal advise, if only to put your mind at ease so you can concentrate on treatments, well being, both physical and emotional and again, simply do not speak to the other side or give them any information whatsoever because honestly if you don't get along your life struggles are simply none of their busines . Don't respond to texts or call, block them if you have to until you get some answers.
Wishing you the best - Tina
yes i do not have contact with any of them at all. i gave guardianship to my mother when i got sick 2 years ago. these people are just sitting back and crossing their fingers that i croak because i have become their worst nightmare since they decided to try and screw with my child. my family definitely keeps the scum of the earth on their toes. scum of the earth is putting it politely. no i dont live on my own. my fiance and i have a house and my soon to be father in law and sister in law live next door. on top of all this im getting married next friday. so ive been trying to focus on that instead of worrying about my kids dad trying to take him. he is 3000 back on child support,never paid a penny, in and out of jail and somehow keeps getting out of warrant after warrant. he makes me sick. but f them im getting married and he wouldnt stand a chance against me in court. he doesnt even have a stable home and my fiance owns our house so they can forget about it.
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Congratulations on your upcoming wedding.....KayeKay said:yes i do not have contact
yes i do not have contact with any of them at all. i gave guardianship to my mother when i got sick 2 years ago. these people are just sitting back and crossing their fingers that i croak because i have become their worst nightmare since they decided to try and screw with my child. my family definitely keeps the scum of the earth on their toes. scum of the earth is putting it politely. no i dont live on my own. my fiance and i have a house and my soon to be father in law and sister in law live next door. on top of all this im getting married next friday. so ive been trying to focus on that instead of worrying about my kids dad trying to take him. he is 3000 back on child support,never paid a penny, in and out of jail and somehow keeps getting out of warrant after warrant. he makes me sick. but f them im getting married and he wouldnt stand a chance against me in court. he doesnt even have a stable home and my fiance owns our house so they can forget about it.
You deserve some happiness in the midst of your turmoil and health issues. You will be a beautiful bride! I am glad you have your fiancée's father and sister living so close to you. Hope you get better each day....thinking of you...~ Ann
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Thank you very much Ann:)AnnLouise said:Congratulations on your upcoming wedding.....
You deserve some happiness in the midst of your turmoil and health issues. You will be a beautiful bride! I am glad you have your fiancée's father and sister living so close to you. Hope you get better each day....thinking of you...~ Ann
Thank you very much Ann:)
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You are in my thoughts and
You are in my thoughts and prayers. Cancer does suck big time!!!
Cynthia
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Ditto!Coloncancerblows said:You are in my thoughts and
You are in my thoughts and prayers. Cancer does suck big time!!!
Cynthia
Ditto!
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