He fought the good fight!!!

KJones1969
KJones1969 Member Posts: 158
in Kidney Cancer #1

Quite a few of you know my husband's cancer history. Well he fought the good fight that ended about 10:12 last night. Please keep our family in your thoughts in the coming days and weeks.

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  • Texas_wedge
    Texas_wedge Member Posts: 2,798
    #2
    Very sad loss indeed

    He certainly did Karen and you, with him all the way.  I can't tell you how sorry I am to hear your sad news.  I know I'm speaking for all of us in saying we will be thinking of you and your family and wishing you peace and space to celebrate all the happy memories you will have to console you.

  • rnayriv
    rnayriv Member Posts: 38 Member
    #3
    So sorry for your loss. May

    So sorry for your loss. May God bless you and comfort you at this time.

  • alice124
    alice124 Member Posts: 896 Member
    #4
    I am so sorry. . .

    Karen,

    I am so sorry for your loss. While I didn't personally know your husband (or know you except via this Board for that matter), it felt like I did and I feel a tremendous loss. We were in the fight together and John and I have been pulling for the two of you since your initial appearance on this Board. I remember the ups and downs and the hope and disappointment. But the one constant was your absolute love and devotion to him. No one could have done more than you did, and I'm sure he knew how fortunate he was to have such a compassionate, determined, loving advocate at his side throughout. Know my thoughts and prayers are just a breath away. While it sounds lame, if I can do anything. . .

     

  • foxhd
    foxhd Member Posts: 3,181 Member
    #5
    alice124 said:

    I am so sorry. . .

    Karen,

    I am so sorry for your loss. While I didn't personally know your husband (or know you except via this Board for that matter), it felt like I did and I feel a tremendous loss. We were in the fight together and John and I have been pulling for the two of you since your initial appearance on this Board. I remember the ups and downs and the hope and disappointment. But the one constant was your absolute love and devotion to him. No one could have done more than you did, and I'm sure he knew how fortunate he was to have such a compassionate, determined, loving advocate at his side throughout. Know my thoughts and prayers are just a breath away. While it sounds lame, if I can do anything. . .

     

    That hurts

    That hurts to hear. So sorry. Fox.

  • roaddr23
    roaddr23 Member Posts: 77
    #6
    So So Sorry...

    I spent quite awhile the other day reading your posts and learning about your husband and you...how lucky he was to have someone like you in his life...Prayers go up for him and out to you and your family as well as healing energy for your soul....It goes without saying that all of us here have your back and will be there for you...I just arrived not that long ago but feel I have been a part of this group forever...I know right now you are in a fog but I lost my Dad this past May 8 and my Mom 7 weeks later on July 1 and my beautiful Mother in Law on Sept 3. Most of us are blessed with wonderful friends but as individuals we all grieve differently...Several weeks after my Dad died several of my Mom's close friends were making her feel terrible because she hadn't boxed up his things...his glasses were still on the night table, his shoes by the bed...I know they meant well and were trying to get her to her to get back to life....My sister and I told her it was ok if his glasses were still there a year from now...and she shouldn't feel guilty or like there is a certain time frame in which she had to get over this tremendous loss...each of us has to deal with this in our way and our own time...do what you feel in your heart is right for you. My sister and I have packed up a most of parents house but the shoes my Mom wore all the time are still tucked under her nightstand where she left them and they will stay there until the house is sold.Your heart will tell you what is best for you and your husband, although not physically, will be right beside you whenever you need him.

  • rae_rae
    rae_rae Member Posts: 300 Member
    #7
    roaddr23 said:

    So So Sorry...

    I spent quite awhile the other day reading your posts and learning about your husband and you...how lucky he was to have someone like you in his life...Prayers go up for him and out to you and your family as well as healing energy for your soul....It goes without saying that all of us here have your back and will be there for you...I just arrived not that long ago but feel I have been a part of this group forever...I know right now you are in a fog but I lost my Dad this past May 8 and my Mom 7 weeks later on July 1 and my beautiful Mother in Law on Sept 3. Most of us are blessed with wonderful friends but as individuals we all grieve differently...Several weeks after my Dad died several of my Mom's close friends were making her feel terrible because she hadn't boxed up his things...his glasses were still on the night table, his shoes by the bed...I know they meant well and were trying to get her to her to get back to life....My sister and I told her it was ok if his glasses were still there a year from now...and she shouldn't feel guilty or like there is a certain time frame in which she had to get over this tremendous loss...each of us has to deal with this in our way and our own time...do what you feel in your heart is right for you. My sister and I have packed up a most of parents house but the shoes my Mom wore all the time are still tucked under her nightstand where she left them and they will stay there until the house is sold.Your heart will tell you what is best for you and your husband, although not physically, will be right beside you whenever you need him.

    Very Sorry

    When we lose someone on this forum, we lose a member of our family. I am deeply saddened and my heart aches for you. I cannot even begin to imagine. God Bless you and your family and may you find strength and peace during this time of deep sorrow.

  • garym
    garym Member Posts: 1,647
    #8
    We feel your loss...

    KJ,

    Very sorry to hear the fight is over for your husband and wish there were words to help when I know there are none.

    Thinking of you,

    Gary

  • Limelife50
    Limelife50 Member Posts: 476
    #9
    So Sorry

    So Sorry the fight is over Karen,the news saddens my heart,i am proud your husband never alowed the cancer to take away his dignity.You and your family will be in my thoughts in these upcoming weeks,i hope maybe in the future you are able to come back to this board and revisit us since you are a part of us for the rest of our lives.

  • LKidd
    LKidd Member Posts: 37
    #10
    Sorry

    I don't know your story, I have not been on here long. So sorry for your loss.

    Leanne

  • DMike
    DMike Member Posts: 259
    #11
    Sorry

    Karen,

    I'm so sorry. I'll be thinking of you and I wish you peace.

    --David

  • ksaldivar1
    ksaldivar1 Member Posts: 10
    #12
    Karen,
    I am so sorry for your

    Karen,

    I am so sorry for your loss.  Thoughts and prayers to you and your entire family.

     

  • Digger95
    Digger95 Member Posts: 59
    #13
    I'm so sorry to hear of your

    I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, but please know that your husband's fight will serve to inspire others.

  • angec
    angec Member Posts: 924 Member
    #14
    Karen, cannot tell you how

    Karen, cannot tell you how sad I am to hear this.  I will pray for all of you!  may bring give you comfort in hour time of need and always.  Xxoo 

  • KJones1969
    KJones1969 Member Posts: 158
    #15
    angec said:

    Karen, cannot tell you how

    Karen, cannot tell you how sad I am to hear this.  I will pray for all of you!  may bring give you comfort in hour time of need and always.  Xxoo 

    Thank all of you

    When we started this journey on February 18th of last year with his diagnosis and nephroectomy on March 15th, 2012 I knew he was very sick but I thought we would continue to fight this journey for several years at the very least. Love you loved ones and spend as much time with them because you never know when this will happen to you. He was my husband, my best friend, love, soul mate and the person over the last year that I have been honored to spend every day with. I wouldn't trade that for anything in this world. Thank you for your thoughts and prayers as I know we will need them in the coming days and weeks.

  • i_love_my_dad
    i_love_my_dad Member Posts: 20
    #16
    I am so sorry

    I am so sorry for your loss. I am not good at comforting people in English, but I believe he is not far away and he will be with you whenever you need him. He must be enjoying the life in heaven now with no pains or sorrow. He would love to see you live happily as well. And after many years you can meet him there, and tell him your stories. We have an old saying in my country “When one day has passed in the heaven, one year has passed in the living world”, so he will not feel lonely for long. I will pray for you and your family. 

  • toolman1
    toolman1 Member Posts: 44
    #17
    i_love_my_dad said:

    I am so sorry

    I am so sorry for your loss. I am not good at comforting people in English, but I believe he is not far away and he will be with you whenever you need him. He must be enjoying the life in heaven now with no pains or sorrow. He would love to see you live happily as well. And after many years you can meet him there, and tell him your stories. We have an old saying in my country “When one day has passed in the heaven, one year has passed in the living world”, so he will not feel lonely for long. I will pray for you and your family. 

    The Greatest Loss

    Sorry, just isn't enough, as it is over shadowed by the tears of loss. I recently lost  a very good friend just last week, (not cancer related). I find reassurance in knowing he's in a much better place now.  RIP my friends. You will be missed.

  • saintmont
    saintmont Member Posts: 63
    #18
    toolman1 said:

    The Greatest Loss

    Sorry, just isn't enough, as it is over shadowed by the tears of loss. I recently lost  a very good friend just last week, (not cancer related). I find reassurance in knowing he's in a much better place now.  RIP my friends. You will be missed.

    Sorry about your loss

    I was sorry to hear about your loss.

  • KJones1969
    KJones1969 Member Posts: 158
    #19
    i_love_my_dad said:

    I am so sorry

    I am so sorry for your loss. I am not good at comforting people in English, but I believe he is not far away and he will be with you whenever you need him. He must be enjoying the life in heaven now with no pains or sorrow. He would love to see you live happily as well. And after many years you can meet him there, and tell him your stories. We have an old saying in my country “When one day has passed in the heaven, one year has passed in the living world”, so he will not feel lonely for long. I will pray for you and your family. 

    Thank you i_love_my_dad

    Thank you so much. I know he is in heaven rejoicing and not in pain anymore but it is hard as heck being here and feeling like I am all alone. I was fortunate enough to be able to spend the last 2 years with him everyday not working and I miss my husband, my best friend, my soulmate, my lover. I pray he is okay and not lonely. I am sure there were a lot of people there waiting for him. Thanks for your prayers and I'll be praying for your family as well.

  • KJones1969
    KJones1969 Member Posts: 158
    #20
    toolman1 said:

    The Greatest Loss

    Sorry, just isn't enough, as it is over shadowed by the tears of loss. I recently lost  a very good friend just last week, (not cancer related). I find reassurance in knowing he's in a much better place now.  RIP my friends. You will be missed.

    toolman1

    Thanks you very much! I have lots of people tell me that it will get better with time, I am just wondering when that time will be. He is not in pain and in a better place and that brings me a little peace but am I selfish to wish he were here with me pain and all?

  • Eims
    Eims Member Posts: 423
    #21
    Karen,
    I am so sorry to hear

    Karen,

    I am so sorry to hear about your loss.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

    Eims x

     

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